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What do we know about childhood anxiety and what can parents do about it?

Feeling anxious and worried is a normal experience for children, but how do we know when it’s becoming a serious problem and what can we do about it? Claudia Hammond discusses these issues and more with expert Professor Cathy Creswell from the University of Reading, and Beckie, whose whole family was affected by her son’s anxiety.

https://www.annafreud.org/parents-and-carers/child-in-mind/

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Jean Piaget’s Theory and Stages of Cognitive Development

Piaget (1936) was the first psychologist to make a systematic study of cognitive development. His contributions include a stage theory of child cognitive development, detailed observational studies of cognition in children, and a series of simple but ingenious tests to reveal different cognitive abilities.

What Piaget wanted to do was not to measure how well children could count, spell or solve problems as a way of grading their I.Q. What he was more interested in was the way in which fundamental concepts like the very idea of number, time, quantity, causalityjustice and so on emerged.

Before Piaget’s work, the common assumption in psychology was that children are merely less competent thinkers than adults. Piaget showed that young children think in strikingly different ways compared to adults.

According to Piaget, children are born with a very basic mental structure (genetically inherited and evolved) on which all subsequent learning and knowledge are based.

Jean Piaget’s Theory and Stages of Cognitive Development https://www.simplypsychology.org/piaget.html

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The Alienated Child

Most children are born with the capacities to think for themselves, to process both negative and positive experience, and thereby restructure things so that each generation can improve over the last. These capacities can be developed. Given opportunities to perceive both healthy and problematic aspects of different people and to respond to those perceptions within the context of an empathic relationship, most children will develop a self that is not only different, but has a good chance of being more functionally effective than either parent has been. Of course, the children will not be perfect, either.

They do not need to carry the burden of trying to be.

No human being is perfect.

The child who is solely or primarily dependent on one parent is in jeopardy. The child who has access to multiple relationships with people who can help in different ways and learns to process a variety of experiences is our hope for the future.

As a Parental Alienation Recovery specialist, I am able to guide you through your healing journey. Connect with me via phone or email today to begin the process of recovery.

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Child Contact Page

If you are an alienated child (perhaps an adult now), please register your interest if you would like to re-establish your relationship with one of your parents. Simply email us on info@ukap.one

Likewise, if you are a parent looking for an alienated child, register your interest by mailing us and we will let you know if your child makes contact with us. Sometimes a child will prefer and need the contact to be indirect and to be handled sensitively.

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Here Are Some Potential Consequences of Teaching a Child to Hate:

Here Are Some Potential Consequences of Teaching a Child to Hate:

  • Negative or judgmental personality
  • Poor adjustment
  • Difficulty trusting others
  • Difficulty initiating and maintaining relationships
  • Poor relationship quality
  • Aggressive/defiant behavior
  • Depression
  • Low self-esteem
  • Guilt or confusion surrounding negative feelings about the other parent
  • Self-hatred

Every child has the right to have a loving and healthy relationship with both his or her parents. Divorced or otherwise separated parents are expected to encourage and nurture the relationship between the child and the other parent. Alienating parents are typically so consumed by their own feelings that they feel to recognize they are alienating the child in addition to their former partner. Hate, animosity, or resentment are not emotions that comes naturally to children; it has to be taught. A parent that teaches and encourages a child to hate the other parent and his or her new spouse or partner runs the risk of damaging the child both emotionally and psychologically. Unfortunately, with ongoing encouragement and exposure to hate and animosity the negative effects on a child can be lengthy and significant.

THEY MAY TURN AROUND AND HATE YOU ONE DAY

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationship-corner/2016/08/teaching-a-child-to-hate-10-consequences-of-hate/

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Hypocrites

Its amazing how an adult can teach their own children to witness years of abuse and neglect towards their own parents, then stand in disbelief when their own grown child decides to walk away from them!!!!

BLAMING EVERYONE ELSE BUT THEMSELVES.

Be careful what you teach your own children, it may come back to haunt you one day.

Linda – Alienated Parent

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What it means to heal from childhood experiences

 

As I’ve written, Western culture sees healing—it literally means “to make whole”—as restoring something or someone to an undamaged state; when something of value is damaged, such as a painting or other artifact, our practice is always to repair it in such a way that it looks as though the damage never happened.

That tends to be the mindset we bring to our emotional healing from childhood which is, of course, impossible. For that reason, I think it’s far more productive to think of healing using the Japanese art of Kintsugi as the guiding metaphor. When a valuable or cherished ceramic object is broken, the Japanese repair the piece with lacquer mixed with precious metals—gold, silver, or copper—so that the breaks are not only visible but form a pattern of their own, testifying to the object’s history while transforming how it looks. The repaired object remains its old self while becoming an emblem of resilience and newly envisioned beauty. Continue reading “What it means to heal from childhood experiences”

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The psychology of an abusive parent.

Studies have shown that our childhood history plays a huge role in how we are as parents.

Parents who did not have their needs met as children may find it hard to meet the needs of their own children.

Research has also revealed that some parents who were mistreated as children may expose their child to abuse.

Environmental circumstances such as job loss, marital problems, or physical health concerns may contribute to mental health issues like depression or anxiety thus increasing family conflict or abuse in the home.

Many abusive parents are unconsciously repeating behaviors witnessed from their own family.

According to one German psychiatrist Alice Miller abusers have an “unconscious compulsion to repeat.”

“An intellectual understanding — that hitting or belittling a child is wrong, for example — may not be enough to prevent abuse, simply because the drive to repeat occurs on an unconscious level”, Miller says.

Other factors may play a role such as substance abuse problems or suffering from a personality disorder such as schizophrenia.

Despite these circumstances research has also shown that many children of abusers can overcome the odds and break the cycle in adulthood. Continue reading “The psychology of an abusive parent.”

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Invasion of privacy

“A parent may ‘snoop’ at computers or cell phones or check journals or calendars to find information of the child being ‘sneaky’ or ‘suspicious.’”

“The parent will accuse a child of being sneaky, projecting on the child their own behavior.”

Invasion of privacy is a seriously painful thing to experience. If done constantly, it certainly counts as emotional abuse. Continue reading “Invasion of privacy”

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Child maltreatment—emotional abuse.

Parenting is no easy task. Raising a child in this day and age is both challenging and intimidating.

Experiencing the occasional mishap and lapse of judgment is normal. Every parent, after all, makes mistakes.

However, to a good parent, one thing is infallible—to love and care for your child as best as you can.

It is only when you regularly and deliberately fail to do so, that it becomes abuse.

Parental abuse is a prevalent thing in the United States. According to statistics,1 in 8 U.S. children experiences neglect, emotional, or physical abuse.

In this article, we’ll discuss one form of child maltreatment—emotional abuse.

What is it? What are the implications of emotional abuse? And what are the signs of an emotionally abusive parent?

Read ahead to know more. Continue reading “Child maltreatment—emotional abuse.”