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These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of which they are capable. 

First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind. 

(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or telling the truth about anything. 

(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special grace. 

(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever the problem, it is always someone else’s fault. 

(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed. 

(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence. Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.

If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the following immediately! 

(1) Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened. 

Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances. Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if any is available. 

(2) Inform the police. The police will do nothing with this information except to keep it on file, since they are powerless to act until a crime has been committed. Unfortunately, that often is usually too late for the victim. Nevertheless, place the information in their hands. 

Obviously, if you are assaulted or threatened before witnesses, you can get a restraining order, but those are palliative at best. 

(3) Local law enforcement agencies are usually under pressure if wealthy or politically powerful individuals are involved, so include state and federal agencies as well and tell the locals that you have. In my own experience, one agency that can help in a pinch is the Criminal Investigation Division of the Internal Revenue Service or (in Canada) Victims Services at your local police unit. It is not easy to think of the IRS as a potential friend, but a Swedish study showed that malignant types (the Swedes called them bullies) usually commit some felony or other by the age of twenty. If the family is wealthy, the fact may never come to light, but many felonies involve tax evasion, and in such cases, the IRS is interested indeed. If large amounts of money are involved, the IRS may solve all your problems for you. For obvious reasons the Drug Enforcement Agency may also be an appropriate agency to approach. The FBI is an important agency to contact, because although the FBI does not have jurisdiction over murder or assault, if informed, they do have an active interest in any other law enforcement agencies that do not follow through with an honest investigation and prosecution should a murder occur. Civil rights are involved at that point. No local crooked lawyer, judge, or corrupt police official wants to be within a country mile if that comes to light! It is in such cases that wealthy psychopaths discover just how firm the “friends” they count on to cover up for them really are! Even some of the drug cartel biggies will scuttle for cover if someone picks up the brick their thugs hide under. Exposure is bad for business. 

(4) Make sure that several of your friends have the information in the event something happens to you. That way, an appropriate investigation will follow if you are harmed. Don’t tell other people who has the information, because then something bad could happen to them as well. Instruct friends to take such an incident to the newspapers and other media. 

If you are dealing with someone who has considerable money, you must realize that they probably won’t try to harm you themselves, they will contract with someone to make the hit. The malignant type is a coward and will not expose himself or herself to personal danger if he or she can avoid it.

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Some people learn to enjoy hurting, frightening, tyrannizing others; they derive from it a feeling of power and importance. Katz (1988) described rapists, muggers, and other violent criminals who report that they derive strong gratification from their sheer dominance and control over their victims. To be bold, tough, brash, and unflinching is admired and reinforced in the society of the streets and may become an entrenched personal style in those who have the temperament to carry it off. A muscular, aggressive male is more likely to take this course and become one of the Alpha baboons of his peer group.

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The Alienated Sociopath: The Hostile Type

Some alienated individuals, feeling rejected by the community or unable to succeed according to its rules, repudiate the society of others and adopt a hostile, aggressive, or destructive attitude toward the group and all its members. It is a little recognized truth that feeling angry is more agreeable than feeling frightened or sad or depressed. Most people, if they try, can identify occasions or circumstances in which they self-indulgently permit themselves to cultivate and express irritation; driving alone in traffic is a situation in which many of us enjoy muttering criticisms about the skills, character, or parentage of other drivers. I can get reliably irritated reading the letters to the editor or certain columnists in the newspaper and there is no doubt that I feel stronger, more vigorous and self-confident when I am irritated than I do when I am feeling worried or apprehensive or discouraged. I can remember at least a couple of times, when my children were small, when I guiltily realized that I was being sharp and irritable with them, not as a responsible parent but because it made me feel better than I had felt before they gave me the excuse to get angry. Many people can be seen to hoard grievances and develop a kind of chronic irritability as they get older because, when one is irritated, the juices start flowing and one feels stronger, more puissant.

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The Alienated Sociopath: The Disempathic Type

This individual is capable of emotional investment in his family, his mate or, perhaps, his dog, but has a constricted “circle of empathy” and reacts to most people only as objects. Although it is clear that, unlike most other mammals, our species is capable of empathy, capable of sharing to some extent the pain and the joy of other human beings and even other species, it is also clear that this capacity must be cultivated by experience. There are, moreover, wide individual differences in the breadth or inclusiveness of people’s circles of empathy. My wife shares the pain of all creatures from children, wolves, and elephants to ladybugs and spiders but human hunters, trappers, and most lawyers and politicians fall outside her circle of empathy. A child reared by parents who dislike animals as well as most of their neighbors is likely to have a constricted circle of empathy. When we are exposed too long and too often to stress and the suffering of others, most of us defensively constrict out empathic tendencies.

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The Alienated Sociopath: The Disaffiliated Type

The absence of a nurturant parent during a critical period may prevent the development of the normal capacity for love and attachment that, as social animals, we all presumably possess. We know that children whose innate proclivity for language is not developed during the early years may never learn to speak and it seems likely that our native affiliative tendencies also require stimulation and reinforcement early in childhood. There are children who seldom or never have nurturant, loving, or happy interactions with other human beings or whose approaches to their parent are unpredictably punished so that they become extinguished. Such a child will not develop the prosocial components of socialization and their inability to relate emotionally to other people makes his or her adult adjustment problematic. This incapacity for fellow-feeling may be as intractable as any innate defect of temperament, yet I classify such people as sociopaths rather than as psychopaths because their condition can be prevented in the same way that other forms of sociopathy could be prevented, by reducing the frequency of non-nurturant, incompetent parents.

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The Boundary Tool

Every human exchange has attributes of form as well as content. The formal aspect of an interaction involves the way the individuals treat each other in the transaction. For example, is it formal or informal? Honest or deceptive? Respectful or threatening?, etc. The content is what is being done or discussed. Physical content could include types of touching that are and are not acceptable, or personal items that must not be touched, or moved or taken. Emotional content is whatever a conversation might be about. Common contents that might become emotionally charged include; money, parenting, health, etc.
            Using the Form Before Content Tool involves setting a boundary, where you will not entertain any content unless the form is civil or respectful. If you respond to content while the form is disrespectful, or worse yet abusive, you reinforce that it is acceptable to treat you this way. Refusal to respond when treated disrespectfully installs a healthy boundary – that communication must be respectful.

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Are you thinking about suicide? Here are 5 suggestions to consider:

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Supporting someone who feels suicidal | Mind, the mental health charity – help for mental health problems

Source: Supporting someone who feels suicidal | Mind, the mental health charity – help for mental health problems

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Brazilian legal system

24 Since 2010, in the Brazilian legal system there is a law that provides for parental
alienation and where we can find the following definition” It is considered an act of
parental alienation the interference in the psychological formation of the child or …

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Sexual Violence Trauma Is Complex Because It Impinges on Multiple Identities

“Why would someone wait this long to report their story? When police stations are in place and there are laws to protect survivors, why won’t they utilise these avenues?” It makes logical sense. After all, these entities exist with the sole purpose of protecting these women.

However, the questions reek of ignorance and privilege. The intricacies of sexual trauma demonstrate how the social, economic and political spots occupied by the survivor can have implications on their physical and mental health.

When an individual is subjected to sexual trauma, their body senses danger. The most natural response is a stress response, a.k.a. ‘fight-flight-freeze’. A stress response is the body’s way of protecting itself. The autonomic nervous system moves blood to our arms and legs so we can combat the danger we’re about to face. Freezing is a stress response such that, when the body and brain feel so overwhelmed by the attack, any hope of escape is drastically weakened, causing the body to become stilled. Continue reading “Sexual Violence Trauma Is Complex Because It Impinges on Multiple Identities”