There is no easy answer, but to break the trauma bond a victim needs to have alternative healthy relationships available and be isolated from the abusers for a significant period of time. This allows the child time to heal and come to terms with the trauma they experienced, re-shaping the nature of future relationships. Observing this situation, particularly as a parent, can be heart-breaking, but the consistent presence of the parent and carer means that the child is not solely dependent on the abuser (which is what the abuser wants) and has a place of safety to flee to.
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I was by the Grace of God, truly to forgive my stepfather for the sexual phisical mental and emotional abuse the sexual at 13 years old until 17. I still love him in a very different way and call him often. he lives in Italy I am in the USA.I left my Country of birth to take away my little girl just in case… lost all and had to work in a bad job to raise my child after my divorce from a man that beat me and one day almost chocked me to death. God granted me a man these last 25 years that never raised a hand on me. Sorry so long. God bless you.
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Child of God, thankyou for sharing your story. I am so happy that you have now found true love and can find it in your heart to forgive your abuser. May peace and love be with you always.
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