Today is a special day, its the end of a chapter in my life!!
On a recent routine visit to the Doctors he asked about my family. My doctor has known me for over 10 years now and when he asked me about my children and grandchildren I told him that:
- I had not been allowed to contact or see my grandson for over 3 years.(12 yrs old)
- I have a grand daughter I had never seen.(2 yrs old)
- I have only seen my son for 6 weeks over 25 years (38 yrs old).
- I have seen very little of my daughter over 25 years (36 yrs old).
When he asked how old my children were he said “do they have psychological problems?” Followed by “it’s their problem, do not let it be yours”!!!!
Deja Vu – I was asked the exact same question 23 years ago by my local doctor in Edlesborough. “Does your ex husband have psychological problems?”
The Doctor had known our family for many, many years both before and after I divorced my ex and was denied any contact with my children.
Quote from Amy Baker
In fact, the next theme is co-occurring personality disorder. The author points out that based on the interviews she did, many alienating parents could be considered to have a type B personality disorders (narcissistic, histrionic, anti-social, and borderline personality disorders). C.R. and I strongly agree and even say that perhaps a type B personality disorder must be present in an alienating parent. That’s because the types of behaviors involved are generally included in definitions of type B personality disorders. We should point out that this does not mean that people with type B pds will become alienating parents, but based on our experience, we believe that alienating parents all have at the very least a significant number of traits that are present in type B pds.
Quote from Dr Craig Childress
A SCIENTIFICALLY BASED MODEL OF “PARENTAL ALIENATION”
What I find so incredibly troubling from a professional standpoint is that so many mental health professionals – whose job it is to diagnose pathology – are absolutely missing the diagnosis of a psychotic pathology that’s sitting right in front of them. That’s astounding to me.
Diagnosing pathology is the job of a mental health professional. For a mental health professional to entirely miss recognizing a psychotic pathology sitting right in front of them in their office represents astounding professional incompetence. I don’t expect a lawyer to recognize psychotic pathology, or an architect, or a policeman, or an engineer. But a mental health professional? That’s exactly our job. Astounding professional incompetence.
and many more experts:-
Katherine Andre, Ph.D.
Rebecca Bailey, Ph.D.
William Bernet, M.D
Doug Darnall, Ph.D.
Robert Evans, Ph.D
Linda Kase Gottlieb, LMFT, LCSW-R
Demothenos Lorandos, Ph.D. JD
Kathleen Reay, Ph.D. S.
Richard Sauber, Ph.D
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