Learn to say sorry:
If you decide to walk the path of reconciliation, it is a must that let go of pain and anger. Be aware that forgiving, being opening to change, and rebuilding trust are three essential ingredients of marriage reconciliation after separation. It is often the case that one spouse says heartbreak words to the other one on an impulse, that prompts the other’s thought of divorce and then the other does indeed takes action towards getting those divorce papers; but as a consequence, the hasty actions put each other out on a limp, and the couple will regret it sooner or later; beyond question, any impulsive decision is invariably harmful; so if you admit that you ever separated from your spouse on the spur of the moment, you should learn to use your sincere apology to heal your emotional trauma that has been left untreated before.
Like a lot of people, if you also find it difficult to apologize and admit err and wrongdoing in front of your spouse, you have to change your mindset; apology should be viewed as an essential part of a healthy marriage. Apologizing to your spouse when appropriate can promote forgiveness, validate your spouse’s feelings, and allow you two to move on from the unpleasant past.