How to thrive:
Get real with yourself about which dreams are yours and which ones are derived from the expectations of your narcissistic father. Did you go to medical school just to please your toxic parent, even though your heart, mind, body and soul ached to be a musician or artist? Did you abandon your dream of becoming a professional dancer just because your narcissistic father pushed you to go to law school? Make a list of aspirations you were never allowed to pursue due to the influence of your toxic parent, as well as any ideologies or beliefs they imposed upon you that you no longer wish to follow. It’s never too late to pursue your authentic calling, even if it means reengaging in your passions on the side.
Start recalling the compliments others have given you and instead of dismissing them; begin to integrate them into your own self-perception. Maybe you really are a successful person as your friend says, even though your narcissistic father always berated you for not achieving this or that.
Start to celebrate your accomplishments, instead of minimizing them. Daughters of any type of narcissistic parent are used to being criticized at every turn and subjected to moving goal posts that make pleasing their parents impossible. It’s time to start validating what you’ve accomplished so far in your life – whether it be success in your relationships, career, self-development or all three.Continue reading “Why Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers Sabotage Themselves”