Breaking the trauma bond

There is no easy answer, but to break the trauma bond a victim needs to have alternative healthy relationships available and be isolated from the abusers for a significant period of time. This allows the child time to heal and come to terms with the trauma they experienced, re-shaping the nature of future relationships. Observing this situation, particularly as a parent, can be heart-breaking, but the consistent presence of the parent and carer means that the child is not solely dependent on the abuser (which is what the abuser wants) and has a place of safety to flee to.

If you are worried a child is in a possible abusive relationship or is at risk of child sexual exploitation, see Pace’s services for parents. Also sign up to our newsletter to be kept up to date on new developments and research in trauma.

4 thoughts on “Breaking the trauma bond

  1. I was by the Grace of God, truly to forgive my stepfather for the sexual phisical mental and emotional abuse the sexual at 13 years old until 17. I still love him in a very different way and call him often. he lives in Italy I am in the USA.I left my Country of birth to take away my little girl just in case… lost all and had to work in a bad job to raise my child after my divorce from a man that beat me and one day almost chocked me to death. God granted me a man these last 25 years that never raised a hand on me. Sorry so long. God bless you.


    1. Child of God, thankyou for sharing your story. I am so happy that you have now found true love and can find it in your heart to forgive your abuser. May peace and love be with you always.


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