The child’s experience is all twisted up in some way. What’s up with that? I want to find out more. That’s called caring and empathy for the child’s world.
From the degree of the child’s emotionality, that must be a very painful place to live in, the child. What is the pain, and what can we do about it? Let’s find out.
Oh, but then you know what’s going to happen if I ask the child to tell me more? The child is going to say all this untrue and foul stuff. I know. That’s all the garbage from the other parent, isn’t it. Boy oh boy, that must feel awful in the child to be holding onto all that garbage.
I bet the child needs to get that garbage out of them. But where can it go?… to you.