Firstly, say nothing to the police (they are only there to convict you) and get an attorney. Whether a man or woman is making the claims there is a good chance that a no-contact order will be put in place. Follow it to the letter. Government lawmakers have made it all too easy for anyone to make claims of abuse and domestic violence. The truth is there is very little difference in the eyes of the law between abuse or violence. Anyone can make a claim and what you are arrested and charged, your own private hell begins.