Q – How do you decide which subjects to post on?
A – I work from key search words on my site, and questions people ask via the site or social media. Sometimes it could be something I am working on with a client that I think may be of interest.
Q – Are you posting continuously through the day and night, some of your posts appear very early in the morning?
A – I wish I had the time, no. The majority of my posts are created, grouped together on similar subjects and scheduled through the WordPress calendar so they arrive at various times in the day throughout the world. Many of our readers are in the USA.
Q – Are you still giving free consultations?
A – No sorry thing’s have been so hectic recently and I was spending hours on WhatsApp, Skype, Zoom and Facetime. However; I am happy to offer just 1 hours consultation, you can see my rates on the payment page, to be paid in advance through PayPal.
Q – Do you do group sessions?
A – I tried earlier this year with the PARENTAL ALEINATION RECOVERY PROGRAMME, but with focused therapy and counselling you need to study a persons words, responses, body language and tone to be effective. Everyone’s needs and situation are unique and requires 1 to 1 attention.
Q – How long have you been alienated?
A – I think now my children are adults and have the choice, I no longer refer to my situation as alienation. But the situation has been going on for over 30 years now.
Q – At what stage did you realise your situation was PA?
A – Not for some time, it started back in 1991, and there was little information around and the internet was relatively new. I had some Therapy in 1995 and began studying Psychology online, then I realised it was more than Estrangement.
Q – Did you get much help and support from Social Services?
A – NO, they did not appear to recognise PA and many of their staff are young with no children and fresh out of University with no life experience. Nothing much has changed!!!!
Q – What resources did you use back then to educate yourself on PA?
A – Dr Ludwig F.Lowenstein M.A., Dip. Psych., Ph.D. who sadly is no longer with us wrote some excellent articles on PA, some of which can still be found on this site. He was one of the first.
Not forgetting Pete Walker author of the most popular book, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving who I came across in 2015. He has been working as a counselor, lecturer, writer and group leader for thirty-five years, and as a supervisor and consultant of other therapists for over 20 years. You can find many of Pete Walkers original posts under experts https://parentalalienation-pas.com/category/experts/pete-walker/
Another useful resources I found and worked through for over 4 years is Peter K. Gerlach, M.S.W. January 27th 1938 – October 22, 2015 who wrote ” Whos running your life?“
“My life purpose is to educate and motivate other people to protect future generations and break the toxic [wounds + unawareness] cycle that is crippling many persons, families, and our society.” Peter K. Gerlach.
He was one of the pioneers working on IFS Internal Family Systems over 30 years ago.
I discovered his work back in 1994!
Q – How and why do you do Therapy and Counselling work?
A – 4 years ago when things went wrong yet again with a family member I decided to dig deeper into the psychology of PA which lead me to qualify as a Counsellor and Therapist. I am now using my knowledge, skills, experience and qualifications to help others with trauma and emotional abuse both online and 1 to 1.
You need to go through your own healing journey in order to do this work effectively. I love the work I do now, and enjoy watching my clients heal and go on to lead a happy and healthy life, with or without their children.
Its a never ending journey for me.