Self Help Category

Managing your own Anxiety

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Integrating Therapy with Science

n the past 3 decades, we have learned an enormous amount about brain functions and interpersonal attachment systems. This new knowledge has not always been systematically applied to help traumatized children and adults heal from trauma. Dr. van der Kolk’s work is focused on integrating therapy with science. Dr. van der Kolk has published over […]

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We all have Narcissistic Traits

If everyone who experienced something from a Narc they did not like every single person would be single, childless, friendless and lonely!

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Consider Doing an Experiment

Consider Doing an Experiment What could it hurt to try something different? Just for a month? If it doesn’t work, you can always go back to the way things were just before you read this blog. I know it may feel like a departure from reality to act like he’s not disordered and start expecting […]

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Why does the couple appear so happy?

The usual reason is that one or both of them are faking happiness. Higher functioning people with NPD are quite capable of bringing their mate to tears before the two leave for a party or dinner with another couple, and then spend the rest of the evening pretending all is well.  Both members of the couple […]

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Can a Narcissist Have a Happy Marriage?

Many people with narcissistic personality disorder appear to be in a successful and happy marriage.  Their social media posts show them laughing together over a special dinner, walking hand-in-hand along the beach, and even renewing their marriage vows in front of friends and family.  Should we believe the pictures?  Can a narcissist have a happy marriage? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/202007/can-narcissist-have-happy-marriage

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Finding the right kind of therapy

There are a few types of therapy that are particularly useful for dealing with narcissism. Schema therapy, a newer approach to treatment shown to have benefit for treating narcissism, works to help people address trauma of early experiences that may have contributed to narcissistic defenses. Other beneficial therapies include: Gestalt therapy mentalization-based therapy transference-focused psychotherapy […]

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Things Your Marriage Counselor Is Thinking But Not Telling You

Stop trying to change your partner. … Stop withholding sex. … Don’t invite your smartphone into your relationship. … Stop trying to make your spouse look bad. … Don’t try to solve all your problems while you’re angry. … If you cheated, stop pretending you did nothing wrong. … Don’t spend your whole therapy session […]

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DIY Marriage Counseling

In our recent in-depth article on marriage counseling, we mentioned that marriage therapy is one of the most difficult counseling disciplines—not even all fully licensed and trained counselors do it well. How can you expect to do it well on your own? Simply put, you can’t. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t things you can do on your own […]

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