Why do narcissists pathologically divide and destroy their own families ? What do they gain ?
A narcissist has a dysfunctional way of understanding power hierarchies. In the mind of a narcissist no can be allowed to achieve success equal to or greater than their own. They simply do not understand or value the concept that a family unit can, by building and utilizing each members strengths, become stronger, greater than the sum of its parts. No one will be allowed to grow because this is seen as a threat to the power the narcissist wields. Narcissists are very hierarchical in their thinking. In the disordered highly hierarchical world view of a narcissist there are only three positions one can be in.