Posted in Adult Children of Narcissists, Are You An Alienating Parent?, “Everyone is Disposable to the Narcissists, “logotherapy”, Best Interests of the Child, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Parentification and Language Brokering

Researchers have argued parentification and language brokering experienced in childhood are similar in nature and may have the same deleterious effects on mental health outcomes in adulthood, although there is a dearth of empirical research examining this contention. To address this gap in the literature, parentification was analyzed multidimensionally with subscales for parent-focused parentification, sibling-focused parentification, instrumental parentification, emotional parentification, and perceived unfairness in a nonclinical sample of adults (N = 1,796; Mage = 21.23, SD = 5.25). Overall, we found all parentification scores—with the exception of sibling-focused parentification—to be predictive of mental health outcomes (i.e., depressive, anxiety, and somatic symptoms as well as overall psychological distress). Language brokering showed similar results but to a lesser degree, suggesting parentification had a stronger association with mental health. We also found significant gender differences pointing toward higher levels of parentification and language brokering in male participants. Implications for research and practice are discussed.

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Posted in A GUIDE TO THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME, Are You An Alienating Parent?, Attachment and Parental Alienation, Attachment, Security, Separation and Psychological Differentiation, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder

THREE LEVELS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION

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DIFFERENTIAL DIAGNOSIS OF THE THREE LEVELS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME (PAS) CHILDREN rev.4.2 (1/13/03)

Note: The diagnosis of PAS is based upon the level of symptoms in the child, not on the symptom level of the alienator

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Are You An Alienating Parent?

Written by: Jeff Opperman
for WomansDivorce.com

What do you think would happen if comedian Jeff Foxworthy stopped telling redneck jokes and started talking about Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)?

For example, instead of, “If you’ve ever cut your grass and found a car, you might be a redneck,” we’d hear,

“If you’ve ever disconnected the phone so you child’s other parent couldn’t get through, you might be an alienating parent.”

And in place of, “If someone asks to see your ID and you show them your belt buckle, you might be a redneck,” he’d tell us,

“If you’ve ever intercepted the other parent’s birthday present to the child and told the child ‘your mother/father didn’t send a gift,’ you might be an alienating parent.”

If Foxworthy goes from “you might be a redneck” to “you might be an alienating parent,” he might not be a comedian much longer. There is nothing funny about Parental Alienation Syndrome.

We won’t repeat our variation on Foxworthy’s familiar “… you might be a redneck” refrain after each of the following examples, but we will say it once. You might be an alienating parent if you:

  • Allow the child to talk negatively or disrespectfully about the other parent.
  • Set up tempting alternatives that would interfere with the other parent’s time with the child.
  • Give the child decision-making power about spending time with the other parent when no choice exists.
  • Act hurt and betrayed if the child shows any positive feelings towards the other parent.
  • Use the child as a courier, messenger or spy.
  • Ask the child to lie to the other parent or betray the parent’s trust in the child.
  • Share the details of the divorce settlement with the child.
  • Go without dinner and then tell the child the other parent didn’t give you enough money for everyone to eat dinner.
  • Let the other parent worry needlessly about the child.
  • Infringe on the other parent’s time with excessive phone calls or scheduled activities.

If you are concerned that your behavior might make you an alienating parent, ask yourself this question:

“Did I act this way before the divorce or separation?”

For example, an alienating parent may tell the other parent he or she can’t see the child because the child has a cold. But before your divorce or separation, did you quarantine your child from the other parent over a cold?

An alienating parent may tell the other parent the child can’t come to the phone because he or she is doing homework, watching television or playing with a friend. But when the other parent called home and asked to speak to the busy child before your divorce or separation, did you occasionally ask, “Want me to put him/her on anyway?”

Finally, an alienating parent will often call the child when the child is with the other parent and ask the child if he or she is okay – sending the child the message that the other parent isn’t up to the task of caring for him or her. But when the other parent was spending time alone with the child before your divorce or separation, did you call the child repeatedly and ask, “Are you okay? Are you sure you’re okay? You’d tell me if you weren’t okay, wouldn’t you?”

Don’t engage in alienating behavior and become a bad punch line. Your children deserve better. So do you.

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