Stop making excuses for your adult child’s behavior. Telling yourself that your daughter was short with you because she’s stressed at work only gives her permission to continue her rude behavior. Hold your child responsible for her behavior and notify her when you feel violated or hurt.
Withdraw yourself from the relationship if the behavior continues. While you may not be able to put your adult child in time out for rudeness, you can take a time out from spending time together. Show your child that a relationship with you is no longer a necessity, but a privilege. Respect is a two-way street and you needn’t continuously submit yourself to rudeness and disrespect at the hands of your own child. Return as an active contributor to the relationship once your child acknowledges his behavior, apologizes and commits to acting more respectfully in the future.