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“You’re Dead To Me,” Why Estrangement Hurts So Much

During the early stages of researching family estrangement I received a phone call from a woman named Cathy*. She didn’t want to be a part of my research. She needed to tell me something. I didn’t realise how important or memorable it would be until I interviewed more and more people and the same theme emerged. She told me that she was a mother of two children – both were lost to her. One had died from cancer in his teens and the other had estranged in her early 20s. I will never forget her words: “The pain of your child dying is incredible, but losing a child to estrangement is unbearable– it hurts so, so much more”.  Taken from

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Post published by Kylie Agllias Ph.D. on Oct 03, 2014 in Family Conflict

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Understanding the 5 Most Common Causes of Estrangement

We’ll kick off a new webinar series this Tuesday MARCH 10TH at 530PM PDT, 830 EST (2015) with a FREE WEBINAR: WHAT COULD MY ESTRANGED CHILD POSSIBLY BE THINKING? Understanding the 5 Most Common Causes of Estrangement.

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Lost years can never be made up

The saddest thing for you is that if you have children, no matter their ages and or how close you may be at this time, by virtue of the fact that you have chosen this, you have now modeled behavior for your own children. They are very likely to dismiss you from their lives the same way they have witnessed you do it to your mother and/or father. Believe it. Case studies support this.

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To my father, and to every alienator

How beautifully written from the heart
“For now, my father, and every alienator, you are existing in a swath of protection, in a lie that tells you that you have won, that you are right. But that lie is fragile and weak and thin, and it covers your heart where the truth resides. That is what you don’t know; you don’t know the cost of being right, of winning.

I take comfort in knowing the truth. I have suffered great blows to my sense of self, but I love that I am a truth seeker. I am grateful that I am strong enough to face what is real.

I grew up afraid of you because I didn’t know then how weak and scared you really are. If you allow yourself to break apart, to see the truth, I will not say I told you so. Someday, maybe not in this lifetime, I will see the real you and I will recognize you as love.”
I am sure there are many of us out there that know an alienator similar to this – thank you for speaking your truth

Memories of an Alienated Daughter

Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” -Jesus

I know that no one is born revengeful or angry. I believe that people enter life as love.

I know that you were abused by your father, who was likely abused by his and so on. I know that his words probably did more damage than his fist- the way he told you that you were worthless, incapable, nothing. He didn’t see you, not really. He told you a lie.

I know that he abused your mother, my grandmother. She told me about the time when you were a teen and had enough of his wrath. The time, the hundredth time, he banged his fist and stood up at the dinner table; something trivial triggered his rage and when he leaned toward your mother, you stood to protect her.  You ran to grab the ax used for…

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PAS to be recognised officially as a medical ‘disease’ or a definable ‘syndrome’ in UK Law

Please sign the e- petition or create a new one to STOP Parental Alienation, unfortunately I cant sign being a French resident.

Please forward these details to as many people as possible who have been affected by Parental Alienation

#Parental #Alienation is a subtle manipulation of the children by one parent who, for their own ends, poisons the children’s minds against the other parent. 24% of UK children have no contact with one of their parents and the primary cause is parental alienation by the resident parent.