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Christmas Planning – Day 2

Book a Christmas shift

High street shops often offer higher wages or ‘double pay’ during the festive period to recruit more members of staff to meet shopping demands.

Christmas Temporary Workers-Twilight Shift
K2 Recruitment
Bicester, United Kingdom (+1 other)
Christmas Bar & Waiting shifts @ £8.21-£10.55 per hour paid after…
Brightsparks Recruitment
London, UK
Christmas Night Shift Warehouse Loaders
All Temps Recruitment
South Shields, United Kingdom (+1 other)
Christmas Temporary Workers-Twilight Shift
K2 Recruitment
Bicester, United Kingdom (+1 other)
Christmas contract NIGHT PARCEL SORTERS needed- Fareham
Simple Recruitment Services Ltd
Fareham, UK
Royal Mail Christmas Mail Sorters – Various Shifts Available!
WB Employment
Plymouth, UK (+1 other)
via reed.co.uk
Retail Assistant – Night shift 10 – 40 hours Christmas Temp
Primark
United Kingdom
Christmas Night Crew
The Entertainer
London, UK
via Glassdoor
    • Retail Assistant – Night Shift – Christmas temp, 32 hours
      Primark
      Kingston upon Thames, UK
      via Glassdoor
      14 hours ago
    • Day Shift Picker /Packer temp to Christmas
      Cluett Reeve Ltd
      London, UK
      via LinkedIn
      12 hours ago
    • Christmas Stock Replenisher
      C2 Recruitment.
      Colchester, UK
      via Neuvoo
      8 hours agoFull-time
    • Christmas Stock Replenisher
      C2 Recruitment.
      Port Glasgow, UK
      via Neuvoo
      20 hours agoFull-time
    • Youth Support Worker (Christmas Temp)
      TalentSpa
      Roxwell, Chelmsford, UK
      via LinkedIn
      19 hours ago
    • Christmas Temp
      C2 Recruitment.
      Pontardawe, Swansea, UK
      via Neuvoo
      17 hours ago
    • Youth Support Worker (Christmas Temp)
      TalentSpa
      Bracknell, UK
      via Recruit.net
      14 hours ago
  • Night Warehouse Operative
    Abacus Employment Services
    Thatcham, UK
    via Recruit.net
    14 hours agoPart-time
  • Xmas Temp Night Warehouse Operative
    CV-Library
    Worcester, UK
    via LinkedIn
    12 hours ago
  • Christmas temporary cover required – Luxury Day/Night Temporary…
    Payet, Rey, Cauvi, Pérez Abogados
    London, UK (+1 other)
    via LinkedIn
    8 hours ago
  • Nightshift Food Production Operative
    Search Consultancy
    Glenrothes, UK
    via Search Consultancy
    4 hours ago
  • Christmas Temp Van Driver
    Anonymous
    London, UK
    via Work Mums – Jobboard.com
    22 hours ago
  • Night Shift Picker
    Swanstaff Recruitment Ltd
    Cheshunt, UK
    via LinkedIn
    11 hours agoFull-time
  • X-mas contract NIGHT PARCEL SORTERS needed- Aldershot
    CV-Library
    Portsmouth, UK
    via LinkedIn
    12 hours agoFull-time
  • Temp Christmas Money
    Nouvo Recruitment
    Borehamwood, United Kingdom (+1 other)
    via Work Mums – Jobboard.com
    22 hours ago£10.00–£10.50 an hour
  • Waking Night Support Worker
    Search Consultancy
    Crewe, UK
    via Search Consultancy
    4 hours agoFull-time
  • Temp Christmas Money
    Nouvo Recruitment
    Borehamwood, United Kingdom (+1 other)
    via TopOxfordshireCareers
    22 hours ago£10.00–£10.50 an hour
  • TEMPORARY CONCIERGE
    Abbatt Property Recruitment
    London, UK (+1 other)
    via LinkedIn
    11 hours ago
  • Warehouse staff needed for Christmas
    Anonymous
    Mansfield, UK
    via TopLeicestershireCareers
    22 hours agoFull-time
  • Christmas Parcel Sorters – Exeter – 1am till 8:30am
    WB Employment
    Exeter, UK (+1 other)
    via The Top UK Jobs
    6 hours ago£8.50–£9.00 an hourFull-time
  • Day Shift Jobs in Lancashire,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Lancashire, UK
    via Freelance Job Openings
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Communications Manager Jobs in Ely,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Ely, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • HGV 1 – Parcel Trunking
    MAINSTAY RECRUITMENT SOLUTIONS LTD
    West Midlands, UK (+1 other)
    via Recruit.net
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Knowledge Management Jobs in Edinburgh,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Edinburgh, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • 7.5 Tonne Driver – Cambridge – WEEKLY PAY
    JobLookup
    Cambridgeshire, UK
    via JobLookup
    14 hours ago£600–£650 a weekFull-time
  • Technical Support Advisor
    Search Consultancy
    Sheffield, UK
    via Recruit.net
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Product Sales Jobs in Edinburgh,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Edinburgh, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours ago
  • Safety Jobs in Derbyshire,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Derbyshire, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours ago
  • Retail Assistant Jobs in Berkshire,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    United Kingdom
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours ago
  • Warehouse
    Brook Street
    Chelmsford, UK
    via TopCountyCareers
    21 hours ago£9.00–£10.54 an hour
  • Retail Jobs in Ely,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Ely, UK
    via Freelance Job Openings
    14 hours ago
  • N0388359 – Stockroom Assistant – Temporary – LONDON STRATFORD
    Keystone Jobs
    London, UK
    via Neuvoo
    10 hours ago
  • Sales Jobs in Peterborough,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Peterborough, UK
    via Freelance Job Openings
    14 hours ago
  • Class 1 HGV Night Driver
    Enterprise Driver Recruitment
    Oldham, United Kingdom (+1 other)
    via Totaljobs
    22 hours ago£12–£14 an hour
  • Part Time Jobs in Brighton And Hove,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Brighton and Hove, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours agoPart-time
  • N0388316 – Stockroom Assistant – Temporary – LONDON BRENT CROSS
    Keystone Jobs
    London, UK
    via Neuvoo
    10 hours ago
  • Warehouse Operative
    Blue Arrow
    Preston, UK
    via Recruit.net
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Warehouse Operative
    24-7 Recruitment Services Ltd
    Slough, UK
    via Neuvoo
    22 hours agoFull-time
  • Packing Operatives
    Meridian Business Support
    Shepton Mallet, UK
    via Neuvoo
    9 hours agoFull-time
  • Childrens Residential Support Worker
    Brook Street
    Wakefield, UK
    via Neuvoo
    17 hours agoFull-time
  • Packing Operatives
    Meridian Business Support
    Shepton Mallet, UK
    via Neuvoo
    9 hours agoFull-time
  • Childrens Residential Support Worker
    Brook Street
    Wakefield, UK
    via Neuvoo
    17 hours agoFull-time
  • Picker & Packer / Warehouse Operative
    Brook Street
    London Borough of Enfield, UK
    via Neuvoo
    17 hours agoFull-time
  • Warehouse Operative
    24 7 Recruitment Services
    Kettering, UK
    via Jobs
    12 hours agoFull-time
  • Clothing Jobs in Berkshire,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    United Kingdom
    via Freelance Job Openings
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Reach Drivers required for immediate start
    Proman
    Merseyside, UK
    via Recruit.net
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Cleaning Operative Jobs in UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    United Kingdom
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours ago
  • Customer Service Admin – Temp
    Macildowie Associates
    Alfreton, UK
    via TopLeicestershireCareers
    6 hours ago£8.70 an hour
  • Stock Counter Assistant
    C2 Recruitment.
    Wembley, UK
    via Neuvoo
    17 hours agoFull-time
  • Parts Manager Jobs in Ely,UK
    freelancejobopenings.com
    Ely, UK
    via Freelancejobopenings
    14 hours agoFull-time
  • Production Operative
    Staffline
    Boston, UK
    via JobLookup
    14 hours ago£8.21 an hourFull-time
  • HGV Class 1 Driver Needed TEMP TO PERM
    Venatu Consulting Ltd
    Castleford, UK
    via TopYorkshireCareers
    9 hours ago£10.25–£12.00 an hour

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Venus: The Dark Side – The Psychologies of Malice.

The most useful chapter in this book is chapter four, The Psychologies of Malice. The beauty of psychology is that by classifying human illnesses and disorders, you have more clout to deal with them and treat them. When you can name your opponent, you have far more power over them than when you are flailing wildly at an anonymous enemy. This is because others have written guidelines on how to help people with such issues and protect yourself from any fallout. Chapter four discusses borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, dissociative identity disorder (multiple personalities), sociopaths, psychopaths, and factitious disorder (Munchausen’s).

An aspect of this book that resonated with me was the discussion about what happens when you confront one of these dishonest, controlling vampires. I give Sheppard and Cleary a hearty amen for recognizing that our society allows such people to get away with their behavior because it’s easier to shrink away from the abuse than confront it, displacing the aggressor’s behavior onto her next victim. We are afraid to rock the boat, of being pushed out of others’ lives, of retaliation, and of the libel and slander that fall like acid rain when we take a stand against this kind of evil. From experience I can say that such women will stop at nothing to cover up what they’ve done and punish anyone who has the understanding or courage to expose them.

Despite its useful information on identifying dark souls in female form, this book has more drawbacks than its choice of b-word terminology. Even though the authors’ intentions are to protect people from sham marriages, they seem to forget that when you’re married, you’re supposed to share. Marriage and divorce are treated rather casually here. This may be because divorce is so common in our society and the line between living together and married has been blurred.

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“Time’s Up!”: Venus: The Dark Side

To quote from their introduction, the type of woman they are analyzing “…is prepared to hurt innocent men, women, and even children to get her own way. This ruthlessness takes the form of physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, or financial abuse… Many are nothing short of domestic terrorists: Al Qaeda in high heels and lipstick… Nothing is ever their fault.” The authors claim that ever since they first shared the title of this book, stories of such women came pouring in from both sexes. I believe it because I’ve experienced and witnessed the wrath of these unbalanced cutthroats, particularly the type who ingratiate themselves to men and terrorize other women.

While the above description of low to no conscience female aggressors is refreshing, I was greatly disappointed that this definition was attached to the word bitch. I understand that the word bitch is commonly used to describe unbalanced, vindictive, and violent women. But I more commonly hear the word bitch used to describe a woman who is willing to stand up for herself, her beliefs, her family, and her self-respect. It is also a word that abusers use against their victims frequently. So I believe the word bitch is a poor choice because it can be twisted to mean whatever someone wants it to and is usually used in a vulgar, demeaning manner.

The book does a good job of detailing how manipulative women go about finding and taking advantage of their victims. On that note, Venus is a crash course in recognizing the vampires among us and what they can do to you once you’re hooked. Sheppard and Cleary note that sociopaths gravitate toward “nice people” and that being a nice person “is seen as a character weakness to be exploited.”

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Female Sociopaths – Venus the dark side

  • Sociopaths are notoriously difficult to spot because most of them are incredibly adept at hiding their true self and their motives. Since childhood the female sociopath may have developed complex and often subconscious methods to deceive her targets. On the surface she appears excessively friendly and charming. In fact, an early warning sign is that you suspect she is too good to be true. She probably is.
  • “Occasionally she may let the mask slip. In isolation these incidents can be accidental, but if you witness a number of them, a queen of manipulation may be operating on you.
  • “She is an aggressor and she picks fights with opponents who have been duped into believing she is a friend or a lover. Once she befriends her victims, she relies on their reasonableness to forgive her transgressions. However, most of her actions are hidden, because she has learned to fight with invisible weapons and wields them with the deadliness and accuracy of a samurai warrior. Invariably, you don’t see anything until the fight is over and she has won.
  • “She is capable of being furious if she is ignored or is not given what she wants. She has mastered the art of expressing an opinion so forcibly and convincingly that it takes on the appearance of being a fact.
  • “Her regular tantrums involve swearing, shouting, intimidation and threatens. She will wear people down until, for a quieter life, they agree with her. Interestingly, what she threatens to inflict on others is what she would find most damaging and hurtful to herself. Equally interestingly, she feels criticism and humiliation intensely, even if none is intended or given, and she will fight ferociously to defend what she sees as an attack, whether or not there is one. Sometimes she will create a threat in her mind merely to defend and excuse what she knows to be her own dreadful behavior.
  • “She will expect you to keep quiet about her conduct towards you, assuming you will feel shame or embarrassment because you tolerate it. If you collude by maintaining your silence, it perpetuates her behavior. She needs her victims to stay quiet about her. Beware of allowing yourself to get sucked into this game. She’ll take delight in knocking you down a peg or two – for your own good, of course!
  • This attitude demonstrates a lack of concern for other people’s wishes, welfare and rights, and she matter-of-factly shows a blatant disregard for society’s rules, regulations and laws. A petty but common example of this is her blasé attitude towards parking her car. Parking restrictions simply don’t apply to her and parking tickets are stuffed in the glove compartment to be forgotten and left unpaid.
  • “Parking fines are not the only unpaid bills that mount up. When the bailiffs call she spins her sob story and plays the victim. Yet the moment they have been persuaded to leave she feels nothing more than contempt for those to whom she owes money. Her definition of a personal loan is often more like a donation; so don’t expect to see your cash again. Don’t ever open a joint bank account with her. She defaults on formal loans, and will almost certainly have a poor credit rating. She may even have stacks of County Court Judgments (CCJs) against her.
  • “She routinely fails to honor other promises and commitments. The consequences of her behavior are always somebody else’s problem, not hers. She is never to blame for anything and is highly likely to be one of life’s complainers. Because she’s out to control, she manipulates and punishes at will. She is the witness, the judge, the lawyer, the jury, the executioner – but never the accused.
  • “She may believe that antisocial behavior is justified because of her ‘difficult’ circumstances, even though she may have contributed to them. She will break the rules without a second thought, if the end justifies the means…”
  • “She believes she is entitled to everything she desires. With an overdeveloped sense of self, working for what she wants is an inconvenience. Hard work is for everybody else. She wants the fast buck and the short-cut to success. Becoming a social parasite is quicker than toiling for anything. And when she pulls it off, she can then congratulate herself on cheating, conning or defrauding others who may be more intelligent or successful than she is.
  • “Her every whim must be accommodated. Humility is alien to her. She is self-centered, opinionated and over-confident, and expects to be pampered and treated as superior.
  • “She has possibly dabbled at shoplifting to feed her sense of entitlement for whatever she wants and for the ‘buzz’. So obsessed with what she wants, she will ignore or neglect her children while claiming the opposite. She plays the martyr and expects constant attention. Her demanding behavior almost guarantees it.
  • “If she is divorced, she may have grown to hate her ex-husband more than she loves her children. She abuses the children by depriving them of access to their father, because she’s punishing him for not delivering what she wanted in a husband. She refuses to consider that she played any role in the marriage break-up.
  • “She expects her man to do what she wants to prove his ‘commitment’ to her, and will try to control all aspects of her victim’s life. She insists on choosing his friends, making him account for every moment of his day, making decisions for him, telling him what he can and cannot wear. She may even insist on watching her victims go to the bathroom.
  • They derive pleasure from putting others down and humiliating friends, colleagues, lovers and ex-partners. For some, revenge consumes their lives.
  • “If there are any times when you start to suspect that you are being used, she is equally skilled at making you feel bad for thinking such thoughts. Mind you, she will probably never tell you explicitly that you are wrong, except perhaps if you confront her. She may feign shock and surprise that you could possibly think such unkind thoughts.
  • “Unreliability goes hand-in-hand with her desire to control. Things always seem to crop up at the last minute making it ‘impossible’ to do what she promised. She is often brilliant at providing rational excuses rather than reasons for her behavior. She makes promises about a bright future but they are always promises of ‘jam tomorrow’.
  • “You find, too, that these women are stimulation junkies known for sexual promiscuity, gambling and taking illegal recreational drugs. If something gives the sociopath an adrenaline rush or makes her feel good, even in the short term, she’ll probably give it a try or become addicted to it. This could lead to high-risk behavior, with a reckless disregard for her own safety and that of others. She rarely thinks about the possible or probable consequences of her actions.”
  • “The most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one might imagine, at our fearfulness. It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy.”
    “These women want to create the illusion of intimacy quickly and are prepared to take short-cuts. They are full-on and their friendliness positively gushes. They often smile too much, but with their teeth, not their eyes. The woman will say all the right things and appear keen to be seen to make plans with you, but it’s a ploy to gain your affection quickly and hook you in.
  • “She will seem very loving and capable of intimacy and will pretend to care. However the intimacy, depth and commitment are illusions. They merely enable her to collect what she wants. Her true colors show only when all other tactics fail.
  • “She’s quite happy to steal her best friend’s boyfriend. It’s a great way to prove she has what it takes to be desirable, and simultaneously to prove the shallowness of the man and the delusion of her friend.
  • “The picture is emerging of a woman who must get what she desires at all costs and must always be right. Sometimes she will deliberately claim to misunderstand something to justify doing what she wants, even though she knows it is against your wishes. She may cause problems just to attract attention to herself, because she likes to feel important.
  • Creating self-doubt in her victims’ minds is an integral part of her approach. She plays on their reasonableness to give her the benefit of any doubts they may have. She knows that reasonable people don’t like to think badly of others and will often beat themselves up for thinking uncharitable thoughts. She always sounds so convincing. Her approach is intended to make you question whether you were correct in your thoughts about her. It slows you down. It’s meant to.
  • “Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door says, ‘The most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one might imagine, at our fearfulness. It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy.’
    “This is a key point. If you take only one message from this book, make it this one. She is probably brilliant at eliciting pity and knows precisely how to do it.
  • She may have learned these skills from a young age. Treated like a little princess by her father, she learns to wrap him (and others) around her finger. By learning to get her own way, she perfects the illusion of appearing fragile. She is anything but….
  • “She also appears so wonderful, sweet and demure, as if butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth. Of course, she is a chameleon, capable of becoming exactly who her victim needs her to be.
  • “She is meticulously turned out, expertly masking her inner personality cracks with flawless make-up, perfect hair and an extensive wardrobe, often paid for by past boyfriends. She may have learned to cover up who she really is by appearing confident and self-assured. Yet underneath this confident and highly manicured exterior may lie an insecure, inadequate and ultra-needy woman.
  • “How dysfunctional is the rest of her family? If she looks like the only sane one, she may be the only one who has managed to cover it up!
  • “The disguise is so good that nobody would ever suspect that she could do anything unscrupulous. Beware the woman who flatters without offering sincere compliments. Flattery has been described as ‘counterfeit charm’ and is usually a little over the top. She’s probably setting you up to make demands on you or to manipulate you in some other way.
  • “She holds grudges too. Her revenge and retribution can be savage and harsh. Surprise is her weapon. Expect the worst, then double it.
  • This woman doesn’t think twice about destroying the reputations, health and well-being or the livelihood of others if they represent obstacles to getting what she wants. She’s the sort who will force you to get down on bended knee to beg forgiveness and then take delight in saying ‘No’. She makes you feel bad to ‘keep you on your toes’.
  • Such women will not be happy until they have ripped the very heart and soul out of their victim. Even then, there is no guarantee they will be any happier. Sadly, most men ignore what their gut instinct is trying to tell them about her, because they think she wants them.”
    (The above contains excerpts from Venus: The Dark Side, Copyright ©Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary 2007. www.VenusTheDarkSide.com.)
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Female Sociopaths – The drama queen

They are also perfect on invoking a pity, able to act like a “drama queen” ( What is a Drama Queen)

In literature, the character Scarlett O’Hara from Margaret Mitchell’s Gone with the Wind would be considered a drama queen by today’s standards. This type of person is notoriously self-centered and self-absorbed, often viewing friends and relatives as lesser beings assigned to take care of her personal needs. Her worst enemy is solitude, so she tends to be very outgoing and sociable, although many of her friendships tend to remain at surface level. Others who have experienced the drama queen’s sudden outbursts in the past may have a feeling of walking on egg shells around her, not wanting to be the person who delivers upsetting news or offends her in any way.

Fake stories about ill relatives, previous abuse, etc are just a natural ways to them to play the victim.

It goes without saying that it is very effective strategy of attacking most males. But if “strong encouragement” needs to used on the final stage (for example to get the victim in the bed) it will be used just as ruthlessly as male seducers do. Those girls can force the victim drink too much or even put something into the drink, watch a provocative movie and then rush a man into the bed and brutally mock the victim to overcome their doubts and to force the intercourse no less effectively then male seducers do the same for female victims.

You will not be aware of the lies until much later. Like in war, there is a “fog of war” during initial meetings when neither party have adequate information about the whole situation and has only some vague hypothesis about the personality (i.e., you are facing incomplete, dubious, and often completely erroneous information and high levels of fear, doubt, and excitement). Here keeping daily log might be of tremendous help as it might slightly help to see though the fog. Still the level of uncertainty is high, which complicate rational assessment of the situation so delays with the reaction and keep your cards close to your chest. This simple tactic might in many cases be not detrimental, but advantageous. Actually studying war tactics which were discussed for example in famous Clausewitz On War (available free from clausewitz.com) and The Art of War might help. Among them (cited from Wikipedia):

  • The asymmetrical relationship between attack and defense
  • The nature of “military genius” (involving matters of personality and character, beyond intellect)
  • The importance of “moral forces” (more than simply “morale”) as opposed to quantifiable physical elements
  • The essential unpredictability of war
  • The “fog” of war
  • Notion of “friction” the disparity between the ideal performance of units, organization or systems and their actual performance in real world scenarios (Book I, Chapter VII)

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Female Sociopaths – Pathological Lying

  1. fast life strategy which includes an accelerated mating strategy, reporting more sex partners, more favorable attitudes towards casual sex, lowered standards in their short-term mates, a tendency to steal or poach mates from others. They are willing to engage is risk-taking behaviors including unsafe sex and substance abuse, a tendency to prefer immediate rewards, limited self-control, and a pragmatic and game-playing love style. The appears to be exploitative and highly opportunistic, in to life in general[, including mating and workplace behaviour.
  2. Compulsive, pathological lying. Difficult to spot if you feel sympathy or affection to the individual, but it always demonstrates itself in some self-contradiction especially about the facts of personal history; invented past and/or excessive boasting about past successes. If you attentive this is trait that is one of the easiest to spot despite all the smoke screen that such person erect before you. In more rare cases they are pathological, compulsive liars and lie even when there is no obvious need to it… such a behaviour is somewhat “creating artificial reality”. It represents itself as a consistent trait rather than an episode, like for most “normal” people.
  3. Manipulative, arrogant, callous behaviour is a norm, but is typically well masked. Complete lack of remorse and empathy are also masked and are difficult to spot untill it is too late. They are probably more manipulative and cunning then professional con artists. Actually they are professional con artists. Their personality attributes typically include superficial charm, unreliability, untruthfulness, and insincerity. Pathological egocentricity, selfishness, and related to those traits rejection of authority and discipline. Along with deriving pleasure from criminal behavior, they “really like getting away with it”—that “the ones who have intelligence, they don’t want to get caught.” Several researchers have suggested that sadism, defined as the enjoyment of cruelty, is pretty common feature of such individuals..
  4. Unreliability, untruthfulness, and insincerity. Please understand that betrayal and backstabbing are natural, typical behaviors for them, and they resort to it in situation were normal person would never do such thing. For example petty stealing when having money to buy particular item. As they have complete lack of remorse and empathy they can do really bad things smiling… If you observe such episodes several times this is an important warning signal. As Ian Fleming said (via James Bond in Goldfinger) “Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action” Kind of manipulation of reality that MSM are notorious for. To the pathological liar his own lies are reality, so he walks securely, is open and amiable inside this artificial reality of his life and past. Extensive, very complicated fabrications may be evolved. They have no troubles to lie then they appeared in court, False accusations are to be expected… Often the pathological liar lies not according to a plan, but spontaneously when the impulse seizes him/her. Under oath such a person can falsely accused other party of serious offences. For example, using drugs or a women can accuse her husband that he has sex with their underage daughter.
  5. Prone to fly into rages See Borderline Rage: unlike borderlines who often have difficulties controlling it, bouts of anger are consciously controlled and used as a very sharp weapon. Many of these women ‘appear’ normal in the public setting, but are verbally and emotionally abusive in the private setting.
  6. Inability to accept any responsibility for their actions. Typically they has little or no concern about the consequences of their actions. They are natural born risk takers, “life gamblers” if you wish. For them life is giant casino.
  7. “Courage under fire.” In high tension situations, that happens when police is on the scene or during court proceeding, they typically maintain their cool, behave rationally and are not prone to panic even in the face of dangerous to them revelations.

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Female Sociopaths-HPD

The components of this “psychopathic charm” is difficult to define. But you can easily see it in movies that depict such individuals. Women who have a closely related set of traits, but without personal fearlessness, courage and ability to handle stress typical for sociopaths are grouped under the label Histrionic personality disorder. The researchers of this disorder proposed a useful mnemonic that makes it easier remember the behavioral characteristics that are somewhat typical for sociopathic charm. Of couse this is simplification, but still is a useful simplification. This mnemonic phrase is “PRAISE ME”:

  • Provocative (or seductive) behavior; early and repeated attempts to breach the personal distance while not being acquainted for a long time. Often on the first meeting.
  • Relationships are presented as more intimate than they actually are. “We are friends, aren’t we” trick. “We are adult people, aren’t we?” trick. “Tell me what you expect of a woman in bed?”.
  • Attention-seeking behaviour, especially efficient when it comes along with physical beauty. Physical beauty is the trait that makes female sociopath so dangerous, as it disarm people. Direct and confident body language signals their interest in you.
  • Influence others and adapts to them seamlessly. They listen attentively, ask simple “ice-breaking” questions. Smile, nod, and occasionally offer commentary like “Uh-huh” or “Yeah.” Ask follow up questions as well. Ask for clarification or further details on stories and personal information.
  • Speech style is somewhat exaggerated, emotionally elevated with the goal to impress; lacks details, especially in their biography.
  • Emotional lability; shallowness. Light flirt.
  • Make-up, hair style, clothing, perfume, the whole physical appearance are well though out, elegant and are used to draw attention to self. They are always dressed up, sexy and radiate confidence. Such people are judged as better looking than average on first sight because they put more effort into their appearance, and the difference in attractiveness disappears when “dressed down” with bland clothing and without make up
  • Exaggerated emotions; theatrical behaviors. They have a sense of humor and often make other person laugh. Many people are attracted to people with a healthy sense of humor.

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Female Sociopaths

Her regular tantrums involve swearing, shouting, intimidation and threatens. She will wear people down until, for a quieter life, they agree with her. Interestingly, what she threatens to inflict on others is what she would find most damaging and hurtful to herself.

Equally interestingly, she feels criticism and humiliation intensely, even if none is intended or given, and she will fight ferociously to defend what she sees as an attack, whether or not there is one. Sometimes she will create a threat in her mind merely to defend and excuse what she knows to be her own dreadful behavior.”

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They roll over their victims like steamroller and feel nothing

The last sentence is impossible to understand by just reading this page, You need to see couple of movies depicting such a character and first of all Dangerous Liaisons In this film Glenn Close (she also presents similar, but more close to the borderline personality character in Fatal Attraction ) created an unforgettable character of a female sociopath (Marquise de Merteuil), while John Malkovich created even more impressive and pretty sinister and more convincing male sociopath character ( Vicomte de Valmont). The latter like often happens in real life is not devoid of some positive traits such as courage, ability act decisively and ability to forgive (in the final scene, when he is dying after being fatally wounded during a duel cleverly staged by Glenn Close character — Marquise de Merteuil ). Here you really see that a female psychopath approach to personal relations much like to a war of conquest. It is all about domination and power. There is no emotional attachment to anybody. Everybody is just a tool. We become slaves the moment we hand the keys to the definition of reality entirely over to someone else. And what female psychopath wants most is the power to define your reality. Often this is done via exploiting sexual attractiveness. This is not clear from the first watching of the film, but if you watch it the second time from the specific angle of Marquise de Merteuil behaviour as a sociopath, you can probably learn a few things about this condition. Similarly in Fatal Attraction you see how relentless they can stack the victim, using everything to keep the person on a short leash. Claims of being pregnant, cutting own wrists, you name it. They have no boundaries and are ready to go to the bitter end to achieve their goal. Like Green Berets or Terminator.

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Female Sociopaths

Female sociopaths are a class of its own. They are much more manipulative than male psychopaths. We will distinguish the term “sociopath” and “psychopath” based on physical violence: psychopath is sociopath who routinely or even predominantly uses physical violence. Often they are criminals.

Female sociopaths rarely use physical violence and can much better mask their real intentions then make psychopaths. They are more patient (although the term patience and sociopath are mutually contradictive — they are after instant gratification) and can hunt for a pray somewhat longer. Some of them considerably longer. And probably are more dangerous when you have them close by. As a rule female sociopaths are much more vicious and vendettful than man sociopaths. You can lean a lot about female psychopath by studying politicians. They are born Machiavellians. And, unfortunately, this is not exaggeration. They can break important promises and betray the partner, if it suits their needs, with such an ease that your jaw can simply drop. As bosses they cultivate “close circle” which is often selected on the base of blind loyalty, sometimes sweetened by sex or a promise of sex “really soon”. Most of female sociopath are sexually promiscuous.

Typically, they are somewhat sadistic, especially toward women — which means that they experience pleasure from suffering of their victims. Like all sociopaths they are natural born, talented actors and have the astonishing ability to tell bare-faced lies and remain calm, utterly shameless if caught. They also can preseve cool demeanor in really dangerous situation. This is the case with psychopaths in general, but with female sociopaths you really see the master class of this art.

Ruthless and conniving they can extort favors using fake pregnancies, injuries to themselves, threats to kill themselves, etc. They are really like a proverbial person, who killed her/his parents, and then asks for lesser sentence because she is now an orphan. While they are adept in masking their real mean and cruel personality some signs and discrepancies in their acting and in their life stories (which are always fictional) are often visible.

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