That endless search for real support and understanding, with all its dead ends and wrong turns and disappointments, is why I do the work I do now.
I don’t want people coming into this world of Parental Alienation to find the no mans land I found.
I started this work, and I stay in this work, because how we deal with and talk about parental alienation matters. How we talk about love matters.
And how we talk to each other – matters.
I’m proud to be part of the parental alienation rebellion.
Parental Alienation is real. It devastates and destroys. Since starting this site 4 years ago more and more children, grown-up children, and targeted parents are coming forward to speak about their pain.
“The long-term implications [of alienation] are pretty severe,” says Amy J. L. Baker, Ph.D nationally recognized expert in parent child relationships,parental alienation syndrome, and emotional abuse of children.
There are two distinct aspects of PA; medical and legal. Medically PA is a form of emotional child abuse, Legally PA is recognised as a behavior pattern but often goes under other names such as ‘Coaching, Prejudicing, Rehearsing’ and synonyms of brainwashing. ‘Parental Alienation’ is emotional child abuse. The Health department has no clear definition of what ’emotional abuse’ is. Although recognised by the courts it is rarely acted upon because as a form of emotional abuse it is very difficult to define, and would require bringing in Social Services.
One of the tell-tale signs of Parental Alienation is when the alienating parent prevents the children from having any relationship with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins on the target parent’s side
The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child Article 9 (separation from parents) states that
- Children must not be separated from their parents against their will unless it is in their best interests (for example, if a parent is hurting or neglecting a child).
- Children whose parents have separated have the right to stay in contact with both parents, unless this could cause them harm.
I lived in a village for 18 years where people who knew both me and my children over a long period of time chose to stick their heads in the sand and deny anything was happening. I think any parent, grandparent, doctor, teacher, social worker and any other professionals etc that witnessing this “campaign of denigration” against a targeted parent should take action and contact social services or the NSPCC to prevent further abuse.If they choose to ignore it they are in effect acting as proxy alienators themselves further cementing the alienation.
If I can help prevent just one more child or one more adult suffering the heartache and psychological damage that PA creates then my efforts have not been in vain.