It’s Okay to Say Goodbye When…
- The relationship is physically or mentally abusive. Don’t downplay the effects of these kinds of abuse, especially long-term. It may take counseling to realize you’ve been abused.
- It causes enough stress that it affects important aspects/areas of your life, like work or home life.
- You find yourself spending a lot of time thinking about the sour relationship and losing sleep over it. Don’t underestimate how lack of sleep and stress effect your health.
- The relationship is one-sided when there is no valid reason why there isn’t some effort made by the other person.
- The relationship is only about borrowing money.
- The family member is taking you down with them or constantly demanding favors or asking you to bail them out of trouble. Don’t get involved in risky business and legal trouble, even if they are family.
- The person is using gossip to manipulate and control you and/or other family members against you.
- All contact with them is negative. They only call to bring you down and put you down, too.
- There are negative consequences every time this family member doesn’t get what they want from you.
- They play childish games— the silent treatment, blame games— and there is no talking to them. It’s their way or no way.
Most people know intuitively when it’s time to cut ties. Listen to yourself.
Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.