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Blurred Lines Between Coercive Control and ‘Petty Harassment’

Unique challenges abound when parents involved in contested matrimonial litigation live under the same roof while the divorce action is pending. This article discusses the standard used for the remedy known as “exclusive use and occupancy” of the marital home while a divorce action is pending.

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The Particular Problems of Hearing the Voice of the Child in cases of Parental Alienation.

The Voice of the Child has become a world wide phenomenon in which the wishes and feelings of children are sought in the family courts, in matters concerning the care of a child and in areas of hea…

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How manipulators control their victims

According to Braiker

Braiker identified the following ways that manipulators control their victims:[1]

  • Positive reinforcement: includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing, money, approval, gifts, attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile, and public recognition.
  • Negative reinforcement: involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward, e.g. “You won’t have to do your homework if you allow me to do this to you.”
  • Intermittent or partial reinforcement: Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an effective climate of fear and doubt. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist – for example in most forms of gambling, the gambler is likely to win now and again but still lose money overall.
  • Punishment: includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, the guilt trip, sulking, crying, and playing the victim.
  • Traumatic one-trial learning: using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator.

According to Braiker

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A message of hope

A message of hope for those parents whose child has been turned against them in a vicious campaign of lies and manipulation.

 

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Behaviors of a Child Being Manipulated

  1. Expletives and Bad-mouthing: The child denigrates the alienated parent with foul language and severe oppositional behavior.
  2. Excuses without Foundation: The child offers weak, absurd or frivolous reasons for his or her anger.
  3. Consistently Negative: The child is sure of him or herself, never swaying from a negative connotation. He/she doesn’t demonstrate confused emotions (i.e. love and hate) for the alienated parent, only the negative hate.
  4. Self-righteous: The child exhorts that he or she alone came up with ideas of denigration. The “independent-thinker” phenomenon is where the child asserts that no one told him to do this.
  5. Protective: supports and feels a need to protect the alienating parent.
  6. Lack of Empathy: the child does not demonstrate guilt over cruelty towards the alienated parent.
  7. Lying & embellishing: the child uses borrowed scenarios or vividly describes situations that he or she could not have experienced.
  8. Anger: Animosity is spread to the friends and/or extended family of the alienated parent.

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