Have you ever noticed that when someone is very negative and always complaining they may start to influence you and you may start to see only the negative events or negative side of things as they do?
The way you think can be conditioned and a person can also be psychologically manipulated to have a negative thinking pattern, to always see the negative side of things or expect the worse, or to see the negatives out of a situation or event reflexively instead of being open minded or thinking of the positives first.
A tactic often used is to constantly interpret or expose the victim to negativity. In some cases it’s used to induce or can lead to depression. (linked to self-esteem or self-worth)
The opposite is also true. You can condition your mind to think positively or expect positive outcomes. It’s not easy at first and does require effort but eventually it can change and become almost automatic, reflexive, where you will be thinking positively instead of negatively. You may have heard these expressions “look on the bright side, put a positive spin on it or spin it positively”.
Try this exercise: Think of all the positives that you can imagine out of a situation or event and try to think of the possible positive outcomes first.