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Parental mental health problems

The term ‘parental mental health problems’ means that a parent or carer has a diagnosable mental health condition. This can include:

  • depression
  • anxiety disorders
  • schizophrenia
  • bipolar disorder
  • personality disorders.

Living in a household where parents or carers have mental health problems does not mean that a child will experience abuse or even be affected negatively in any way.

The vast majority of parents with a mental health problem are able to give their children safe and loving care.

Sometimes parental mental health problems occur alongside other stressful life experiences, such as:

  • divorce or separation
  • unemployment
  • financial hardship
  • poor housing
  • discrimination
  • a lack of social support.

These issues may be a consequence of their illness, or may cause or make their condition worse. Together, these problems can make it very hard for parents to provide their children with the care that they need.

All types of mental health problem can vary in severity and will impact differently on people’s day to day lives.

This is dependent on the individual, their circumstances and the support they receive. Continue reading “Parental mental health problems”

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Identification of Children of Parents With Mental Illness

Worldwide around onev in five minor children has a parent with a mental illness (). In Norway it is estimated that 450,000 children have parents with a mental illness or substance use disorders (). These children are at high risk of developing a mental illness themselves ().

In a meta-analysis, () found that children of parents with a severe mental illness had a 50% chance of developing any mental illness, and 32% chance of developing a severe mental illness. In Norway, it has been estimated that children of parents with a mental illness (COPMI) have double the risk of both short-term and long-term negative consequences compared to children of parents without mental illnesses (). Elevated risk has been documented for COPMI across the diagnostic spectrum of mental disorders in parents, including schizophrenia () obsessive-compulsive disorder (), depression (), substance abuse disorders (), anxiety disorders (), bipolar disorder (), eating disorders (), personality disorders () and suicide (). The transmission of risk for psychopathology from parents to children is both diagnosis-specific such that children may develop the same mental illness as their parents, and general, such that children are at risk of developing a wide range of disorders (). Continue reading “Identification of Children of Parents With Mental Illness”

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The Connection Between Mental Illness and Substance Abuse

The National Bureau of Economic Research (NBER) reports that there is a “definite connection between mental illness and the use of addictive substances” and that mental health disorder patients are responsible for the consumption of:

  • 38 percent of alcohol
  • 44 percent of cocaine
  • 40 percent of cigarettes

NBER also reports that people who have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder at some point in their lives are responsible for the consumption of:

  • 69 percent of alcohol
  • 84 percent of cocaine
  • 68 percent of cigarettes

There’s clearly a connection between substance abuse and mental health disorders, and any number of combinations can develop, each with its own set of unique causes and symptoms, as well as its own appropriate intervention and Dual Diagnosis treatment methods. Which Dual Diagnosis treatment program is the best fit for your loved one? Continue reading “The Connection Between Mental Illness and Substance Abuse”

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I am divorcing a narcissist…

Accordingly to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, someone exhibiting five or more of the traits set out below can be suffering from a narcistic personality disorder:-

• A need for excessive attention and admiration.

• A sense of entitlement particularly to special treatment.

• A grandiose sense of self-importance.

• A pre-occupation of fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty or ideal love.

• A belief that one is special and can only be understood by or associated with special people or institutions.

• An exploitation of others.

• A lack of empathy.

• An envy of others or the belief that one is the object of envy.

• Arrogant behaviour or attitude. Continue reading “I am divorcing a narcissist…”

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The Child’s Experience of NPD Abuse

In private, NPD parents will present to the child as either over-controlling, totally neglectful and angry, or overly kind, giving, and generous. These presentations can alternate in rapid fashion, leaving the child constantly emotionally off balance. This is, in essence, a form of mind control and torture well known to survivors of POW camps. So the child is faced with a very narrow choice of how to respond: they can choose to submit in total compliance (and so lose their identity), wait patiently until they turn eighteen and then get as far from the parent as possible and try to find healing, or through constant exposure and training, become narcissistic adults themselves. The latter child may be treated like a little prince or princess by the parent, at the expense of any other siblings who have chosen a different path of coping.

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How a Parent’s Narcissistic Personality Disorder Affects Their Child

Young children of a mother or father who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder are genuine victims of their parent and the disorder—as much as any child who lives through life with an addicted parent, or one guilty of physical or sexual abuse. The narcissistic parent abuses in an intensely subtle and devious fashion: they are guilty of severe emotional and mental abuse, and no one outside of the family would ever suspect anything wrong. These child victims quite often go unnoticed, untreated, and unassisted by other adults outside of the immediate family. This is due to the nature of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

The overriding behavioral sign of a NPD parent is their almost total lack of concern for their child. On the surface, and in public, the NPD parent is often unnoticeable as an abusive person. Inside the family, there is no doubt for the child that there is something very, very wrong. In some cases, this parent will begin to ‘heat up’ and make mistakes that bring negative attention to them and shine a light on their NPD, but in most cases, the abuse continues for years unabated.

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When the NPD runs out of suppliers?

Usually meltdown and a lowering of standards. Any supply is better than none. When they are at this stage is when, my online research has suggested, it may be possible to nudge them towards professional help. About the only time. A good test for any NPD maybe is to suggest that they seek professional help. Their reaction should be volcanic.

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What happens to the narcissist when they run out of suppliers?

They go into a panic. Typically this is called a distablized narc.

Typically this is when they are so desperate for attention they make the biggest mistakes. They are ready to leave their primary supply due to the supply figuring them out or they are losing control.

This is when they actually can get played or hurt.

The narc always has supply but primary supply is needed at all times.

So the narc knows this is happening and does everything in their bag of tricks to keep you hooked or at bay while they frantically try and promote a secondary source.

Once this is accomplished they run and leave you in a world of pain and confusion. This has taken so much energy for the narc. The smear campaign they created while playing you and the other supply.

This is now such a desperation pick they begin to make very bad choices. This is where they get pregnant or married to the new supply within the first few months. They become financially reckless all in the name of control.

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Art psychotherapy evaluations of children in custody disputes

Child custody disputes and divorce affect over 1,200,OOO new families each year in the United States(Jacobs, 1986). On the basis of these numbers alone,divorce has become a major American sociocultural issue. Divorce is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but psychologically it is a chain of events,relocations and radically shifting relationships strung through time. This becomes a process that forever changes the lives of the people involved. Divorce can be a profound catalyst for psychological, social and economic change.This paper explores the art therapist’s role in the evaluation of children who are involved in custody litigation. Child placement in divorce and separation proceedings are never final and often are conditional.The lack of finality, which stems from the retention of jurisdiction over the custody decision, invites challenges by a disappointed or a disgruntled party claiming changed circumstances. This absence of finality,coupled with the concomitant increase in opportunities for appeal may very well be in conflict with the child’s need for continuity; nevertheless, it is the law.

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Family Assessments Using Art Developed by Psychologists

Family Assessments Using Art Developed by Psychologists Kinetic Family Drawing. The Kinetic Family Drawing (KFD) was developed by Burns and Kauffman in 1970 as a“children’s assessment to gather information on self-concept and interpersonal relationships”(Brooke, 2004, p. 32). It was initially designed to be an individual assessment, but it can provide information about the individual’s perceptions of their family dynamics. The drawing is completed on an 8.5×11 inch white piece of paper using a number two pencil. The instructions are as follows: “draw a picture of everyone in your family, including you, doing something. Try to draw whole people, not cartoons or stick people. Remember, make everyone doing something—some kind of action.” (Brooke, 2004, p. 32)