Low Emotional Intelligence
They Always Have to Be ‘Right’
You probably know someone who always seems to get into arguments with others. Friends, family, co-workers, and even random strangers find themselves embroiled in disputes with these argumentative individuals.
People with low EQ will often argue a point to death while refusing to listen to what anyone else has to say. Even if you provide them with proof that they are wrong, they will argue that your facts are wrong.
They have to win at all costs and find it impossible to simply “agree to disagree.” This is particularly true if other people are critical of how the individual does not understand what others are feeling.
They’re Oblivious to Other People’s Feelings
Many people with low EQ are seemingly oblivious to other’s feelings. They may be genuinely surprised that their partner is angry at them or that their co-workers don’t like them.
They Behave Insensitively
For the most part, people with low EQ don’t know the right thing to say. They may also fail to comprehend appropriate versus inappropriate timing of saying things.
For example, they might say something insensitive at a funeral or make a joke right after a tragic event. If you react to their out-of-line response, they act as if you’re being overly sensitive.
Because they have difficulty understanding the emotions of others, it’s no surprise that they are unable to interpret and appropriately respond to the emotional tone and atmosphere.
They Blame Others for Their Problems
People with low EQ have little insight into how their emotions might lead to problems. The one thing a person with low emotional intelligence won’t do is hold themselves accountable for their actions.
When something goes wrong, their first reaction is to find someone or something else to blame. They might suggest that they had no other choice for what they did and that others simply don’t understand their situation.
For example, if they read through your texts, it’s your fault for leaving your phone unlocked. If they fail an assignment, break a window, don’t get the job, or burn dinner, somehow, someway they will make it someone else’s fault.
They Have Poor Coping Skills
An inability to cope with emotionally-charged situations can be an indicator of low EQ. Strong emotions, whether their own or those of others, are difficult to comprehend for those with low emotional intelligence.
These individuals will often walk away from these situations to avoid having to deal with the emotional fallout. Hiding their true emotions is also very common.
They Have Emotional Outbursts
The ability to regulate emotions is one of the components of emotional intelligence. People with low EQ often struggle to understand and control their emotions. They might lash out reactively without understanding what they are really feeling or why they are so upset.
A person who lacks EQ might also have unexpected emotional outbursts that seem overblown and uncontrollable. The smallest things set them off into a tirade that can last for minutes, even hours.
They Struggle With Relationships
People with low EQ often have very few close friends. This is because close friendships require a mutual give-and-take, sharing of emotions, compassion, and emotional support, all characteristics low-EQ individuals typically lack. Instead, people with low EQ often come off as abrasive and unfeeling.
They Turn Conversations Toward Themselves
Emotionally unintelligent people tend to dominate the conversation. Even if they are asking questions and appear to be listening intently, they always find a way to shift everything back to them. Usually, they have to prove that whatever you’re experiencing, they’ve had it better or worse.
No matter what you say, they’ve been there, done that. You’ve been in a car accident? They have too…and their dog died. Going to climb Mount Kilimanjaro? They climbed Mount Everest four years ago. They can send you a list of tips if you want!