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I am divorcing a narcissist…

Accordingly to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, someone exhibiting five or more of the traits set out below can be suffering from a narcistic personality disorder:-

• A need for excessive attention and admiration.

• A sense of entitlement particularly to special treatment.

• A grandiose sense of self-importance.

• A pre-occupation of fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty or ideal love.

• A belief that one is special and can only be understood by or associated with special people or institutions.

• An exploitation of others.

• A lack of empathy.

• An envy of others or the belief that one is the object of envy.

• Arrogant behaviour or attitude. Continue reading “I am divorcing a narcissist…”

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Shared Parenting After Parental Separation: The Views of 12 Experts

This article summarizes panel discussions that took place at an international conference on shared parenting (SP) held in May 2017. The panelists were internationally recognized experts on the legal and psychological implications of custody arrangements and parenting plans. Seven broad themes dominated the discussions: whether or not there was persuasive evidence that SP provides real benefits to children whose parents separate; what specific factors make SP beneficial; what symbolic value SP might have; whether there should be a legal presumption in favor of SP, and if so, what factors should make for exceptions; whether high parental conflict, parents’ failure to agree on the parenting plan, or dynamics of parental alienation should preclude SP; and what should happen when a parent wants to relocate away from the other parent.

Continue reading “Shared Parenting After Parental Separation: The Views of 12 Experts”

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Working with the Intrapsychic Experience of the Alienated Child

As someone who works with alienated children almost daily, I know a lot about the subject of parental alienation. I read a lot about it as well as write about it but most of what I know comes direc…

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#PAS ~ If It Was Terrorism Would The Governments Act?

Aftermath of Parental Alienation


Yet, it is a little-known fact that children who are abducted by one parent and alienated from the other are likely to suffer emotional and psychological damage that impacts their entire lives. Rather than being perpetrated as a desperate act of rescue by one parent from another, most parental abductions are the manifestation of hatred. One spouse is so desperate to inflict pain upon the other estranged spouse that they are willing to prevent the hated spouse from enjoying the love of their child.

However, in order to successfully accomplish this act of hatred, the abducting parent must alienate the child from their estranged spouse. This requires a measure of psychological manipulation that convinces the child their other parent is a monster who will do significant harm to them – even kill them – if they don’t flee and hide.

Ten years ago, the estranged wife of producer/director Glenn Gebhard abducted their twin toddlers – Glenn and Shannon – and fled to Germany. Although there are laws that would ensure the return of the children, Germany (and many other countries) have refused to intervene on behalf of the parent from whom the children were abducted. In an effort to find support for his quest, Gebhard located PACT (Parents and Abducted Children Together) a non-profit organization in the United Kingdom that was created by Lady Catherine Meyer, wife of the British Ambassador to the US. Lady Meyer’s children had also been abducted by her first husband and taken to Germany.

Rather than tell the story of the parents who are left behind, Lady Meyer helped find a grant from the Donald W. Reynolds Foundation to fund the documentary to explore the subject of what happens to the children when they grow up. Through PACT, Gebhard was able to locate three adults who had suffered through this ordeal as children. This is their story – but it is the story of millions of other children.

According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, in 1999 – the last year for which statistics are available – 757,500 children were reported missing in America. 203,900 were victims of family abduction. In other words, in the ten years since Gebhard’s children were abducted and alienated from him, more than 2 million other American children have suffered the same terrible fate. In the decades prior to this, millions more have endured the trauma and are living adult lives that have left them with extreme psychological trauma and emotional dysfunction.

This is new information on a topic that has never before been explored. It is only available now because these three subjects trusted the filmmaker. They are not looking for their 15 minutes of fame. They do not want to be the new reality-celebrity. They agreed to participate in this project because they wanted to help Gebhard and Meyer understand what their children were going through and to reveal the essential truth of this crime.

This is a ground-breaking study of a topic that can change lives. It is the filmmaker’s sincere hope that any parent that is thinking of abducting and alienating their child will understand the ultimate ending of the story and reconsider their options for the sake of their children – and for themselves.

Caring and Sharing

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The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study – RESULTS

Background: The relationship of health risk behavior and disease in adulthood to the breadth of
exposure to childhood emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, and household dysfunction
during childhood has not previously been described.
Methods: A questionnaire about adverse childhood experiences was mailed to 13,494 adults who had
completed a standardized medical evaluation at a large HMO; 9,508 (70.5%) responded.
Seven categories of adverse childhood experiences were studied: psychological, physical, or
sexual abuse; violence against mother; or living with household members who were
substance abusers, mentally ill or suicidal, or ever imprisoned. The number of categories
of these adverse childhood experiences was then compared to measures of adult risk
behavior, health status, and disease. Logistic regression was used to adjust for effects of
demographic factors on the association between the cumulative number of categories of
childhood exposures (range: 0–7) and risk factors for the leading causes of death in adult life

Click below to read the complete article and the results.