I started this site over 1 year ago after joining a closed facebook group about Parents Healing from Parental Alienation.
However; I did not anticipate the response and reaction the website would receive. Within days dozens of alienated parents joined the forum and started following the site on a regular basis. We received many, many private messages of extremely sad cases of Parental Alienation from people all over the world. The group consists of over 1000 global members and increases daily!
I am 25 years down the road on my journey and well on the way to healing, but unfortunately for many it is just the beginning. The group offers a great support network for people who do not understand why this is happening and they can share experiences and their stories.
I am happy where I am and my life is busy and full of love. I want to continue to enjoy my life.
I have forgiven all the actions of others involved (but will not forget) and can do no more than that. I hope their lives are happy and full of love and that they can move forward with their own lives and not hang onto the negativity that lead them down this path.
So please use the resources on this site to gain a better understanding of your situation.
I hope every single one of you will reach the happy place where I am at the moment and that many of your children and grandchildren will come back to you one day.
Heres to love, forgiveness and hope.
Parental Alienation and Parental Kidnap infringe upon the rights of the child to know of its parentage and also exposes the child to potential emotional difficulties in later life, if the child is ever reconciled with the truth. Parental Alienation and Parental Kidnap serves only the emotional desires and wishes [not needs] of the custodial spouse, over the rights, needs and well-being of both the child and of the absent spouse and so, this is not prioritising the protection and the well-being of the child and is therefore in our opinion, a direct form of legalised child abuse.
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The choice1 to estrange from family is often portrayed as a simple and selfish act, but my research2 indicates that most people do not choose to estrange lightly or quickly: Estrangement is a process, not an event. People often say that they choose to estrange in order to regroup from stressful relationships or events, often believing that the distance will improve their health and wellbeing. (I shall discuss the causes of estrangement from the perspectives of both parties in another blog.)
People who choose to estrange often report long-term disconnection from the other party, and incidences of unacknowledged neglect, betrayal, and rejection ranging from minor incidents to severe abuse. People often choose to estrange when they feel there is nothing left to do, when their efforts at connection have been thwarted, or when they believe that the other party will not change or acknowledge wrongdoing.
Taken from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/family-conflict/201503/what-we-lose-and-gain-when-family-separates
Just arrived home after 15 days away from Facebook and all the things I don’t want to hear about my estranged children and grandchildren. Feeling loved, appreciated and energised after the break.
Remember its their choice not ours, we have not chosen alienation/estrangement (or whatever you may want to call it) they have.
We are not alienated parents – they are alienated children!!!!!
Don’t get sucked into the vortex – we cannot change it, so learn to live with it and enjoy each day.
Believe me the pain does go, yes I do miss them but I don’t hurt anymore. After 24 years on and off I have learnt to live with it and now enjoy a happy normal life – be kind to yourself – remember you have done nothing wrong.