The door of empathy…
Let me be clear, none of this attachment pathology surrounding divorce is being caused by the targeted parent. The targeted parent is a target of domestic violence – emotional spousal abuse using the child as a weapon.
Furthermore, in weaponizing the child the allied parent is creating such severe psychopathology in the child that it rises to the level of a confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of child psychological abuse (V995.51; p. 719).
The family pathology in complex family conflict surrounding divorce is a cross-generational coalition of the child with a narcissistic-borderline parent who is using the child as a weapon against the other spouse-and-parent. It is the responsibility of professional psychology to fully assess, accurately diagnose, and effectively treat this pathology
It is a trauma pathology. The trans-generational transmission of trauma. The ripple of trauma across the generations.
Complex trauma is created by the absence of parental empathy for the child. It is solved by parental empathy for the child – not for the delusion – empathy for the child.
For therapists, start with some basic human empathy for the targeted parent, the victim of the intimate partner violence.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857