Game #1: Gain, Preserve or Acquire Control
Toxic people are all about control—if they don’t have control over other people, they have nothing.
If they can elicit a particular response from you or move you to do what they want, this gives them the feeling of power that they are looking for. This makes them feel like they are in control over the situation and it also gives them the feeling of power over you.
What’s the story behind this? Toxic people need to have control everywhere, but if they can’t get it wherever they want it, they’ll double the dose on you. So if they can’t have control at work, they’ll search for it elsewhere—ergo they’ll make up for it with you.
Pay attention if you’re purposely giving the control to satisfy the person playing the mind game or are you being manipulated?