If you suspect that someone you know may be a pathological liar, read the online test found at Promises Treatment Center. The test can be a helpful starting point for signs to look out for as it provides clear indicators for evaluation and makes you reflect on things by asking:
- Does the person chronically lie about small things? People who are pathological liars tend to lie frequently, even about random and insignificant things like what they ate for dinner or which television show they watched last night. Random lying about inconsequential things is a hallmark of pathological liars.
- Does the person frequently spin elaborate stories that are easily disproved? Pathological liars are known for creating intricate, far-fetched stories that are often unbelievable. They seem to have little regard for credibility and make little effort to develop stories that others might find plausible.
- Does the person become hostile and defensive when challenged? Pathological liars get extremely angry when confronted with proof of their falsehoods. They often balk at innocent questions about their fabrications. Many pathological liars believe their lies and find it more comfortable to lie than tell the truth.
- Does the person often contradict themselves, their past, their contacts, and their achievements? Pathological liars tell stories that are often inconsistent with previous lies. They are usually unconcerned about concealing their inconsistencies. When questioned or confronted, they revert to anger and hostility.
- Does the person show remorse for lying? Pathological liars often do not believe they are lying and have no remorse for their lies. If they are aware of their lies, they do not show it. They are more concerned with the internal gratification they feel than the threat of being revealed as untrustworthy.
Living with a pathological liar is very challenging for the liar’s significant other, family members, friends, and co-workers. Spouses and significant others never know where they stand in the relationship. Loving a pathological liar can also mean never feeling secure and knowing that your relationship may be built on a foundation of deceit. People who love pathological liars and are involved with them in any capacity need to establish boundaries for their own mental health care and mental well-being. It’s also important to remember you are not alone, being in a relationship with a liar can feel very lonely and isolating but it doesn’t have to be. A host of support is available for you if you seek it.