If you have HPD, you may typically feel the constant need to act in specific ways to receive a lot of attention wherever you are. If you aren’t receiving a lot of attention, you might feel deeply uncomfortable and disappointed.
To get this attention, you might start using different tactics. Some examples include:
- dressing dramatically or provocatively
- making up or exaggerating stories about you or things that have happened to you
- exaggerating or making up the symptoms of an illness
- showering other people with compliments and love declarations even if you just met them
- getting into minor accidents that require other people to “rescue” you
- getting competitive with others in many situations or trying to trump whatever they’re talking about (e.g., “That happened to me, but in this better way”)
Remember, these aren’t deliberate attempts to manipulate others.
Most of the time, these are unconscious behavioral patterns that are adopted over years because they’ve worked in the past.
Every time you got positive attention for any of these behaviors, you felt accepted, and you liked that. That could have led you to repeat or cause these incidents to feel this way again. Now, you thrive on getting this attention.
Your need for attention might trump everything else and is the driving force behind how you act. That’s why some of your behaviors might not follow the social norm, or might seem inappropriate to others.
Because of this, you might also feel drawn to low-key people who don’t mind letting you get more attention.