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The Impact of Being Raised by a BPD Parent

The Challenge: A borderline personality disordered (BPD) individual has a very fragile and unpredictable personality. They may be highly educated and have very successful careers. However, they struggle with interpersonal relationships because they are too fragile to be effective. They are very much like emotional children locked in an adult body, expected to function in adult relationships. When things are going their way, they can be delightful and charming. As soon as they do not get their way, or someone crosses them, they will quickly resort to destructive means to stabilize their fragile sense of self.

Coping Mechanisms: The BPD’s greatest fear is to be abandoned and they will do just about anything to avoid the crushing blow of perceived rejection. They must feel they are loved at all times. They will create dependency in their child and will have difficulty seeing their child as separate. Sadly they “split” which means they view others, including their children, as either all good or all bad.

They do not allow themselves to acknowledge anything in the “gray” area of life where most of reality exists. For example, if their child loves the other parent, then the BPD parent will over-react and believe they are being rejected by their child. They teach their child that if they want to feel safe then they have to adore them. They make it known in every possible way that “You are for me or you are against me.” If there is more than one child, the BPD parent may even idealize one child and reject the other.

The Impact of Being Raised by a Borderline Personality Disordered Parent

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What causes borderline personality disorder?

At present, it is not known precisely what causes BPD. Experts believe it is likely that the condition arises through a combination of factors; it appears that people can be genetically predisposed to developing BPD, with environmental factors increasing the risk.

Three factors have been identified as being likely to play a part in the development of BPD:

  • Genetics: studies of twins with BPD suggest that a predisposition to the condition is inherited. Research has also shown that certain personality traits such as impulsiveness can also be inherited.
  • Environmental (social) factors: unstable family relationships, child abuse and neglect have been associated with an increased risk of BPD. Poor judgement regarding lifestyle choices can also be a risk factor.
  • Brain abnormalities: BPD has been associated in studies with changes to certain parts of the brain involved in the regulation of emotion. Improper functioning of certain brain chemicals involved in mood regulation, such as serotonin, may also be involved in BPD.

There is also an established link between BPD and other mental disorders. Many people with BPD have an immediate relative that has a mental illness. Related disorders that people with BPD and their relatives are more likely to develop include ADHD,bipolar disorder, depression and schizophrenia.