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COLD, REJECTING OR ABUSIVE ALIENATING PARENT

Another participant told of allying himself with his brutal and domineering father against his mother and siblings, “He ended up getting joint custody and I was supposed to be in my father’s house four days of each week and with my mother the other three days. I believed that everyone else was wrong and that my father was right and that he was the one that actually cared about me and everyone else just wanted to do me harm. I was probably going to my mother’s for a while but my father had pretty much a system set up and basically what he would do was kind of manipulate everything where I didn’t want to be there since I would rather be with him because of what he had told me and how he made it seem like everyone was bad so he basically would tell me how to act and behave while I was there and be mean to them and I was very verbally and physically abusive to my other family members at the direction of my father because I was blaming them for me not being with him.” Eventually this participant cut off all contact with his mother for several years.

read the full research report by Amy Baker  http://themenscentre.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Patterns-of-Parental-Alienation-Syndrome-A-Qualitative-Study.pdf

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Remarriage As A Trigger of Parental Alienation Syndrome

Maladaptive efforts to adjust to remarriage can provoke or exacerbate parental alienation syndrome. The remarried parent, the other parent, the stepparent, and the child each may contribute to the disturbance. Underlying dynamics include jealousy, narcissistic injury, desire for revenge, the wish to erase the exspouse from the child’s life in order to “make room” for the stepparent, competitive feelings between the exspouse and stepparent, the new couple’s attempt to unite around a common enemy and avoid recognition of conflicts in the marriage, the child’s attempt to resolve inner conflict, and parent-child boundary violations. These dynamics are discussed and suggestions for treatment are offered.

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01926180050081667#.VRalhTHF-So

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