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Christmas Planning – Day 4

Parental Alienators like to go beyond mental cruelty especially at Christmas time!!!

After reading Viktor Emil Frankl – Mans Search for meaning many years ago, I began to understand how it is possible, to overcome the shock and trauma of not being allowed to speak, see or give Xmas presents to your children for many years at Christmas time.

Frankl identifies three psychological reactions experienced by all inmates to one degree or another:

(1) shock during the initial admission phase to the camp, (2) apathy after becoming accustomed to camp existence, in which the inmate values only that which helps himself and his friends survive, and (3) reactions of depersonalization, moral deformity, bitterness, and disillusionment if he survives and is liberated.[5]

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
What is to give light must endure burning.”

Viktor Frankl was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor, surviving Theresienstadt, Auschwitz, Kaufering and Türkheim.

Offer up your night to the Hackney Winter Night Shelter

Open from November to March each year, Hackney Winter Night Shelter offers a bed for the night and a hot meal for people who would otherwise be sleeping rough. Without its team of volunteers, it simply would be unable to run.

Volunteer for Shelter

Volunteers are integral to our fight against bad housing and homelessness.

Discover the many ways you can volunteer with Shelter and make a real difference whilst developing your own skills.

London Winter Shelters list 2019/20 published

Friday, 1 November 2019 – 3:30pm

Winter will soon officially be upon us, which means winter night shelters will be opening their doors. It is also time for Homeless Link to publish our list of London emergency shelters available this winter.

Shelter from the storm

Read SFTS Privacy Notice and Consent – Volunteers here

Volunteer Signup Form

If you experience any problems just email us at :
Once we receive the completed form someone will be in touch to arrange for a trial shift

We operate 7 days a week and need volunteers for the following shifts

  • Evening: Arrive at 5pm to 9pm. Help with cooking, laundry, cleaning, clothing store and talking with the guests.
  • Overnight: Arrive at 8.30pm and stay overnight to keep guests safe, leaving at 6.30am when the breakfast team arrive.
  • Breakfast: Arrive 6.30am to 8.30am. Prepare and serve breakfast

Volunteering at the Marylebone Project

Volunteers play an important role in the work we do at the Marylebone Project and mean that we can offer a variety of activities and increased support to the women we work with. Volunteering is a great chance to make use of your skills and gain experience whilst giving something back to the community.

How to Apply

To apply for any of the below volunteer roles please complete a Volunteer Application Form and e-mail it to You are welcome to send a completed application form as a general application and suggest ways in which you might be able to help, but please note that we may not be able to respond to all applications – we will be in touch if we have a role suitable for you!

To enquire about group or corporate volunteering opportunities contact Angela Owen at

Snowflake Night Shelter

Volunteers are welcome from all Communities in the area.

They are an integral part of the Snowflake Night Shelter’s success. They are the ones that create real change for those most in need. This is your chance to meet new people, gain new skills and experience and have fun whilst being part of a great cause. We need Night Shelter Volunteers to help tackle the issue of homelessness this winter and provide support to those who are most vulnerable.

What does a Volunteer Do?

Main tasks include:

  • Setting up at Venue (unloading van, putting up beds, arranging chairs and tables – putting kettle on!)
  • Basic food preparation
  • Serving evening meal
  • Serving hot drinks and food
  • Engaging with and chatting to Guests
  • Supporting with housekeeping and ensuring the facilities remain clean

The Volunteers` Handbook sets out the routines which are followed when engaging with the Guests in the Night Shelter, please  click on link to view or email to request a paper copy.

Skills needed:

  • Energy and enthusiasm

  • Being non judgemental

  • Commitment and dependability

  • Willing to learn and listen




If you would like to volunteer in our shelters this season, please contact your local venues directly using the links below


Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Biological psychology, Counselling psychology and CBT and NLP. I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

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