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Powerful, Positive Change

When we try to break a habit or make a change in our lives, we all make the same mistake. Do you often wonder why you can never stick to the diet for long? Or why you can’t seem to stop the negative thinking for good? It is not your fault.

Stop focusing on changing your behavior and discover what you should be focusing on instead for powerful, positive change that lasts.

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Yin and Yang

In Daoist philosophy, dark and light, yin and yang, arrive in the Tao Te Ching at chapter 42.[23]  It becomes sensible from an initial quiescence or emptiness (wuji, sometimes symbolized by an empty circle), and continues moving until quiescence is reached again. For instance, dropping a stone in a calm pool of water will simultaneously raise waves and lower troughs between them, and this alternation of high and low points in the water will radiate outward until the movement dissipates and the pool is calm once more. Yin and yang thus are always opposite and equal qualities. Further, whenever one quality reaches its peak, it will naturally begin to transform into the opposite quality: for example, grain that reaches its full height in summer (fully yang) will produce seeds and die back in winter (fully yin) in an endless cycle.

It is impossible to talk about yin or yang without some reference to the opposite, since yin and yang are bound together as parts of a mutual whole (for example, there cannot be the bottom of the foot without the top). A way to illustrate this idea is[citation needed] to postulate the notion of a race with only women or only men; this race would disappear in a single generation. Yet, women and men together create new generations that allow the race they mutually create (and mutually come from) to survive. The interaction of the two gives birth to things, like manhood.[24] Yin and yang transform each other: like an undertow in the ocean, every advance is complemented by a retreat, and every rise transforms into a fall. Thus, a seed will sprout from the earth and grow upwards towards the sky—an intrinsically yang movement. Then, when it reaches its full potential height, it will fall. Also, the growth of the top seeks light, while roots grow in darkness.

Certain catchphrases have been used to express yin and yang complementarity:[25]

  • The bigger the front, the bigger the back.
  • Illness is the doorway to health.
  • Tragedy turns to comedy.
  • Disasters turn out to be blessings.


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Definition of strengths and virtues

CSV identifies six classes of virtue (i.e. “core virtues”) comprising 26 measurable “character strengths”. The organization of the six virtues and 26 strengths is as follows:

  1. Wisdom and Knowledge: creativitycuriosityopen-mindednesslove of learningperspectiveinnovation
  2. Courage: braverypersistenceintegrityvitalityzest
  3. Humanity: lovekindnesssocial intelligence
  4. Justice: citizenshipfairnessleadership
  5. Temperance: forgiveness and mercyhumilityprudenceself control
  6. Transcendence: appreciation of beauty and excellencegratitudehopehumorspirituality

CSV in its opening chapter[2] defined character strengths as satisfying most of the ten following criteria:

  • contributes to individual fulfillment “for oneself and others”;[3]
  • intrinsically valuable, in an ethical sense (giftsskillsaptitudes, and expertise can be squandered, but character strengths and virtues cannot);
  • non-rivalrous;
  • not the opposite of a desirable trait (a counterexample is steadfast and flexible, which are opposites but are both commonly seen as desirable);
  • trait-like (habitual patterns that are relatively stable over time);
  • not a combination of the other character strengths in the CSV;
  • personified (at least in the popular imagination) by people made famous through story, song, etc.;
  • observable in child prodigies (though this criterion is not applicable to all character strengths);
  • absent in some individuals;
  • and nurtured by societal norms and institutions.

The introduction of CSV suggests that these six virtues are considered good by the vast majority of cultures and throughout history and that practicing these traits leads to increased happiness. Notwithstanding numerous cautions and caveats, this suggestion of universality hints that in addition to trying to broaden the scope of psychological research to include mental wellness, the leaders of the positive psychology movement are challenging moral relativism and suggesting that virtue has a biological basis.[1] These arguments are in line with the science of morality.

Each of the 28 character traits is defined behaviorally, with psychometric evidence demonstrating that it can be reliably measured. The book shows that “empirically minded humanists can measure character strengths and virtues in a rigorous scientific manner.”[4]

Practical applications of positive psychology include helping individuals and organizations correctly identify their strengths and use them to increase and sustain their respective levels of well-being. Each trait “provides one of many alternative paths to virtue and well-being.”[4] Therapists, counselors, coaches, and various other psychological professionals can use the new methods and techniques to build and broaden the lives of individuals who are not necessarily suffering from mental illness or disorder.

Finally, other researchers have advocated grouping the 28 identified character traits into just four classes of strength (Intellectual, Social, Temperance, Transcendent) or even just three classes (without Transcendence). Not only is this easier to remember, but additionally there is evidence that these adequately capture the components of the 28 original traits.[5]

Perspective and wisdom (personified for example by Ann Landers): the coordination of “knowledge and experience” and “its deliberate use to improve wellbeing.”[6] Many, but not all, studies find that adults’ self-ratings of perspective/wisdom do not depend on age.[7] This stands in contrast to the popular notion that wisdom increases with age.[7] Continue reading “Definition of strengths and virtues”

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Since HIP’s inception 10 years ago, HIP’s transformative lessons in Bias Reduction, Overcoming Bystander Effect and Growth Mindset have impacted to date 700 teachers and educators, 500 schools and 35,000 individuals across the world. Through its experiential training workshops, HIP serves approximately 10 high schools, 50 teachers and 3,000 individuals each year. HIP’s educational programs have impacted professors, college students, high school students, as well as, business leaders, company employees and staff from non-profit organizations and governmental agencies. In order to measure the success of our training, HIP works with our clients to conduct pre-assessment and post-assessment surveys and collect statistical and psychometric data that is used to assess and evaluate the short-term and long-term social impact of our programs. HIP has also inspired the creation of nearly 20 global HIP affiliated non-profit organizations in countries like Poland, Hungary, Czech Republic, Canada and Indonesia.


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Condition Your Mind Happy: Act Happy

Act the way you want to feel and soon you will feel the way you act.

This is common in self-confidence building therapies or courses where you are asked to act the part of or like a confident person. You soon develop that skill or behavior which results in the person having more confidence. There is increasing evidence that acting enraged, obsessed, malevolent, or depressed maybe bad for you. Actor Leonard DiCaprio developed obsessive-compulsive disorder while playing Howard Hughes in the block buster The Aviator. This often happens to actors who get “caught up” in the role they play or keep many of the same character traits of the role they played. Heath Ledger who played the Joker in the Batman movie died and was allegedly clinically depressed. If you act having an enraged or angry conversation with someone, you will usually find that your emotions do get engaged even though you are simply acting the part.

When you are acting happy, you are thinking happy thoughts that go with the acting role you are playing, so it’s like conditioning your mind to be happy. Continue reading “Condition Your Mind Happy: Act Happy”

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Retreat in France

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Healing retreats

Healing retreats can offer various programs:

  • Cleansing and detox programs to rid the body of its toxins
  • Yoga sessions to balance the body and mind
  • Reiki healing sessions for both emotional healing and energy healing
  • Alternate healing methods such as Ayurveda, acupuncture, or aromatherapy
  • Emotional trauma release and integration sessions
  • Holistic health advice to get you doing the right things every day for your wellness
  • Spa treatments to relax you and allow the stress to melt away

These retreats can beneficial for people with and without body health issues.


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