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The Brain

Medical professionals have know for a long time that stroke victims brain “re-wires” its self with therapy. Your thoughts can also change your brain.

When you learn new information and new skills your brain changes. Learning to learn is very important and not every one learns the same way. Some styles are better than others for different people. For example some people need to see the whole picture in order to start absorbing the information properly while others need more of a step by step approach. It’s important that you work on your learning skills and identify what works best for you quickly in order to make it as efficient, easy, and enjoyable as possible.

Learning new skills, new subjects, new games, and playing a variety of games, improving your skill level and intensity, pushing yourself and your comfort zone to learn things that are not familiar to you and that are different will all help to enhance your brain. More examples of skills you can learn are learning a new sport or a new dance, a new language, more vocabulary, and a new musical instrument.

You can also improve or train your logical thinking, creativity, strategic and analysis thinking, problem and puzzle solving skills, pattern recognition and detection, power of deduction, categorizing and comparing skills.

The brain changes or can be changed. Other example are the cab drivers, see the above video, who’s brain memory areas have increased in size and in another study people who had been sleep deprived brain MRI was similar to that of a psychotic person. Psychological disorders, like depression, can also be induced.

Multiple Intelligence Theory

Linguistic intelligence

Logical and Mathematical intelligence

Musical intelligence

Bodily Kinesthetic intelligence

Spatial intelligence

Interpersonal intelligence

Naturalistic intelligence Continue reading “The Brain”

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Karpman Drama Triangle -Dr. Karpman

In it I take you on a behavioral psychology journey through dozens of examples of stressful drama triangles in multiple familiar settings, including dysfunctional families, alcoholism, games in the courtroom, bedroom, and classroom, including the four rules of escalation, games of power and abuse in the workplace and at home including child and elder abuse.  Many counseling psychology escapes are outlined to gain healthy relationships including the varied use of the ego states options, the OK Corral, and the new Compassion Triangle option.

Then from the outer personality drama triangles we go deeper to the inner personality drama triangles illustrating the feeling rackets using the inside of the triangle and including thirty pages of new family script theory and examples with an ending at the biological and evolutionary level drama triangles.

The second half of the book shows how to build healthy relationships at home and at work with the openness, listening, and accountability theory with examples; the four intimacy blocks and three sexual blocks; Argument Analysis; The Six Fightmakers; The Listeners Loop; The Information Iceberg; and the positive model of the Five Trust Contracts for Couples and ending with the Happiness and Intimacy Formula.



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The drama triangle

The drama triangle (first described by Stephen Karpman in 1961) is used in psychology to describe the insidious way in which we present ourselves as “victims,” “persecutors” and “rescuers.” Although all three are ‘roles’ and none may be true to who we really are, we can all get caught in a cycle that is hard to escape.


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Self Respect

          • The practice of living consciously.
          • The practice of self-acceptance.
          • The practice of self-responsibility.
          • The practice of self-assertiveness.
          • The practice of living purposefully.
          • The practice of personal integrity.


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Whatever problem you’re having, you’re going to have to fix it yourself

You need to accept the following.

  • Whatever problem you’re having, you’re going to have to fix it yourself.
  • Whatever it is that you want from life, you’re going to have to go out there and get it yourself.
  • Things are not going to happen by themselves; you have to make things happen.

Below you’ll read about Brian Tracy’s realization that no one was coming to the rescue, the importance of self-reliance for your self-esteem, and how you have to help yourself before you’ll get any help from others.


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Independence- An individual’s relative freedom from the felt-need for positive response. That is, the independent person is one who does not often feel the need to rely on others for emotional support, encouragement, reassurance, comfort, and so forth. Emotionally healthy individuals are able to make these
bids from time to time as needed. The important issue is how often and how intensely they feel the need for such positive response. Independence is distinguished in PARTheory from self-reliance

taken from Concepts In Parental Acceptance-Rejection Theory (PARTheory)

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Dependence-The internal, psychologically felt wish or yearning for emotional (vs. instrumental or task oriented) support, care, comfort, attention, nurturance, and similar responses from significant others.

Dependence in PARTheory also refers to the actual behavioral bids individuals make for such responsiveness. For young children these bids may include clinging to parents, whining or crying when parents unexpectedly depart, and seeking physical proximity with them when they return. Older children and adults may express their need for positive response more symbolically especially in times of distress by seeking reassurance, approval, or support, as well as comfort, affection, or solace from people who are important to them particularly from parents for youths, and from on parental significant others for adults.

Dependence in PARTheory is construed as a continuum, with independence defining one end of the continuum and dependence the other.

taken from Concepts In Parental Acceptance-Rejection Theory (PARTheory)

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Defensive independence

Defensive independence– The commonplace tendency for seriously rejected persons to make fewer and fewer bids over time for positive response because of their growing anger and increasing emotional unresponsiveness. Many defensively independent persons say, in effect, “To hell with you! I don’t need you. I don’t need anybody!” Defensive independence is one way many rejected persons attempt to defend themselves against further hurt of rejection in situations over which they feel they have little control. Defensive independence is like healthy independence in that individuals make relatively few behavioral bids for positive response. But it is unlike healthy independence in that defensively independent people continue to emotionally crave positive response, though they sometimes do not recognize it. Indeed, because of the overlay of anger, distrust, and other negative emotions generated by chronic rejection, defensively independent individuals often actively deny their need for support, encouragement, sympathy, love, and other forms of positive response.

taken from Concepts In Parental Acceptance-Rejection Theory (PARTheory)

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Beliefs and values are not fixed for life

Beliefs and values are not fixed for life.

You can change them along the way using the skills of NLP.