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The Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys

‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.’ – Edmund Burke Isn’t it enough that victims have to deal with the hurt and frustration caused merely by loving a narcissist?  To add insult to injury, narcissists in their lives have their own personal minions, appropriately labeled as ‘flying monkeys,’ who […]

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The Roll of the Enabler- Perfectly Rotten To The Core

The Roll of the Enabler The enabler is usually the narcissist’s spouse or the other parent but in certain situations it can be a child. This parent often has come from a dysfunctional family, or some previous trauma. They may be naïve, brainwashed from being gaslighted over many years, dependent or codependent in nature. Not […]

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Are You an Enabler?

Enabling is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict or alcoholic, a gambler, or a compulsive overeater. Enablers, rather than addicts, suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior. Enabling is “removing the natural consequences to the addict of his or her behavior.” Professionals […]

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Aiding and Abetting Narcissism

We hear it all the time: “I can’t just turn my back on my husband or my daughter or my sister or my mom.” A fair question to them would be is, “Why not?” There is no reason to put up with abusive behavior from anybody. Ever. The only reason people put up with abusive […]

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Who Enables the Narcissist?

Narcissism does not exist in a vacuum. It can’t. Therefore, there are always enablers. Enablers are the people who support the narcissist, defend the narcissist, fight for the narcissist, people the narcissist recruits to their side. These people are usually called “flying monkeys,” but there are other types of enablers, too. These are the people […]

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An Open Letter to Enablers of Parental Alienation

Originally posted on Lee Serpa Azevado:
Dear Enablers, Allow me to introduce myself. I am what’s called an alienated parent. Throughout the last nine and a half months I have been relentlessly battling an unfair and biased judicial system in an attempt to have some contact with my three beautiful children following separation from my…

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Motivated by Self Interest

Enablers are guided by self interest. So, they choose not to help the victim. In a social setting, such as in a neighborhood full of young mothers, a woman might worry about her own social standing. She doesn’t want to be the next victim. She also wants to ensure her children aren’t ostracized. Narcissists are […]

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The Narcissist’s Fan Club (aka Flying Monkeys)

‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.’ – Edmund Burke Isn’t it enough that victims have to deal with the hurt and frustration caused merely by loving a narcissist? To add insult to injury, narcissists in their lives have their own personal minions, appropriately labeled as ‘flying monkeys,’ who […]

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What Flying Monkeys Do For Narcissists (And How To Disarm Them)

Flying Monkeys” is a term used in psychology to describe the sycophantic hangers-on who usually orbit around narcissists, and support/defend everything they do.

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Flying Monkeys

Originally posted on Dr. Craig Childress: Attachment Based "Parental Alienation" (AB-PA):
My client is at risk. My child is at risk from a group of people who seek to disrupt and damage the recovery of children from complex trauma and child abuse that are achieved by Dorcy Pruter. My client’s recovery is at…

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