The Voice of the Child has become a world wide phenomenon in which the wishes and feelings of children are sought in the family courts, in matters concerning the care of a child and in areas of hea…
According to Braiker
- Positive reinforcement: includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing, money, approval, gifts, attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile, and public recognition.
- Negative reinforcement: involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward, e.g. “You won’t have to do your homework if you allow me to do this to you.”
- Intermittent or partial reinforcement: Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an effective climate of fear and doubt. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist – for example in most forms of gambling, the gambler is likely to win now and again but still lose money overall.
- Punishment: includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, the guilt trip, sulking, crying, and playing the victim.
- Traumatic one-trial learning: using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator.
A message of hope for those parents whose child has been turned against them in a vicious campaign of lies and manipulation.
- Expletives and Bad-mouthing: The child denigrates the alienated parent with foul language and severe oppositional behavior.
- Excuses without Foundation: The child offers weak, absurd or frivolous reasons for his or her anger.
- Consistently Negative: The child is sure of him or herself, never swaying from a negative connotation. He/she doesn’t demonstrate confused emotions (i.e. love and hate) for the alienated parent, only the negative hate.
- Self-righteous: The child exhorts that he or she alone came up with ideas of denigration. The “independent-thinker” phenomenon is where the child asserts that no one told him to do this.
- Protective: supports and feels a need to protect the alienating parent.
- Lack of Empathy: the child does not demonstrate guilt over cruelty towards the alienated parent.
- Lying & embellishing: the child uses borrowed scenarios or vividly describes situations that he or she could not have experienced.
- Anger: Animosity is spread to the friends and/or extended family of the alienated parent.