Parent-child relationship problems: The do’s and don’ts
• Do not recommend a change in custody if one parent is behaving badly. Custody reversal may be necessary in some cases, but it is not the role of the counselor to make that determination.
• Do not align with one parent over the other.
• Do cooperate with parenting coordinators and the courts.
• Do recognize that parents in litigation are likely to be working toward an adult-oriented outcome — namely to prevail in court.
• Do consider a variety of explanations when working with a child or teenager who irrationally rejects a parent.
• Do not discard information that is inconsistent with the counselor’s viewpoint.