Last post before Easter – May this blog give you all hope – HAPPY EASTER!!!!
Your kids deserve healthy relationships with both parents. If you’re trying to alienate your child from your ex for revenge or to make yourself the favourite parent, you’re hurting your child. You’re denying them healthy relationships with both parents.
And get this:
YOU WILL GET FOUND OUT.
YOU WON’T GET WAY WITH IT FOREVER.
Let me say this again: one day, your child will REALIZE what you have done. TRUST ME. They will know. It may take years, as with me, but they will work it out. Life experience will show them as they grow up watching interactions between people outside your family.
AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT.
You will get caught out.
If you’re lucky, they’ll forgive you but your relationship will never be the same again. They won’t trust YOU or love YOU in the same way ever again. If you’ve been rotten enough, you’ll never see them again.
At the very least, THEY’LL BE CLOSER TO THE OTHER PARENT!!! You will MAKE this happen yourself! By attempting to alienate them from your ex (or whoever), you will drive them into their arms in the end.
Take this from someone who knows. ME. I will never speak to my male parent again.
I thought the problems were all my fault: that I was the screw up. When one parent does their best to care for you, and the other one is acidic and merciless in their attack of that parent, causing you to doubt your own mind, your own memories and experience of that parent, what the hell are you supposed to do? I felt like I was out of my mind sometimes.
But I never was.
A counsellor told me the following: you’re not unstable, you were around unstable people.
NOW I know she was right, but I waited thirty years for those words. I thought I was evil and worthless and useless and ugly because of the words/lack of words of my parents. As I said previously, the alienator used every single situation he could find to denigrate my mother. She almost never said a word about him – so I believed him, not her. He said she was wicked, she never said she was not, so therefore my child’s mind believed him.
He thought it was hilarious.
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