Overview of Interpersonal Acceptance-Rejection Theory (IPARTheory)
Anger, negative self-feelings, and the other consequences of perceived rejection tend to diminish rejected children’s and adults’ capacity to deal effectively with stress. Because of this, children who feel rejected often have problems with emotion regulation. That is, they tend to be less emotionally stable than children who feel accepted. They often become emotionally upset—perhaps tearful or angry—when confronted with stressful situations that accepted (loved) children are able to handle with greater emotional equanimity. All these acutely painful feelings associated with perceived rejection tend to induce children and adults to develop a negative worldview. That is, according to IPARTheory, rejected persons are likely to develop a view of the world—of life, interpersonal relationships, and the very nature of human existence—as being untrustworthy, hostile, unfriendly, emotionally unsafe, threatening, or dangerous in other ways.