But if you are going to act like a doormat – you will be treated as a doormat by everyone around you. You will be taken advantage of, hurt, and lied to because you have made it known that all it takes is a simple “I’m Sorry!” and all is forgiven. I’m learning that if someone truly loves you – they will not only say that they are sorry for hurting you, but they will show it too. I wish I would have stood up for myself as a child and really told Mom how her treatment of me was not “OK”; but I forgive myself for that. I forgive myself easily for that.