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How to STOP emotional blackmail

“Manipulation is an emotionally unhealthy psychological strategy used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need in a direct way. People who are trying to manipulate others are trying to control others.”

For emotional blackmail to occur, the manipulator needs to make a demand followed by a threat if the victim refuses to comply.

And if you don’t know it yet, manipulators adopt one or more roles using one or more of the strategies discussed above to emotionally blackmail you. Here are the four types of roles used to get you to do what they want:

1. Punisher role

This role uses the fear strategy where they threaten to punish you if demands are not met. They tell you what the consequences are if you will not do a particular thing.

The punishments include but is not limited to withholding affection, ending the relationship, restricting you from seeing friends and family, financial penalties, and physical punishment.

2. Self-punisher role

3. Sufferer role

4. Tantalizer role

  • Set boundaries

  • Confront the blackmailer

  • Get psychological help for the manipulator

  • Love is without blackmail

  • Remove yourself or the manipulator in the equation


Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Hypnotherapy. Qualified NLP practitioner and CBT therapist. REIKI Master. I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

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