You WANT to be “put under the narcissists spell” because being “tricked” or “hypnotised” is how you experienced love from your parent as a child, and your parental love is your core template for how you learn to love yourself and how you learn what love is in other people.
THE PROGRAMMING THAT PERMITS THE NARCISSIST TO WORM THEIR WAY INTO YOUR LIFE WILL USUALLY HAVE BEEN PLACED THERE IN CHILDHOOD BY ONE OR BOTH PARENTS.
Once they have such a person who is “pre-brainwashed” since childhood to obey the overbearing, contradictory, sadistic demands, ambient abuse and gas-lighting of a tyrannical, self-absorbed narcissist it is child’s play to make their “mind control” schemes work. The victim tells themselves that the “narcissist is all powerful and very cunning and sly” but really the work is all done for the narcissist in the mind of the enabling co-dependent who pushes through all the red flags of the coming abuse by clinging stubbornly to what Sam Vaknin calls the “malignant optimism” of the die-hard co-dependent enabler who is hell bent on annihilating themselves in the infinite, sucking vortex of the narcissists poisonous self-obsession.
“IF ONLY THEY WERE SHOWN ENOUGH LOVE,
THEY WOULD BE HEALED AND LOVE ME BACK”
…insists the enabler rigidly, savagely ignoring ALL evidence to the contrary. This truly is a match made in hell, and truth be told, both participants in this dance are clinging as fiercely to each other as each other.