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As you might expect, individuals with antisocial and narcissistic personality disorders scored high on this trait. Antisocial disorder is a pattern of disregarding or violating the rights of others, and people with this disorder may not follow laws or social norms. People with narcissistic personality disorder also don’t have empathy for others, and feel the need to be in the spotlight frequently or show off their achievements. They may take advantage of others due to their sense of entitlement. In addition, people who have histrionic personality disorder scored high on this trait. Histrionic personality disorder is characterized by excessive displays of emotion and attention-seeking behavior.


People with paranoid, schizotypal, antisocial, dependent, narcissistic, and borderline personality disorders scored high on this trait. People with paranoid personality disorder view others’ motives as suspicious and spiteful, and those with schizotypal personality disorder have distorted thinking and extreme discomfort in close relationships. Dependent personality disorder, as you might guess, is a pattern of feeling helpless and needing to be taken care of. People with this disorder often fear being alone and display clingy behavior. Those with borderline personality disorder have great instability in their self-image, relationships with others, and emotions.


Paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, narcissistic, and avoidant personality disorders are high in this trait. People with schizoid personality disorder detach themselves from relationships and usually don’t display much emotion. They prefer being alone, and may not respond to others’ emotions, especially to praise or criticism. Those with avoidant personality disorder, however, are very sensitive to criticism and may avoid social activities due to feeling inferior or inadequate. Individuals with this disorder obsess over what other people think about them and have poor self-esteem.


Obviously, people with avoidant personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder scored high in this trait. People with schizoid personality disorder also scored highly here, as they don’t tend to form close relationships with others.


People with schizoid, schizotypal, and avoidant personality disorders are most likely to be nonassertive. On the opposite end, however, those with narcissistic and antisocial personality disorders score high in assertiveness.


Narcissistic, antisocial, and dependent personality disorders scored high in this trait, as all three center around using others for personal gain in some manner.


People with dependent personality disorders display this trait, as they need to form close bonds with others in order to get them to take care of them.


The people that scored highest here are those with narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, dependent, and antisocial personality disorders.

Interestingly, those with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder had fairly stable interpersonal personality traits, as this disorder does not usually affect relationships either positively or negatively.

Final thoughts

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In all walks of life, you will find that one person, or perhaps a few that hold vindictive personality disorders. It’s hard to avoid because many of us are not expert psychologists and have not been trained to see signs in people before it’s too late or they have weasled their way into your workplace or life.
If you are anything like me, you always want to see the best in people. You understand that no person is perfect, and that they often are dealing with their own demons that come out in force when they feel that they don’t have 100 percent control over a situation.

Their pain is unbearable

A vindictive person has misguided pain. They feel frustrated, helpless, hurt or ignored and are unable to change their circumstances without ensuring that they affect others in the meantime. They don’t have the necessary strength inside to find better ways to handle their feelings.

Instead, they lash out and convert pain into anger and seek revenge by taking that pain out on others.

Most commonly, they want to bring others down with them. They feel by using the power of manipulation, they are able to not have to experience the misery by themselves – they can in fact bring others in. They are the core of toxic behaviour in the workplace and contrary to many stories you read, it often is someone in a team, and not the manager or leader who is usually too busy to notice what is really going on.


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What leads certain people to seek vengeance? Sadism

People who enjoy hurting others and seeing them in pain are more likely to seek revenge against those who have wronged them, according to a new study led by a Virginia Commonwealth University psychology professor.

The study, “Personality Correlates of Revenge-Seeking: Multidimensional Links to Physical Aggression, Impulsivity, and Aggressive Pleasure,” found that sadism is the dominant personality trait that explains why certain people are more likely than others to seek vengeance.

“We wanted to paint a picture of the personality of the type of person who seeks revenge. We’re all slighted in our daily lives, but some of us seek revenge and some of us do not. So what kind of person is the person who seeks vengeance?” said David Chester, Ph.D., an assistant professor in the Department of Psychology in the College of Humanities and Sciences at VCU. “The core of what we found is that the person who seeks revenge is a person who tends to enjoy it.”

The study, which will appear in a forthcoming edition of the journal Aggressive Behavior, was conducted by Chester and C. Nathan DeWall, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Kentucky.

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Christmas Planning – Day 12

This is a Christmas Appeal to all

Parental Alienators

STOP pretending you had the perfect childhood and upbringing.

STOP claiming you know everything there is to know about parenting.

STOP deluding yourself into thinking your child loves you more than the other parent.

STOP lying to yourself and your family.

STOP inventing stories to justify your behavior.

STOP believing your are the perfect parent, bringing your children up all alone, single handed with no help!!!!

STOP thinking that everyone looks up to you for being a single parent when you alienated the other parent when people are really too afraid to speak their truth!!!

STOP tearing families apart. destroying the lives of children and grandchildren just for your own revenge.

Is this the legacy you wish to leave behind?

Is this how you would like to remembered?

Is this how you would like your children and grandchildren to be?


Yes we have accused you of being Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sociopaths, put whatever label on it you like, but we are all a little crazy, the difference is some of us deal with it better than others, some of us have sought help, some of us are trying to change, trying to break the cycle to make sure our children do not suffer the same psychological wounds.

Unfortunately, not everyone understands mental health problems, there is a lot of stigma and misunderstanding but you need to get over this for the sake of the future generations.

You know you need help, you will not be judged for seeking help, in fact people will respect you for having the courage to change.

So please do this now for your children your grandchildren and all the future generations.

Give yourself the best Christmas present ever, do this for yourself, NOW

Mental health problems – an introduction