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Moving Upstream – London Conference on Parental Alienation 2018 – Open for Bookings

The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners opens its conference booking today.  Headline speakers include leading researcher and writer  Amy J.L.Baker PhD. Brian Ludmer from Ludmer Law in Canada, Professor Gordana Buljan Flander from the Child Protection Centre in Zagreb, Barristers from 1KBW UK, Linda Gottlieb and Steve Miller from the USA, along with Psychologists and Psychotherapists who are pioneering in this work in Europe.

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Parental Alienation: What Is the Solution?

The only effective means to combat and eliminate parental alienation is to address it by means of a multi-faceted approach that involves fundamental changes to the present system of divorce, and alienated parents and their allies would be well-advised to channel their energies in this direction.  This article is a call to action, involving four essential steps to address the problem of parental alienation. All other efforts will produce only superficial or short-term results.

Step 1: Professional recognition of parental alienation as a serious form of child abuse, and corresponding intervention of child protection authorities

Parental alienation is a form of individual child abuse, the result of actions by an individual caregiver that represent a significant form of harm to children. Parental alienation as a serious form of emotional child abuse, which is linked to child neglect and to physical and sexual abuse, clearly makes it, above all else, a child protection concern. First and foremost, we need to recognize parental alienation as a form of individual child abuse that requires a child protection response, no different than physical and sexual abuse. This may involve child removal from the abusive parent or, in most cases, family support services aimed at educating the parent about the effects and unacceptability of alienation and effecting a reunification process between the child and the targeted parent. Continue reading “Parental Alienation: What Is the Solution?”

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13 Contributing Factors to Treatment-Resistant Bipolar Disorder

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Trauma Therapy 101: The Basics

Trauma is a normal part of the human experience, but it varies widely in terms of severity and impact. Patients who come to therapy with a history of trauma that has caused significant havoc and dysfunction in their lives may struggle to reach their treatment goals without a treatment plan that emphasizes the resolution of the trauma itself. For this reason, all psychotherapists should be aware of the conditions needed for trauma treatment to be successful. In 2006, Wolfgang Toller outlined eight prerequisites for trauma treatment, which are outlined in Dagmar Härle’s book, ‘Trauma Sensitive Yoga.’ The following have been adapted from Härle’s book and represent the basic requirements for the treatment of trauma in therapy. 1.Security Trauma involves an inherent lack of security—an experience in which a person’s needs for safety are ignored or somehow violated. Therefore, it is critical to establish safety in the therapeutic space in order for the work to be effective. Part of

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Positive Thinking: A Foundation for Overcoming Depression

For those individuals struggling with major depression, life can seem like a dark cavern of despair. The hopelessness of their situation is continually reinforced by the pervasive negative thinking that dominates the space they occupy. Those negative thoughts continually pull the shades of darkness on their world and prevent the person from realizing the pleasures of life. The depressed person tends to minimize accomplishments and maximize failures. Asking a depressed person to simply ‘see the bright side of things’ is analogous to asking someone to view a beautiful picture in total darkness. However, if the person can be assisted to verbalize positive traits attributable to self, he or she may begin turning on the lights necessary to illuminate a path to recovery. Negative Thinking and Depression According to Beck (1991), negative automatic thoughts tend to arise in the person with depression without conscious awareness. When these negative thoughts become connected to events in

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Rule no 5. Christmas – Exercise

Yes its sounds like hard work but if you start now you will be way ahead for the New Year and feel great over Christmas.

  • Consider your fitness goals.
  • Create a balanced routine.
  • Start low and progress slowly.
  • Build activity into your daily routine.
  • Plan to include different activities.
  • Allow time for recovery.
  • Put it on paper.

Improved self-esteem is a key psychological benefit of regular physical activity. When you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain.

Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. For example, the feeling that follows a run or workout is often described as “euphoric.” That feeling, known as a “runner’s high,” can be accompanied by a positive and energizing outlook on life.

They can also help bring about feelings of euphoria and general well-being.

How Much Exercise Is Needed?

Many people think that you must exercise an exorbitant amount of time to trigger endorphin release; however, moderate amounts of exercise lasting 20 to 30 minutes can cause endorphin release. In fact, if you are new to exercising you may experience stronger effects of endorphins than someone who has regularly been exercising, since your brain is not used to the endorphin rush.

Any form of aerobic exercise will release serotonin and other endorphins, which can lead to a feeling of well being.

  • Simply try taking a walk where you live.
  • Running/Jogging
  • Lift some weights at the gym.
  • Bodyweight Training
  • Go swimming.
  • Go dancing.
  • Team Sports

Most physical activity shakes things up on a cellular level releasing, yup you guessed it, endorphins. Doctors will often advise depressed individuals to get their bodies moving to feel better.

Massages can also help with aches and pains and the physical touch releases endorphins. This is why so many people feel calm and relaxed afterward receiving a massage.

So don’t delay start planning your exercise regime today!!

Linda

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Countdown to Christmas

Rules for a healthy Christmas
Rule no 1. Setting healthy boundaries
Make sure to check all your contacts in social media and remove anyone the alienating parent may be using to stalk you.

Check all your contacts in messenger, whats app, skype etc and delete anyone who could cause you problems.

Remove anyone posing to be a friend but not actually being a friend.

Block any users that have several profiles under the same name, these are usually fake profiles.
Rule no 2. A healthy Christmas – Detox

Now you have detoxed your social media its time to detox your mind and body in time for Christmas.

Why not have a alcohol free week before all the Christmas festivities and try a few non alcoholic cocktails:-
Rule no 3. Don’t be alone on Christmas day

If you are unfortunate enough not to be able to see your children at all, make sure you have plenty to do and have people around you.

After 27 years of no contact (not by choice) with a couple of exceptions which my narcissist ex sabotaged by contacting Hertfordshire police with some bizarre story!!! I have learnt to be resourceful over the years.

Here are a few suggestions you could consider, its not too late to get organised:-

Rule no 4. Christmas – Therapy

Yes I know its sounds dramatic! but after dealing with toxic people for months or maybe even years, in and out of court, meetings with social workers, solicitors, lawyers etc you probably deserve some.

First go and seek advice from you regular GP and let them know what you have been going through. Hopefully if they are understanding they will refer you to recommended practitioner. You will need to make it clear that they will need to have a thorough understanding of PA.

If not, you can always contact the helpline (registered paid up members only) at NAAP for advice NAAP Helpline

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Rule no 4. Christmas – Therapy

Yes I know its sounds dramatic! but after dealing with toxic people for months or maybe even years, in and out of court, meetings with social workers, solicitors, lawyers etc you probably deserve some.

First go and seek advice from you regular GP and let them know what you have been going through. Hopefully if they are understanding they will refer you to recommended practitioner. You will need to make it clear that they will need to have a thorough understanding of PA.

If not, you can always contact the helpline (registered paid up members only) at NAAP for advice NAAP Helpline

Another alternative is to look through the BPS

Online resources to help you find a psychologist

Directory of Chartered Psychologists – search for a psychologist offering services to the public

List of Chartered Members – check whether a person is a Chartered Psychologist

Directory of Expert Witnesses – search for a psychologist to act as an expert witness

Register of Psychologists Specialising in Psychotherapy – Search for a psychologist who specialises in psychotherapy

Do not make an appointment to see someone before Christmas, (believe me it is very distressing dragging up events from the past and leaves you exhausted). Prepare yourself to see someone in the new year ready for a fresh start.

After the first few appointments it will be worth it, things start to look very different and you will become emotionally stronger and more able to deal with things.

Therapy

Therapy can take various forms:-

  • cognitive behavioral therapy
  • mindfulness-based cognitive therapy
  • psychodynamic therapy, or a combination of these.

But at the center of each is the caring relationship between a mental health professional and a patient.

Prepare for fresh start to have a healthier, happier new you in the new year.

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Research on how to engage vulnerable families

Commissioning research on how to engage vulnerable families and ensure that parents get more support from local services. There will also be new guidance for schools that will address the effect of trauma on children’s behaviour. Continue reading “Research on how to engage vulnerable families”

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Mental health support teams to work with schools and colleges

£215 million to introduce mental health support teams, which would be linked to groups of schools and colleges. These teams would provide direct support to children with mild to moderate mental health problems, and help to make referrals to specialist services when they are needed. They would also provide advice and support to teachers and other professionals who work with children.  Continue reading “Mental health support teams to work with schools and colleges”