Attachment, Arousal, and Anxiety

The “house of psychopath” is constructed on a foundation of no attachment,

underarousal, and minimal anxiety. These appear to be necessary, related, but insufficient characteristics that provide certain biological predispositions for the development of the psychopathic character.

Attachment is a biologically-based, species-specific behavioral system which serves the survival of the infant by maintaining the closeness of the caretaker. First conceptualized and investigated by the British psychoanalyst John Bowlby and his colleagues (Robertson and Bowlby, 1952), it is deeply rooted in mammals, but absent in reptiles. The human infant first expresses his object-seeking through sucking and crying, behaviors which maintain his physiological balance by obtaining warmth, touch, and food. During the first few months of life, this proximity seeking becomes more object specific and emotionally refined as the infant attaches most readily to his mother, and cries when she deserts him while in a state of need, even if it is momentary. It is during this time when the rudiments of object permanence are first observed: the infant can anticipate the presence of an object that was just perceived, and squeals with delight when peek-a-boo is played; or when shown a photograph of mother in her absence, will react emotionally to an external image that is also found in the child’s mind.

As 3 psychoanalysts, we infer that this object representation can be held in the child’s mind as a memory for the first time, and is one manifestation of attachment.

Attachment is often defined as a strong affectional bond in both children and adults. It

was extensively researched during the last half century because it can be relatively easily measured: proximity seeking to an object, distress when the object leaves, and certain characteristic behaviors when the object returns. It is a stable characteristic in both children and adults, and most human beings with the requisite biology and loving, dependable parents will grow up to be able to form secure attachments throughout their lifespan (Cassidy and Shaver, 1999).

Pathologies of attachment, however, have been identified and measured: they are typically labeled fearful, preoccupied, disorganized, and dismissive (Meloy, 2002). Most salient to the psychopath’s mind is the latter pathology, characterized by behavior that indicates a chronic emotional detachment from others. Bowlby (1969) regarded the elements of detachment to be apathy, self-absorption, preoccupation with nonhuman objects, and no displays of emotion.

Definition of an unstable parent

To be able to prove he/she is mentally unstable you will need evidence. That evidence can come in many forms. testimony from a Guardian ad Litem, a treatment provider, witnesses to the behavior, police reports, and your own testimony.



The court should consider the factors set out below to determine the level of harm that has been caused or was intended to be caused to the victim.  Psychological, developmental or emotional harm
A finding that the psychological, developmental or emotional harm is serious may be based on a clinical diagnosis but the court may make such a finding based on other evidence from or on behalf of the victim that serious psychological, developmental or emotional harm exists. It is important to be clear that the absence of such a finding does not imply that the psychological, developmental or emotional harm suffered by the victim is minor or trivial.

Category 1

  • Serious psychological, developmental, and/or emotional harm
  • Serious physical harm (including illnesses contracted due to neglect)

Category 2

  • Cases falling between categories 1 and 3
  • A high likelihood of category 1 harm being caused

Category 3

Managing your own Anxiety


Reshaping the brain, re-opening to the world

The mind is its own place, and in itself
Can make a heaven of hell,
A hell of heaven.

DID YOU EVER WONDER, somewhat apprehensively, whether
your true inner Command Center rests in the complex biomechanics of your brain or the vast reaches of your mind? It
always seemed to me as inscrutable as asking which came first,
the chicken or the egg. But the study of neuroplasticity is changing the way scientists think about the mind/brain connection.
While they’ve known for years that the brain is the physical substrate for the mind, the central mystery of neuroscience is how
the mind influences the physical structure of the brain. In the
last few decades, thanks to PET and MRI imaging techniques,
scientists can observe what’s actually going on in the brain while
people sleep, work, make decisions, or attempt to function under
limitations caused by illness, accident, or war.

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Your mind is always listening

Your mind is always listening. The words you use determine your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.


Gestalt Therapy


The overall goal of an approach such as Gestalt Therapy is to help an individual develop a greater awareness of their thoughts, emotions, perceptions and understandings in terms of experience.

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Moving On


More beginnings than endings