People with Cluster B personality disorders enjoy making other people feel worthless — especially on birthdays or holidays. Mean people love nothing more than stealing joy from an otherwise happy or sensitive-natured person. Don’t let the opinion of a manipulator or gaslighting con-artist’s angry, ugly, words ruin your mood. Their fundamentally toxic ill-fated projections (rather than goodwill sentiments or “happy” wishes) become a disappointing seasonal dysfunction lifestyle truth. Stand up for your own fundamental human rights to live, believe, and ENJOY whatever healthy idle amusement pleases, delights, and amuses you.
Worth a read. A good article which finally concludes that it’s not always the parents that are to blame but that children can grow up with ‘you didn’t put me first when society tells me I should be the centre of your universe and everyone else’s!’ attitude. Some recognition here that parents do not need more child guidance advice. They need help with coping with the blame their child dishes out.
Another good article written from the perspective of an estranged parent.
Are you narcissistic or just crazy?
Patients with narcissism disorder display “pathological” traits such as grandiosity, self-centeredness and a constant need for attention and admiration (the ego-feeding goodies known as “narcissistic supply”). Their relationships suffer as a result of impaired empathy, even as they rely heavily on others for “self-definition and self-esteem regulation.” Additional choice phrases from the DSM criteria include “excessively attuned to the reactions of others,” “goal-setting is based on gaining approval from others” and “firmly holding to the belief that one is better than others.”
As we wait to hear what happened in the federal case for Kelly Rutherford and her continued attempts to have her children returned to the US, it has given us food for thought on how there are 1000’s of you trying to co-parent with exes who for whatever reason just can’t bring themselves to the table and do what is right by the children. We are working with a number of parents, some on an International basis who feel like they are banging their heads on a brick wall when attempting to communicate with their exes on matters concerning their children.
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