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Why Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers Sabotage Themselves

How to thrive:

Get real with yourself about which dreams are yours and which ones are derived from the expectations of your narcissistic father. Did you go to medical school just to please your toxic parent, even though your heart, mind, body and soul ached to be a musician or artist? Did you abandon your dream of becoming a professional dancer just because your narcissistic father pushed you to go to law school? Make a list of aspirations you were never allowed to pursue due to the influence of your toxic parent, as well as any ideologies or beliefs they imposed upon you that you no longer wish to follow. It’s never too late to pursue your authentic calling, even if it means reengaging in your passions on the side.

Start recalling the compliments others have given you and instead of dismissing them; begin to integrate them into your own self-perception. Maybe you really are a successful person as your friend says, even though your narcissistic father always berated you for not achieving this or that.

Start to celebrate your accomplishments, instead of minimizing them. Daughters of any type of narcissistic parent are used to being criticized at every turn and subjected to moving goal posts that make pleasing their parents impossible. It’s time to start validating what you’ve accomplished so far in your life – whether it be success in your relationships, career, self-development or all three.

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/06/why-daughters-of-narcissistic-fathers-sabotage-themselves-daddy-issues-part-5/

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I learned what I know about narcissism the hard way

I learned what I know about narcissism the hard way, by having two narcissistic parents. I’ve seen that there are two flavors of narcissist, overt versus covert. (That’s a huge topic I will cover in depth separately.) My parents were one of each, so I know that my observations apply to both kinds.

People debate whether narcissists are so lacking in self-awareness that they are incapable of owning the harm they cause. I believe this discussion continues mostly because narcissists are dishonest, selfish, and manipulative, often seeking to cast themselves as the real victims and demanding the benefit of the doubt especially when none is due.

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Help with Parental Alienation

Reiki Healer – Linda Turner

Fully qualified  Reiki Master – 5 years

Reiki Lineage available

Reiki practitioners use a technique called palm healing or hands-on healing through which a “universal energy” is said to be transferred through the palms of the practitioner to the patient in order to encourage emotional or physical healing.

Reiki Lineage refers to the Reiki Masters that have descended from Dr Mikao Usui. All lineages must be able to trace their roots back to Dr Usui, clearly stating the names of all the Reiki Masters along the way.


Councelling Skills Diploma – Linda Turner

Counselling can help you cope with:

Parental Alienation
Bereavement
Relationship breakdown
Mental health condition
Depression
Anxiety
Eating disorder
Upsetting physical health condition
Difficult life event
Stress
Difficult emotions
Low self-esteem
Anger

What to expect from counselling
At your appointment, you’ll be encouraged to talk about your feelings and emotions with a trained therapist, who’ll listen and support you without judging or criticising.

The therapist can help you gain a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, and find your own solutions to problems. But they won’t usually give advice or tell you what to do.

Counselling can take place:

Online through live chat services -whats app or Skype sessions
Face to face
In a group
Over the phone
By email


Qualified Cognitive behavioural therapist (CBT) – Linda Turner

The aim of CBT is to help you explore and change how you think about your life, and free yourself from unhelpful patterns of behaviour.

You set goals with your therapist and may carry out tasks between sessions.

A course usually involves around 12 to 20 sessions.

CBT has been shown to work for a variety of mental health problems, including:

Depression
Anxiety
Panic attacks
Phobias
Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Some eating disorders, especially bulimia


Currently studying NLP Practitioner – Linda Turner

In short, an NLP Practitioner is a highly useful and resourceful Coach who uses the methodology of NLP in a professional way to help others.


 

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What Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy can offer in the Anthropocene | Aeon

When identifying meaninglessness, it would be a mistake to find it within the individual who suffers. Frankl’s fellow prisoners weren’t responsible for the concentration camps, just as somebody born into a cycle of poverty isn’t at fault, nor is any one of us (unless you happen to be an oil executive) the cause of our collapsing ecosystem. Nothing in logotherapy implies acceptance of the status quo, for the struggle to alter political, material, social, cultural and economic conditions is paramount. What logotherapy offers is something different, a way to envision meaning, despite things not being in your control. In his preface to the book’s 2006 edition, Rabbi Harold Kushner glosses Frankl’s argument by saying that: ‘Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.’

Far from being obsessed with the meaning of life, logotherapy demands that patients orient themselves to the idea of individual meaning, to ‘think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly’, as Frankl writes. Logotherapy – asking patients to clear an imaginative space to orient themselves towards some higher meaning – provides a response to intolerable situations.

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New powers will be given to the watchdog Ofcom to force social media firms to act over harmful content.

New powers will be given to the watchdog Ofcom to force social media firms to act over harmful content.

Until now, firms like Facebook, Tiktok, YouTube, Snapchat and Twitter have largely been self-regulating.

The companies have defended their own rules about taking down unacceptable content, but critics say independent rules are needed to keep people safe.

It is unclear what penalties Ofcom will be able to enforce to target violence, cyber-bullying and child abuse.

There have been widespread calls for social media firms to take more responsibility for their content, especially after the death of Molly Russell who took her own life after viewing graphic content on Instagram.

The government has now announced it is “minded” to grant new powers to Ofcom – which currently only regulates the media and the telecoms industry, not internet safety.

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Eliminate Emotional Parasites

Emotional parasites are people who emotionally feed off another without regard to their host’s emotional well being. Emotional parasites emotionally consume their host. We all know someone who engages in parasitic behavior. You know they are emotional parasites, if after any amount of time spent with them, you feel exhausted and drained afterwards. These people overly indulge in “I” and “me” sentences. They monopolize 90% of a conversation. They seldom have time for you or your issues. Emotional reciprocity doesn’t exist in the relationship. They are overly needy and interpersonally clingy.

Not all, emotional parasites, are clinging ivies. Some are professional successes and display a facade of self-confidence. They can still engage in chronic parasitic behavior. They usually have one or two favorite hosts, but actually anyone who will listen to them and not demand anything in return will suffice.

If the griever has friends or even family members who emotionally drain them – suggest avoidance. Grievers are entitled to protect themselves. Offer the griever the one-liners below to escape from emotional parasites: Continue reading “Eliminate Emotional Parasites”

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The Human Leech

Although narcissists would never admit it, they are by nature dependent on other people for their emotional survival. If they were loners, many lives would be spared immeasurable misery. But narcissists actively, persistently pursue others to obtain their “narcissistic supply,” or sense of worth in life. The narcissist as human parasite usually takes a heavy emotional and physiological toll on her “suppliers.”

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention defines a parasite as follows:

“A parasite is an organism that lives on or in a host and gets its food from or at the expense of its host. Parasites can cause disease in humans.”

Understanding narcissism through the lens of parasitism explains their need to “feed” on others as a means of supply. The individual with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) suffers from a destabilized identity and sense of inferiority based in the formative years of childhood. He attempts to adapt by projecting a “superior” persona. But he is always seeking the validation he did not receive at crucial developmental stages as a young and relatively unformed person. His incomplete sense of being compels him to seek self-worth elsewhere, either by aligning himself with high-status people and/or by devaluing and dissociating from those who either threaten his false persona or who somehow “lower” his status.

Like most parasites, narcissists rarely kill their hosts (although malignant ones may subject them to extreme violence). But like the mind-altering variety of parasite, the narcissist works to control the “brains” of her suppliers through a wide range of manipulations, from bullying to projecting, denying to gaslighting, guilt-tripping to silent-treatment. The narcissist continuously orchestrates the “reality” around her by enlisting others in supporting her delusions of grandeur and punishing and/or rejecting them if they do not comply. To the narcissist, her spouse questioning an opinion she has declared as patented truth or her child not making the soccer team are potential humiliations to which she may react with scorn or rage. In the parasitic narcissist’s eyes, both situations weaken the desirability of her “hosts,” or sources of supply, and thereby threaten her sense of well-being.

 

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A PERSON WHO HABITUALLY RELIES ON OR EXPLOITS OTHERS AND GIVES NOTHING IN RETURN

  1. A PERSON WHO HABITUALLY RELIES ON OR EXPLOITS OTHERS AND GIVES NOTHING IN RETURN

There are many family dynamics and each family is unique. There are no perfect families and no way to make any family perfect. However, though all families will have some problems, there are some that harbor toxic, nigh-unshakable parasites — the ones with the most power in the family: the parents.

The first thing to note about all of these conditions is the parents’ inability to care about their child past their own wishes. In all of these scenarios, the parents wish to be taken care of or be paid attention to. If the parent(s), someone who should be giving unconditional love, is unable to or unwilling to give this care or love, then not only do the children suffer but the spouse may also be affected, if they are not also a parasitic parent. Let’s look at a couple of conditions that may cause this undesirable toxic relationship not only between parent and child but also between spouses. Today, I will be breaching the sacred pedestal of parenthood, and especially, the immunity of mothers.

As a side note, I want to say that I have experience with my mother in regards to having a narcissistic parent. In her case, she was a covert narcissist and although I always knew there was something not quite right about the things she was doing and saying, I didn’t have a name for it until a few years ago. I am glad that I am still young and that I was luckily out of her influence during some of my critical periods as a child (I lived with my grandparents as a young child before coming back to America to start kindergarten).

https://inquisitiveoutlet.com/2017/11/13/a-backwards-relationship-parasitic-parents/

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12 Steps to Rekindle a Marriage After Separation | Marriage.com

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So you find yourself in that scary place called separation and perhaps you are wondering how to rekindle a marriage after separation.

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Women’s Relationships Today Follow A Very Predictable Pattern:

  • They push males for commitment
  • They get what they want
  • They lose interest in sex
  • They become attracted to someone else
  • They start cheating
  • THEY EXPERIENCE AN IDENTITY CRISIS
  • They become angry and resentful
  • They begin telling their partners that they need time apart 
  • They blame their partners for their behavior…and eventually, after a long time of vacillating back and forth and several failed attempts to give up their affairs, they end their relationships or marriages.           

Betrayed Husband…

If you’re a man, like most men, you probably didn’t see your wife’s affair coming, not only because of your wife’s seeming disinterest in sex; but also because you have the belief that your wife is a “good girl.” In fact, up until very recently, men were regularly divorced by their wives without ever knowing about their wives’ affairs and infidelities.

Woman In Limbo…

If you’re a woman, like most women, prior to cheating on your husband, you always proclaimed yourself to be “not the type” who would ever cheat.  However, also like most women, AFTER they’ve cheated, you’re shocked and disturbed by your behavior; but at the same time —you can’t stop cheating — or — let go of the idea of a new relationship

http://womensinfidelity.com/wife-separation.html?gclid=Cj0KCQiA7OnxBRCNARIsAIW53B-ZNUMzyMdPYXXAZnbgl0y8BZBIafv5rB7vZKCxp_tKT24ij9j1-KEaApN-EALw_wcB