No one likes a self-absorbed person- at least most people I know don’t. Self-absorbed people do portray certain patterns that are similar to narcissistic people, and getting close to such people can hurt your self-esteem.
However realizing certain elements that define their character can make us more prepared for dealing with them.
Here are 15 signs of self-absorbed people:
1. They are always on the defensive.
2. They don’t see the big picture.
A self-absorbed person thinks the world is just about them. Thus, the world, from their point of view, is a place comprising them and perhaps a few persons around them who they can control. How the world affects other people really doesn’t concern them.
3. They are imposing.
They frequently use words like “should” or “must.” They want to dominate in any relationship because they see relationships as a tool for getting what they want and making themselves the center of attention.
4. They feel insecure sometimes.
They are not complete. They always have a missing gap in their world. And you may be the person they try to use to fill those gaps.
5. They always think they are superior to others.
6. They consider friendships a tool for getting what they want.
Don’t assume that they are overly concerned with the friendship that they have with you. This is why they have so many friends and are not overly concerned with the number of friends they have: they view friends as tools for getting what they want.
7. They are extremely opinionated.
It is always about their opinions. They do not want to consider the opinions of others; due to their self-absorption they are consumed by their own point of view, self-image, desires and preferences.
8. They do not have long lasting relationships.
Since their relationships are built around the idea of quantity and using people as tools to get what they want, they do not have long lasting relationships or quality ones.
9. They do not have a real sense of empathy.
Since their display of sympathy or compassion is usually conditional, it is difficult for them to understand the depth of true empathy or what this concept really means.