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‘My in-laws are toxic and my children are suffering’

“It will poison their relationship”

The internet were quick to speak out for the children, caught in the middle of this horrible situation.

“Your kids are old enough that they’ll have a say in whatever custody arrangements get finalised in your divorce, and what you’ve described here sounds like emotional abuse AND parental alienation, which judges don’t really like,” replied one person, suggesting the dad look at spending time with his children away from his family.

They also added, “If your kids have to be mistreated to see their Dad, it will poison their relationship with him no matter how great a parent he is individually.” Continue reading “‘My in-laws are toxic and my children are suffering’”

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Alienators think like criminals.

Behavior is a product of thinking. The following five “errors” characterize the cognitive processes of mothers and fathers who alienate a child from a parent. These same errors are inherent in the thought processes of murderers, arsonists, rapists, and other offenders. (People who do not have a criminal personality also make these errors in thinking, but not to the same degree.)

The following applies to both mothers and fathers.  It is not gender specific.  The pronoun “he” is used to avoid awkwardness in writing. Continue reading “Alienators think like criminals.”

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Sex differences in narcissism

In gender studies, the analysis of gender differences in narcissism shows that male narcissism and female narcissism differ in a number of aspects.

Jeffrey Kluger, in his 2014 book The Narcissist Next Door suggested that our society, still largely patriarchal, is more likely to tolerate male narcissism and aggressiveness than these of females.[1] This assertion was voiced, although without definite proof, by a number of other researchers.

In 2015 a number of media outlets reported[1][2] about a study at the University of Buffalo which analyzed 31 years of data of narcissism research and concluded that men consistently scored higher in the first two of three aspects of the Narcissistic Personality Inventoryleadership/authority, exploitative/entitlement, and grandiose/exhibitionism.[3][4] The team leader of the research, Emily Grijalva, commented that on average this difference is slight (a one-quarter of a standard deviation) and there was almost no difference in the exhibitionism dimension (which covers such aspects as vanity, self-absorption and attention-seeking). She notices that a similar degree of difference is observed for other personality traits, e.g., slightly higher neuroticism for women or slightly higher risk-taking for men.[5] The reasons of reported gender difference were outside the scope of the study, however the authors speculated that it is rooted in historically established social conventions about what is acceptable for a particular gender and what are the traditional social roles for genders.[5]

A number of earlier studies (on smaller scales) reported similar bias.[6] A further indication for the trend was a 2008 finding that the lifetime narcissistic personality disorder is more prevalent for men (7.7%) than for women (4.8%).[7]

In my experience the numbers are about the same, maybe the article should be updated. Continue reading “Sex differences in narcissism”

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High-Conflict Divorce: Antecedents and Consequences | Behavioral Health

High-conflict divorce can deeply affect the lives of parents and children. When parents separate, children can suffer emotionally, resulting in adverse developmental outcomes such as low self-worth and attention deficits. In cases of high-conflict divorce involving domestic violence or child abuse, heightened levels of childhood depression and anxiety can also result. These affective issues can contribute to significant distress for involved child throughout the lifespan. Given the adverse nature of high-conflict divorces, mental health professionals must provide appropriate interventions to ensure the welfare of children are a top priority.

Continue reading “High-Conflict Divorce: Antecedents and Consequences | Behavioral Health”