If you don’t know who to turn to:
In the U.S. – Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433).
In the UK and Ireland – Call the Samaritans at 116 123
In Australia – Call Lifeline Australia at 13 11 14
In other countries – Visit IASP or Suicide.org to find a helpline in your country.
Crisis Centers in Canada – Locate suicide crisis centers in Canada by province. (Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention)
Befrienders Worldwide – International suicide prevention organization connects people to crisis hotlines in their country.
IASP – Find crisis centers and helplines around the world. (International Association for Suicide Prevention).
International Suicide Hotlines – Find a helpline in different countries around the world. (Suicide.org)
Samaritans UK – 24-hour suicide support for people in the UK and Republic of Ireland (call 116 123). (Samaritans)
Lifeline Australia – 24-hour suicide crisis support service at 13 11 14. (Lifeline Australia)
Continue reading “Reaching out for help”
- Your emotions are not fixed – they are constantly changing. How you feel today may not be the same as how you felt yesterday or how you’ll feel tomorrow or next week.
- Your absence would create grief and anguish in the lives of friends and loved ones.
- There are many things you can still accomplish in your life.
- There are sights, sounds, and experiences in life that have the ability to delight and lift you – and that you would miss.
- Your ability to experience pleasurable emotions is equal to your ability to experience distressing emotions.
Source: Are You Feeling Suicidal? How to Deal with Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings and Overcome the Pain
Click the Start button and you will be taken to a ‘funnel’ image. This illustrates the suicidal process and the key themes from our research – living without self-worth, loss of trust, and suicidal exhaustion. It also shows how it is possible to slow down or stop the process at any point. Continue reading “How do I use SANE on Suicide?”
SANE on Suicide presents the findings from our suicide prevention research. We talked to people who had attempted suicide, their close family and friends, and people bereaved by suicide.
Although suicide sometimes appears to be an impulsive or sudden act, we found that it is usually a process. As such it can be slowed down and stopped. Continue reading “SANE on Suicide”
It’s also a very complex matter. According to the International Association for Suicide Prevention, it’s rarely an impulsive act; rather, it creeps up on you gradually, progressing from suicidal thoughts, to planning, to attempting and finally dying by suicide. When you’re at that point where living seems intolerable, it can be very difficult to put the brakes on. But even in those darkest hours, it’s possible to hold on and have hope. So what can we do to make it through those bleak times where it seems there’s no other solution?
- Talk to someone Probably the most important thing you can do if you’re feeling suicidal is tell someone about it.
Take care of your basic needs
Avoid alcohol It doesn’t help
Make a safety plan
Get some exercise If you’re deeply depressed, the idea of getting up and going to the gym probably sounds ridiculous – and impossible.
Make a hope box In the depths of despair, it can be hard to find hope, but there are always reasons to stay alive. Creating a hope box is a good way to calm yourself when you’re fighting thoughts of suicide.
Soothe your senses When you’re overwhelmed with thoughts of suicide, it can be hard to think straight, and your usual distraction techniques like mindfulness or meditation may not work. ‘This is where it can be helpful to soothe your senses, for example by having a bath, playing your favourite music, lighting a candle or using a nice body lotion,’ says Kelly.
Find some company When my mental health is at its worst, I tend to isolate myself from other people, convinced that I’m a burden. I’m far from alone in feeling like this; withdrawing from social contact is a big warning sign for suicide. ‘Maintaining contact with your friends and avoiding isolation can help to reduce the risk of feeling suicidal, and making the effort to see people is especially important when you feel like you don’t want to,’ says Richard. Y
Do something ‘When you’re at the bottom of the pit, even getting out of bed can feel like climbing Everest,’ says Kelly. This can make you feel hopeless and useless, fuelling your depression. Instead try to do something – no matter how tiny – that not only distracts you from your painful thoughts, but also makes you feel you’ve achieved something, whether that’s brushing your hair or washing a dish you left in the sink.
Know when to get expert help Suicidal thoughts are a medical emergency, and need to be treated as such. If you’re feeling desperate and are under the services of a community mental health team, make contact urgently with your care co-ordinator, the duty officer or the out-of-hours helpline. If you’re not, or you can’t get hold of your usual contacts, go to A&E and explain how you’re feeling. They’ll be able to connect you with the duty psychiatric team who can establish what care you need.
WAIT The single most important thing that anyone has ever told me about dealing with suicidal thoughts is to wait. Wait one minute, then 10 minutes, then an hour, then two… Every second that you wait is a second that you’re still alive – and potentially a second closer to getting through the crisis. ‘Suicidal feelings usually do not last,’ agrees Richard.
You’ve come this far. Don’t give up now.
Continue reading “International Association for Suicide Prevention”
Even though I typed “men” first, Google found more results for the reversed phrase, indicating the huge imbalance of available online material.
Last night I was searching the Internet for a video on “women abusing men” to run here on The Good Men Project. Not only were there just a few actual hits, most of which I’d already seen, but I also found that most of the results that did come up were for men abusing women. Even though I typed “men” first, Google found more results for the reversed phrase, indicating the huge imbalance of available online material. And yet, recent statistics confirm that men represent approximately 40% of the victims in cases of abuse.
According to a British survey, Domestic Violence: The Male Perspective, conducted in 2010:
About two in five of all victims of domestic violence are men, contradicting the widespread impression that it is almost always women who are left battered and bruised, a new report claims.
Continue reading “Women Abuse Men, Too—But It’s Often Not Called Abuse”
Talking about relationships, abusive women are more common then we can ever imagine. Most of these women exercise emotional, verbal, and physical control in a relationship to suit their needs.
Abusive women have often been defined as selfish, narcissistic women who choose to inflict physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse to control the people in a relationship. This damage can be imposed on the spouses, boyfriend, or even the children. Although the physical abuse may not be all that prevalent (It does exist), men tend to suffer much more from emotional and verbal abuse. Abusive women tend to use deceit and fury to create emotional unrest, or lie, connive, and extort to get what they want. Most of these women, have a drinking or other addiction problem, or a history of delinquency, truancy, or running away.
Continue reading “Verbally and Emotionally Abusive Women in Relationships”
While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men happens far more often than you might expect. Typically, men are physically stronger than women but that doesn’t necessarily make it easier for you to escape the abuse or the relationship. As an abused man, you’ll likely face a shortage of resources, skepticism from police, and major legal obstacles, especially when it comes to gaining custody of your children from an abusive mother. Whatever your circumstances, though, you can overcome these challenges and escape the violence and abuse.
Source: Help for Men Who Are Being Abused: Domestic Violence Against Men and Getting Help
So what do abusive women really look like in real life? Here are 7 common abusive behaviors practiced by women, along with descriptions by real life partners. While a man can be just as likely to use most of these, women more often utilize them to hurt those they’re supposed to love.There are also a couple of these behaviors that are much more exclusive to women.
1. Yelling & Angry. While we all can yell from time to time, a woman who’s abusive is going to do it much more regularly and often without a clear reason. One of the things that can make a relationship especially abusive is the uncertainty of when you’re going to ‘get it.’ Obviously, this behavior is not exclusive to just women.
I believe my wife is regularly emotionally abusive towards me.When she yells and puts me down and says mean things I get upset and say mean things back to her. How do I not react when she pushes my buttons with her abuse?” -Adam
Continue reading “What Do Abusive Women Look Like?”
Despite the misconception that genes are “set in stone,” research shows that early experiences can determine how genes are turned on and off — and even whether some are expressed at all.
Source: Gene-Environment Interaction: Epigenetics and Child Development