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Alienators will be alienated

All alienators will be alienated at some stage in their lives. After instilling bitterness, anger and resentment into their own offspring,this will then become a behavior of that child/adult child that will unfortunately come back to haunt them one day.

If a person that is capable of stealing your children and alienating them against you it does not end there. They are often fraudsters, liars and cheats in life as well. They will cheat and con their own families and friends. They seek out vulnerable people and befriend them, gain their confidence then strike.

Never trust anyone who carries out Parental Alienation, you may be their next victim of fraud.

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Christmas Appeal to all Parental Alienators

STOP pretending you had the perfect childhood and upbringing.

STOP claiming you know everything there is to know about parenting.

STOP deluding yourself into thinking your child loves you more than the other parent.

STOP lying to yourself and your family.

STOP inventing stories to justify your behavior.

STOP believing your are the perfect parent, bringing your children up all alone, single handed with no help!!!!

STOP thinking that everyone looks up to you for being a single parent when you alienated the other parent when people are really too afraid to speak their truth!!!

STOP tearing families apart. destroying the lives of children and grandchildren just for your own revenge.

Is this the legacy you wish to leave behind?

Is this how you would like to remembered?

Is this how you would like your children and grandchildren to be?

STOP NOW AND SEEK HELP.

Yes we have accused you of being Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sociopaths, put whatever label on it you like, but we are all a little crazy, the difference is some of us deal with it better than others, some of us have sought help, some of us are trying to change, trying to break the cycle to make sure our children do not suffer the same psychological wounds.

Unfortunately, not everyone understands mental health problems, there is a lot of stigma and misunderstanding but you need to get over this for the sake of the future generations.

You know you need help, you will not be judged for seeking help, in fact people will respect you for having the courage to change.

So please do this now for your children your grandchildren and all the future generations.

Give yourself the best Christmas present ever, do this for yourself, NOW

RESOURCES- click on the links below

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/about-mental-health/mythsfacts

 

Mental health problems – an introduction

 

What’s a “Grown Wounded Child”?

Thankyou

Linda

 

 

 

 

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CLOSING: Research into Parental Alienation | Overcoming Parental Alienation

http://dialogueingrowth.com.au/closing-research-into-the-lived-experience-of-parental-alienation-in-a-social-context/

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Does shared parenting by separated parents affect the adjustment of young children?

The changing family roles and evidence that most infants form attachment relationships with both of their parents have sparked a debate about parenting arrangements when the parents of infants and toddlers separate. Misunderstanding of attachment theory and the available empirical evidence has obscured rather than clarified evidence-based decision-making. In this report, I closely examine the five studies most frequently referenced in this context and show what they do and do not tell us about the ways in which children’s adjustment can be promoted when their parents separate. Consistent with attachment theory, the evidence suggests that children benefit when parenting plans allow them to maintain meaningful and positive relationships with both of their parents

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Understanding Stages of Grief applied to Parents Affected by Parental Child Abduction / Alienation / Retention

ABP World Group - Parental Abduction Recovery & Kidnapping Recovery

June 23, 2016

Source: Medium.com

“The death of a child is indisputably one of the most incredibly horrible tragedies one can imagine. Whether by sudden accidental circumstance, or by a more lengthy cause as in illness, the loss of a child is undeniably painful to experience. Painful to the parents, parents to the family, and painful to anyone related to the child. Never knowing the laughter of that child again or the tears, the joys and the accomplishments is a pain no parent should ever have to endure, and yet it happens. No one might be to blame. It can just happen”. (Tim Line)


Imagine a similar pain and the same sense of loss, with one exception-the parent is very much aware that the child is alive.

Parental Alienation PAS

The effects of Parental Alienation, Parental Child Abduction and retention are very similar to the loss of a child in some other way…

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Alienators are never wrong

Continuing from the theme of my last post, what’s hardest for me to understand is, after all the long list of dirty, nasty things he did and said to me, how the hell did I succumb to the brainwashing?

I’m an intelligent person. I’m genuinely bright, but that man savaged my self-confidence and always managed to blame it on other people. Again, I’m not saying my mum was a perfect parent; she was far from it. Sometimes she was even cruel, but most of the time she did her best. He made me doubt my own mind. When I felt uncomfortable about him insisting on me going swimming during puberty or deliberately starting intimate and inappropriate conversations, I’d say so – but somehow, he was never wrong. I was. He was never wrong, never at fault, never to blame, and always had a million excuses as to why it’s your own fault that you feel uncomfortable because you misread him drawing pictures of your breasts/got embarrassed by him using the word “erection” during a game of scrabble with two teenagers/kept ornaments of men with large penises around the house.

When you’re consistently told something – in this case that I was imagining his bad behaviour – it sticks eventually. I feel so stupid for falling for this. I can forgive myself for believing in my dad as most kids do. I can forgive myself for not knowing he is a nutter when I was a teenager. What I can’t fathom is how I allowed myself to believe in him as an adult?! I’m currently on my second university degree so I’m not uneducated. My offspring fares excellently – thriving, in fact. No criminal convictions for anyone in my house. I’m a good person. I contribute. I have responsibilites and respect from my friends. And yet, I fell for brainwashing until I was 35. I feel utterly ridiculous.

Unless I’m wrong, I’ve answered my own question. Brainwashing overrides your confidence in your own opinions. When someone you (secretly fear and) look up to and think is your friend builds you a world view from six years old and no one challenges it, when that person insists that they are always right and know better because they are older and male and no one corrects him, it imprints on your mind, despite the evidence of your own eyes and ears, despite your own best judgement, despite your instincts.

http://parentallyalienated.blogspot.fr/2007/10/alienators-are-never-wrong.html

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Why I do not pathologize the alienator-

see the full article http://www.endparentalalienation.com/End_Parental_Alienation/Why_I_do_not_pathologize_the_alienator-Initially_files/Why%20I%20do%20not%20pathologize%20the%20alienator.pdf

Why I do not pathologize the alienator—-INITIALLY:
Almost as much has been written about alienating parents as has
been written about the PAS child, and the literature is, at best,
confusing and contradictory with respect to their mental status,
their motives for the alienation, their receptivity to treatment, their
ability to put the needs and feelings of their children above their
own, and whether or not it is possible to gain their collaboration in
reversing the PAS. I have found that the motivation for the
alienation varies significantly among those who engage in this
perverse activity. It is so important, therefore, to assess for the
motivations as it is sometimes possible to resolve the underlying
fears and concerns of alienators in co- parenting counseling and
then gaining their cooperation to reverse the PAS. This was the
outcome in approximately 30% of my treatment cases as discussed
in my book.
When I am referred a case by the court or by the lawyer for the
child to do treatment, reunification therapy, and/or assess for the
presence of the PAS, I do not rush to judgment in pathologizing
the parent who is alleged to be alienating. And I always attempt
treatment before making a recommendation for a transfer of
custody. Why? I have discovered in treating these cases during a
period of 17 years that, if cooperation can be gained from the
alienator, the PAS has the best chance of reversal and very swiftly
at that—–sometimes in as few as two or three sessions! However,
if the alienator refused to participate in the therapy and continued
to engage in alienating behaviors, my reunification therapy lasted
upwards of a year or more.