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Emotional Healing Retreat


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The Most Powerful Way to Save People…From Themselves

But there are some things that are extremely difficult to save people from: misleading beliefs, addictions, suicidal ideation, mental illness, etc. These situations are sticky because much of what these sufferers need saving from is…well, themselves.

But no one likes to relinquish a familiar and comfortable part of themselves, even if that part happens to be poisoning them from the inside out.

That’s why it’s infernally difficult to save some people.

Still, even in these complex cases, people can be and are saved. People can be changed. Hence the existence of therapists, suicide hotlines, books, researchers, and more —

Sometimes these things help. Sometimes they don’t. Continue reading “The Most Powerful Way to Save People…From Themselves”

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“Why?” is the most useless question in the universe.
The only question with any meaning is “What?”

Asking “Why is this happening?” can only disempower you.
Asking “What do I want to make of this?”does exactly the opposite.

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HELP – mental health problems

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger

  • Provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK if you are experiencing a mental health crisis
  • If you need urgent help text YM to 85258
  • All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors
  • Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.


Mental health information, support and rights on the website.
Two helplines are available, Infoline and Legal Advice, Monday to Friday, 09:00-18:00
Infoline can provide information on: types of mental health problem, where to get help, drug &
alternative treatments and advocacy.

  • Infoline: 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 09:00-18:00)
  • Text: 86463 (09:00-18:00)
  • Email:
  • Legal Advice line provides legal information and general advice on mental health related law covering:mental health, mental capacity, community care, human rights and discrimination/equality related to mental health issues. Call 0300 466 6463 (Monday to Friday, 09:00-18:00)
  • Email:


  • Provides care and emotional support for people affected by mental illness, their families and carers
  • SANEline: 0300 304 7000 (16:30-22:30 every day)
  • Peer support Forum


Provides mental health advice, information and support plus local service finder.

Al-Anon Family Groups UK & Eire

  • Support for anyone whose life is affected by someone else’s drinking.
  • Helpline: 020 7403 0888
  • Local meetings search feature on their website
  • Al-anon also offers Alateen – a separate support service for 12-17 year olds, who have a problem drinker in their lives
  • Infoline: 020 7593 2070

Nacoa (National Association for Children of Alcoholics)

  • Information, advice and support for everyone affected by a parent’s drinking.
  • Helpline: 0800 358 3456 (Fri, Sat, Mon -12:00-19:00; Tue, Wed, Thu –12:00-21:00)
  • Email:

Scottish Association for Mental Health

  • Scotland’s leading mental health charity providing information and support services.


  • Provides free, safe, anonymous online support for young people – counselling, messaging, personal stories. Only available in certain parts of England and Wales.


  • Children can confidentially call, email, or chat online about any problem big or small.
  • Freephone helpline: 0800 1111 (open 24hrs)
  • Sign up for a childline account to message a counsellor anytime without email.
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Taking care of your mental health during lockdown

Being a parent can be challenging in everyday situations. Now, more than ever, taking care of your mental health is important. Staying at home more or having to work during a difficult situation can put different pressures on everyone. And if you’re struggling, it’s okay to reach out for support from friends, families and organisations that are here to help .

Changes to our mental health can sometimes affect children and their well-being. They may pick up on your anxiety or low mood. This doesn’t mean you should hide or minimise your feelings. You can try to explain them using phrases like, “It’s ok to get big feelings, everyone gets big feelings but it’s still the grown up’s job to look after the children” or “If grown-up’s get big feelings it’s not your fault – we can ask other grown-ups for help with our feelings.”

When things are different to what we’re used to and everyone is going through a big change, it’s important to give children reassurance and support. Looking after your own mental health is vital to their well-being so don’t be afraid to try new things together or feel worried about doing something for yourself to take care of your own well-being. And reach out if you need help. Our helpline counsellors are here, whatever your worry. You can call them on 0808 800 5000 or email

Continue reading “Taking care of your mental health during lockdown”

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Parental mental health problems

The term ‘parental mental health problems’ means that a parent or carer has a diagnosable mental health condition. This can include:

  • depression
  • anxiety disorders
  • schizophrenia
  • bipolar disorder
  • personality disorders.

Living in a household where parents or carers have mental health problems does not mean that a child will experience abuse or even be affected negatively in any way.

The vast majority of parents with a mental health problem are able to give their children safe and loving care.

Sometimes parental mental health problems occur alongside other stressful life experiences, such as:

  • divorce or separation
  • unemployment
  • financial hardship
  • poor housing
  • discrimination
  • a lack of social support.

These issues may be a consequence of their illness, or may cause or make their condition worse. Together, these problems can make it very hard for parents to provide their children with the care that they need.

All types of mental health problem can vary in severity and will impact differently on people’s day to day lives.

This is dependent on the individual, their circumstances and the support they receive. Continue reading “Parental mental health problems”

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Parental mental illness

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Mental Illness in Families

Mental illnesses in parents represent a risk for children in the family. These children have a higher risk for developing mental illnesses than other children. When both parents are mentally ill, the chance is even greater that the child might become mentally ill.

The risk is particularly strong when a parent has one or more of the following: Bipolar Disorder, an anxiety disorder, ADHD, schizophrenia, alcoholism or other drug abuse, or depression. Risk can be inherited from parents, through the genes.

An inconsistent, unpredictable family environment also contributes to psychiatric illness in children. Mental illness of a parent can put stress on the marriage and affect the parenting abilities of the couple, which in turn can harm the child.

Some protective factors that can decrease the risk to children include:

  • Knowledge that their parent(s) is ill and that they are not to blame
  • Help and support from family members
  • A stable home environment
  • Psychotherapy for the child and the parent(s)
  • A sense of being loved by the ill parent
  • A naturally stable personality in the child
  • Positive self esteem
  • Inner strength and good coping skills in the child
  • A strong relationship with a healthy adult
  • Friendships, positive peer relationships
  • Interest in and success at school
  • Healthy interests outside the home for the child
  • Help from outside the family to improve the family environment (for example, marital psychotherapy or parenting classes)

Medical, mental health or social service professionals working with mentally ill adults need to inquire about the children and adolescents, especially about their mental health and emotional development. If there are serious concerns or questions about a child, it may be helpful to have an evaluation by a qualified mental health professional. Continue reading “Mental Illness in Families”

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Identification of Children of Parents With Mental Illness

Worldwide around onev in five minor children has a parent with a mental illness (). In Norway it is estimated that 450,000 children have parents with a mental illness or substance use disorders (). These children are at high risk of developing a mental illness themselves ().

In a meta-analysis, () found that children of parents with a severe mental illness had a 50% chance of developing any mental illness, and 32% chance of developing a severe mental illness. In Norway, it has been estimated that children of parents with a mental illness (COPMI) have double the risk of both short-term and long-term negative consequences compared to children of parents without mental illnesses (). Elevated risk has been documented for COPMI across the diagnostic spectrum of mental disorders in parents, including schizophrenia () obsessive-compulsive disorder (), depression (), substance abuse disorders (), anxiety disorders (), bipolar disorder (), eating disorders (), personality disorders () and suicide (). The transmission of risk for psychopathology from parents to children is both diagnosis-specific such that children may develop the same mental illness as their parents, and general, such that children are at risk of developing a wide range of disorders (). Continue reading “Identification of Children of Parents With Mental Illness”

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The Connection Between Mental Illness and Substance Abuse

The National Bureau of Economic Research (NBER) reports that there is a “definite connection between mental illness and the use of addictive substances” and that mental health disorder patients are responsible for the consumption of:

  • 38 percent of alcohol
  • 44 percent of cocaine
  • 40 percent of cigarettes

NBER also reports that people who have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder at some point in their lives are responsible for the consumption of:

  • 69 percent of alcohol
  • 84 percent of cocaine
  • 68 percent of cigarettes

There’s clearly a connection between substance abuse and mental health disorders, and any number of combinations can develop, each with its own set of unique causes and symptoms, as well as its own appropriate intervention and Dual Diagnosis treatment methods. Which Dual Diagnosis treatment program is the best fit for your loved one? Continue reading “The Connection Between Mental Illness and Substance Abuse”