Posted in "Natural Born Liars", Liars, Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Lying, Pathological Lying: A Psychopathic Manipulation Tool, pathological narcissism

A Pathological Liar Is Made, Not Born

While some data exist that point to nervous-system dysfunction in 40 percent of compulsive liars, and other research implicates deficiencies in intelligence or home-life stability as the probable causes, Forman argues these claims are mostly specious.

Pseudologia fantastica has not been reviewed in the English literature in over 50 years, but the term is still used, for example, among the diagnostic criteria for the Munchausen syndrome. Based upon a review of 72 cases of pseudologia fantastica collected from 26 reports since its initial description in 1891, pseudologia is distinguished from other types of lying. Pseudologia fantastica is typified by these characteristics: (1) the stories are not entirely improbable and are often built upon a matrix of truth; (2) the stories are enduring; (3) the stories are not told for personal profit per se and have a self-aggrandizing quality; and (4) they are distinct from delusions in that the person when confronted with facts can acknowledge these falsehoods. The authors compile phenomenological data about “the pseudolouge”, who is represented equally males and females. Intelligence varies, but at least 40% have evidence of central nervous system dysfunction. The authors suggest that disease simulation, peregrination, and imposture are secondary behavioral manifestations of pseudologia, which is deserving of additional study.

Posted in Liars, Lies of a Narcissist, Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder

When a lie becomes memories truth!

Elizabeth F. Loftus. When A Lie Becomes Memory’s Truth: Memory Distortion After Exposure to Misinformation Current Directions in Psychological …

Posted in and Abusers, Liars, Spotting Manipulators

Spotting Manipulators, Liars, and Abusers

I’m a strong believer in reading whatever you want to read and watching whatever you want to watch. With that freedom, I’m also a strong believer in the freedom of discourse.

For example, I was hoping to see The Imitation Game this coming weekend, but it turns out I can’t because Fifty Shades of Grey will be taking up every theater for its Valentine’s Day release. So now that I know I’ll be spending the weekend stacking things on my cat, I figured this would be a nice time for some discourse.

I don’t really want to spend this article insulting the franchise. Actually, I do, but a lot of people have already done a much better job of that than I could hope to. So instead, I thought I’d use all of this excitement to try & spread a little bit of awareness about sociopaths, narcissists, and psychopaths. What a surprise!

Did you know that psychopaths make up 4% of the general population, and narcissists come in even higher at6%?

These people are not usually serial killers or genocidal tyrants. They’re much more commonly the people being glorified this Valentine’s Day. Controlling, pity-seeking, manipulative predators—masked as passionate & exciting lovers.

The problem with Fifty Shades of Grey is that it fails to understand the character it’s trying to portray. Okay, so you’ve got your charming sociopath and he’s so sexy. Kinky, wild, exciting. Charming and alluring at first, he focuses all of his attention on you. It’s like there’s no one else in the world.

So far, pretty accurate. It always starts off with idealization.

Then the mask begins to slip. He’s controlling, threatening, and kind of scary. You’re constantly on edge around him and you never know where you stand. Your entire life starts to revolve around him, and slowly but surely, you begin to lose your sense of self.

Yep, still accurate. With sociopaths, the idealization always comes to an end.

Next up, we start digging into the abuser’s past. Turns out he had a tragic childhood, which explains all of the unacceptable behavior mentioned above! Fortunately, our victim has a superpower. She can cure sociopathy!


Yes, that’s right. Sociopaths come from abusive backgrounds but they can be fixed with the right kind of lover who understands them. A steamy, broken sort of romance. Society might say no, but that’s because they’re just so caught up in their conventional ways. They could never understand childhood abuse survivors and their sexual needs.

Annnnnnd fail.

This is not about BDSM. It’s about manipulation, coercion, and abuse. BDSM is a set of sexual practices. Those other words? They’re indicative of a serious, incurable personality disorder. Those qualities are not things you can “fix”. They’re things they use to make you think you can fix them.

Sociopaths love pity. They use it constantly. They use it to justify their abuse, making you feel sorry for them, instead of thinking about your own boundaries & rights. They are pathological liars who will say anything and everything to convince you that their toxic behavior is good for you. Like parasites, their goal is to do whatever it takes to keep you as a source of supply.

This is one of the most common tactics of a psychopathic predator. “You’re the only one who understands me. I’ve never felt this way in my life.” Everyone else has failed them, but you… You are the one. The exception.

This is why I hate Fifty Shades of Grey. Not because of the sex or the kinkiness. But because it perpetuates this bold-faced lie that abusive people can be fixed by the right person. This idea that sociopathic relationships are sexy, when in reality, they will completely destroy every bit of your self-worth.

You cannot fix a sociopath. They do not have a conscience. They cannot grow a conscience. They’re not secretly insecure and tragic. They understand human nature and how to control it. They actively manipulate your own perception so that it becomes a point of pride/vanity to be “the one” who fixes them.

These things may feel good at first, even addictive. And that’s the point. Psychopaths know how to manufacture intense desperation and desire. Like Twilight, which teaches young people that love triangles are hot. But these toxic shortcuts to “love” are not actually love to the abuser. They are ways to ensure power over others.

So this Valentine’s Day, regardless of your sexual fantasies, I’d like to mention some qualities that can be found in any genuine, healthy sort of love:

  • Respect
  • Honesty
  • Empathy
  • Openness
  • Trust

Find someone who can feel the same things as you, not someone who uses those qualities to exploit you.
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