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‘My in-laws are toxic and my children are suffering’

“It will poison their relationship”

The internet were quick to speak out for the children, caught in the middle of this horrible situation.

“Your kids are old enough that they’ll have a say in whatever custody arrangements get finalised in your divorce, and what you’ve described here sounds like emotional abuse AND parental alienation, which judges don’t really like,” replied one person, suggesting the dad look at spending time with his children away from his family.

They also added, “If your kids have to be mistreated to see their Dad, it will poison their relationship with him no matter how great a parent he is individually.” Continue reading “‘My in-laws are toxic and my children are suffering’”

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Mind control Poisonous pedagogy

Poisonous pedagogy

Poisonous pedagogy is mind control applied to toddlers and infants in the form of coercive “education”.

In 1977 Katharina Rutschky collected 600 pages of documents on child raring from 3 centuries. [12] The techniques and beliefs characteristic for poisonous pedagogy were later “rediscovered” to be effective for changing beliefs in adults when Lifton (Brainwashing in China) investigated brainwashing in POWs in Korea and Chinese thought reform.

The authors recommend traumatizing toddlers, because it is effective in breaking down resistance and mental functions and because “educators” need not fear revenge. Adults won’t remember what happened to them at an early age, they argue. [13] [14]

Making children watch beheadings, secessions, “teaching” them fear of death and illnesses, guilt and shame trips, harsh punishment, withholding love, rewards and affection, forced confessions and humiliations “can lead to a new world in 20 years” (J.B. Schupp, 1667, in[12])

Teaching submission and breaking the will of a child in the first year of life has been universally recommended in these documents. It was widely believed that children are born with “bad” traits like willfulness, wickedness, egotism, impurity, immorality, “sinfulness”, precociousness, smugness and a host of other projections. [12] These traits must be “driven out” by education and force, otherwise these traits will “torment their parents”. Own thinking or judgment is discouraged or even denied.[12]

A child was seen as starting out at a savage level, uncivilized, and must be shaped, tamed and molded to “fit in” or to develop superior qualities of civilization. In reality the rigorous training served the narcissistic needs of parents and preserved power structures in religion and society. [11]

The procedures proposed by pedagogy to remove “weak” traits and train “strength” (which is a way of rationalizing torture and projective identification) were often sadistic and included

  • making the toddler wait for food, or starving while seeing others eat
  • corporal punishment
  • social isolation
  • withdrawal of primary attachment figure
  • inflicting fear by telling scaring stories
  • threats and assaults
  • humiliation and degradation generally accepted as “good” methods
  • cheating and lying
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High-Conflict Divorce: Antecedents and Consequences | Behavioral Health

High-conflict divorce can deeply affect the lives of parents and children. When parents separate, children can suffer emotionally, resulting in adverse developmental outcomes such as low self-worth and attention deficits. In cases of high-conflict divorce involving domestic violence or child abuse, heightened levels of childhood depression and anxiety can also result. These affective issues can contribute to significant distress for involved child throughout the lifespan. Given the adverse nature of high-conflict divorces, mental health professionals must provide appropriate interventions to ensure the welfare of children are a top priority.

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Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Family Therapy

The text serves as an excellent introduction to the reader who is unfamiliar with the PAS construct. Supporters of PAS will be emboldened by the gravitas of family experiences and their emotional impact on the reader, whereas critics of PAS are unlikely to be swayed by Gottlieb’s lines of argument. Regardless of one’s beliefs about PAS, however, Gottlieb makes a compelling argument for the “‘condition’ of a child being lost to 1 parent due to malicious programming by the other parent.” Professionals who have ever worked with children and families undergoing custody disputes will find this a thought-provoking text that invites self-contemplation and further exploration of the PAS concept.

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Unlocking the Secrets of the Wounded Psyche

Daniela Sieff interviews Jungian analyst Donald Kalsched about the survival system a child develops to protect him or herself from psychological wounding, and discovers how that survival system can cause more damage than the original wound.

http://www.danielasieff.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Unlocking-the-Secrets-of-the-Wounded-Psyche-2008-JN-b..pdf

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A Long Goodbye

Dear Mikey, I apologise if my last letter appeared to be addressed more to Mamma and me than it was to you. That happens with writing sometimes. I have a destination in mind at the beginning, only …

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The Bright Thing in the Sky

A child’s rejection of a normal-range and affectionally available parent following a divorce.

The attachment system is the brain system governing all aspects of love and bonding throughout the lifespan, including grief and loss.

The child”s rejection of a normal-range and affectionally available parent is an attachment-related pathology.

Q: How does the attachment system become turned off?

“The deactivation of attachment behavior is a key feature of certain common variants of pathological mourning” (Bowlby, 1980, p. 70)

Okay, then. So we’re looking at a version of “pathological mourning” surrounding the divorce.

Q: How does pathological mourning develop?

“Disturbances of personality, which include a bias to respond to loss with disordered mourning, are seen as the outcome of one or more deviations in development that can originate or grow worse during any of the years of infancy, childhood and adolescence.” (Bowlby, 1980, p. 217)

Okay, so we’re looking at a “disturbance of personality.” And we just continue to work it out from there.

Notice that in less than a minute of diagnostic inquiry, the pathology of “parental alienation” is defined as a form of disordered mourning involving personality pathology.

Dr. Craig Childress: Attachment Based "Parental Alienation" (AB-PA)

The pathology of “parental alienation” is NOT a defined construct in clinical psychology.

AB-PA is a defined construct. 

An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” (AB-PA) – as defined in Foundations – is an explanatory application of standard and established constructs and principles from professional psychology to a set of symptoms.  That’s called diagnosis.


Q:  What is the sun?

A:  It’s that bright thing in the sky over there.

Q:  Yes, I know.  But what is it, what is the sun?

A:  I just told you.  It’s that bright thing in the sky.

“That bright thing in the sky” is NOT a professional-level definition of the sun.

Definition: The sun is a dense cloud of hydrogen gas that is so dense that the pressure exerted by the pull of its gravity is fusing the hydrogen atoms into helium (and ultimately into denser elements) and is releasing great amounts of energy in…

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PATHOGENIC PARENTING – IT’S NOT A THEORY BUT A DIAGNOSIS!

It is not a theory. It is diagnosis. Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. Pathogenic parenting that is creating signifi…

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