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What makes Psychopaths different?

What makes psychopaths different from all others is the remarkable ease with which they lie, the pervasiveness of their deception, and the callousness with which they carry it out.

But there is something else about the speech of psychopaths that is equally puzzling: their frequent use of contradictory and logically inconsistent statements that usually escape detection. Recent research on the language of psychopaths provides us with some important clues to this puzzle, as well as to the uncanny ability psychopaths have to move words – and people- around so easily. […]

Here are some examples:

When asked if he had ever committed a violent offense, a man serving time for theft answered, “No, but I once had to kill someone.”

A woman with a staggering record of fraud, deceit, lies, and broken promises concluded a letter to the parole board with, “I’ve let a lot of people down… One is only as good as her reputation and name. My word is as good as gold.”

A man serving a term for armed robbery replied to the testimony of an eyewitness, “He’s lying. I wasn’t there. I should have blown his fucking head off.”

From an interview with serial killer Elmer Wayne Henley:

Interviewer: “You make it out that you’re the victim of a serial killer, but if you look at the record you’re a serial killer.”
Henley: “I’m not.”
I: “You’re not a serial killer?”
H: “I’m not a serial killer.”
I: You’re saying you’re not a serial killer now, but you’ve serially killed.”
H: “Well, yeah, that’s semantics.”

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Exposin The Psychopath: The Mask of Sanity

Even more amazing is the fact that when psychopaths do get exposed by someone who is not afraid to admit that they have been conned, the psychopath is a master at painting their victims as the “real culprits.” Hare cites a case of the third wife of a forty year old high school teacher:

For five years he cheated on me, kept me living in fear, and forged checks on my personal bank account. But everyone, including my doctor and lawyer and my friends, blamed me for the problem. He had them so convinced that he was a great guy and that I was going mad, I began to believe it myself. Even when he cleaned out my bank account and ran off with a seventeen-year-old student, a lot of people couldn’t believe it, and some wanted to know what I had done to make him act so strangely!

Psychopaths just have what it takes to defraud and bilk others: they can be fast talkers, they can be charming, they can be self-assured and at ease in social situations; they are cool under pressure, unfazed by the possibility of being found out, and totally ruthless. And even when they are exposed, they can carry on as if nothing has happened, often making their accusers the targets of accusations of being victimized by THEM.

I was once dumbfounded by the logic of an inmate who described his murder victim as having benefited from the crime by learning “a hard lesson about life.” [Hare]

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The truth – when twisted by good liars, can always make an innocent person look bad

Let us assume that in a dispute, one side is innocent, honest, and tells the truth. It is obvious that lying does an innocent person no good; what lie can he tell? If he is innocent, the only lie he can tell is to falsely confess “I did it.” But lying is nothing but good for the liar. He can declare that “I didn’t do it,” and accuse another of doing it, all the while the innocent person he has accused is saying “I didn’t do it,” and is actually telling the truth.

The truth – when twisted by good liars, can always make an innocent person look bad – especially if the innocent person is honest and admits his mistakes.

The basic assumption that the truth lies between the testimony of the two sides always shifts the advantage to the lying side and away from the side telling the truth. Under most circumstances, this shift put together with the fact that the truth is going to also be twisted in such a way as to bring detriment to the innocent person, results in the advantage always resting in the hands of liars – psychopaths. Even the simple act of giving testimony under oath is useless. If a person is a liar, swearing an oath means nothing to that person. However, swearing an oath acts strongly on a serious, truthful witness. Again, the advantage is placed on the side of the liar. [Robert Canup]

This highlights one of the unique things about the psychopath: their seeming inability to conceive of the abstract idea of “the future.

It has often been noted that psychopaths have a distinct advantage over human beings with conscience and feelings because the psychopath does not have conscience and feelings. What seems to be so is that conscience and feelings are related to the abstract concepts of “future” and “others.” It is “spatio-temporal.” We can feel fear, sympathy, empathy, sadness, and so on because we can IMAGINE in an abstract way, the future based on our own experiences in the past, or even just “concepts of experiences” in myriad variations. We can “predict” how others will react because we are able to “see ourselves” in them even though they are “out there” and the situation is somewhat different externally, though similar in dynamic. In other words, we can not only identify with others spatially – so to say – but also temporally – in time.

The psychopath does not seem to have this capacity.

They are unable to “imagine” in the sense of being able to really connect to images in a direct “self connecting to another self” sort of way.

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The psychopath recognizes no flaw in his psyche, no need for change.

One very interesting aspect of the psychopath is his “hidden life” that is sometimes not too well hidden. It seems that the psychopath has a regular need to take a “vacation into filth and degradation” the same way normal people may take a vacation to a resort where they enjoy beautiful surroundings and culture. To get a full feeling for this strange “need” of the psychopath – a need that seems to be evidence that “acting human” is very stressful to the psychopath – read more of The Mask of Sanity, chapters 25 and 26.

Also, read Cleckley’s speculations on what was “really wrong” with these people. He comes very close to suggesting that they are human in every respect – but that they lack a soul. This lack of “soul quality” makes them very efficient “machines.” They can be brilliant, write scholarly works, imitate the words of emotion, but over time, it becomes clear that their words do not match their actions. They are the type of person who can claim that they are devastated by grief who then attend a party “to forget.” The problem is: they really DO forget.

Being very efficient machines, like a computer, they are able to execute very complex routines designed to elicit from others support for what they want. In this way, many psychopaths are able to reach very high positions in life. It is only over time that their associates become aware of the fact that their climb up the ladder of success is predicated on violating the rights of others.“Even when they are indifferent to the rights of their associates, they are often able to inspire feelings of trust and confidence.”

The psychopath recognizes no flaw in his psyche, no need for change.

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The Psychopath: The Mask of Sanity

Imagine – if you can – not having a conscience, none at all, no feelings of guilt or remorse no matter what you do, no limiting sense of concern for the well-being of strangers, friends, or even family members. Imagine no struggles with shame, not a single one in your whole life, no matter what kind of selfish, lazy, harmful, or immoral action you had taken.

And pretend that the concept of responsibility is unknown to you, except as a burden others seem to accept without question, like gullible fools.

Now add to this strange fantasy the ability to conceal from other people that your psychological makeup is radically different from theirs. Since everyone simply assumes that conscience is universal among human beings, hiding the fact that you are conscience-free is nearly effortless.

You are not held back from any of your desires by guilt or shame, and you are never confronted by others for your cold-bloodedness. The ice water in your veins is so bizarre, so completely outside of their personal experience, that they seldom even guess at your condition.

In other words, you are completely free of internal restraints, and your unhampered liberty to do just as you please, with no pangs of conscience, is conveniently invisible to the world.

You can do anything at all, and still your strange advantage over the majority of people, who are kept in line by their consciences will most likely remain undiscovered.

How will you live your life?

What will you do with your huge and secret advantage, and with the corresponding handicap of other people (conscience)?

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Psychopathy_&_History

If an individual has at least any four of the below in a very pronounced form, there are grounds for concern. Many people have a touch of several of these traits, but few have a majority of them in full measure. They are:

1) Glib and superficial charm;

2) Grandiose sense of self-worth; narcissism; seeing the self as the center of the universe; feeling “no one else is human, only I”;

3) Focused self-advancement without losing any energy on others except as stepping-stones;

4) No moral taboos or inhibitions as to methods, aiding career success until caught;

5) Need for constant stimulation, action, and new ways to avoid boredom;
6) Lying as an art form to fine-tune and a source of pride;

7) Targeting and manipulation of the gullible;

8) Enticing people they do not love to naively love them;

9) Skill at faking emotions, including love, sincerity and regret;

10) Doing good work and good deeds solely to advance oneself;

11) Ruthlessness and “stopping at nothing”;

12) Enjoyment of the power to coldly end close relationships;

13) “Getting” others back as a peak experience;

14) Desire for vengeance when spurned;

15) Pleasure in firing or ruining people. In the U.S., where highly profitable firms routinely cut good employees to boost stock values, there are professional terminators who roam the country cutting staff and personally firing them;

16) Abuse and literal torture of living creatures;

17) Humiliating others physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically or sexually;

18) Denigrating one’s own child or mate;

19) Callousness; lack of empathy and compassion;

20) Shallow or no feelings for others, even mates, children and friends;

21) No ability to feel remorse or undergo inner repentance;

22) Regret solely at being caught, embarrassed or punished;

23) Incomprehension of the angry reactions of those they hurt;

24) Underestimation of their own anger;

25) No sense of responsibility for one’s actions;

26) Parasitical world view: living by scams and not hard work;

27) Contempt for those who “play by the rules”;

28) Criminal talent, energy and innovativeness;

29) Warlike courage far above the norm;

30) Playing on the sympathy of others. To this one might add—in the purely subjective, non-scientific eye of many beholders—a curious dead look in the eyes of a psychopath, and that is the chilling part. Others speak of looking into such eyes and “having a feeling that nothing is there.”

It is instructive to check this subjective hypothesis by looking at famous persons, in still photos but especially on moving film or television. Is there a warm life form expressing itself through the eyes, or is there a flat, soulless gaze, not unlike that of a large insect or reptile?

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What issues do daughters of narcissistic fathers face in adulthood?

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Narcissistic Fathers: Dealing with Emotionally Abusive Father and Complex PTSD

If you are an adult child of a narcissistic father, this book is for you, and if you are not sure whether your abusive father is a pathological narcissist, you will find out.

If you read this book:

  • You will become aware of all the reasons why your childhood was so traumatic, sometimes without you realizing it.
  • You will learn how to deal with your narcissistic father without being his victim any longer.
  • You will find out all the dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors that You have developed over the years.
  • You will start healing from the symptoms of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder, a typical disorder affecting adult children of narcissistic parents, even if psychotherapy is required.

Adult children of narcissistic parents are often plagued with so much guilt and sense of deep obligation and shame that they feel duty-bound to keep whatever happens a family secret even when it is shredding their lives.

The solution is not forgiving or forgetting, but first of all understanding and working on your self-development, and finally taking back control of your life.

Book content
What is Pathological Narcissism
Types of Narcissism
Narcissistic Strategies of Manipulation
Pathological Narcissists as Parents
Signs of Narcissistic Parenting
The Narcissistic Father and the Roles He Chooses for His Children
Enablers (The Enabler Mother)
Types of Narcissistic Fathers
Narcissistic Fathers and Their Sons
Narcissistic Fathers and Their Daughters
Effects of Narcissistic Abuse on Adult Children
Protect Yourself from Gaslighting
How to Handle a Narcissistic Father If You Live with Him
How to Outsmart the Narcissistic Double Bind Strategy
Taking Back Your Power
Move Out from Toxic Environment: Practical Tips
Caring for Aging Narcissistic Father
Healing:
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) Symptoms.
Self-healing Tips
You cannot fix a lifetime of destructive abuses only by reading a book, but you can find the right way to recover and make the first step on your healing journey.

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Would a narcissist father have an enmeshed relationship with his daughter?

Yes. She could also replace narcissist’s wife and this is the worst kind of abuse, it’s a kind of sexual abuse (even if it’s not physical). Often the daughter develops a specific affection for the father with a correspondingly jealous attitude toward the mother. This is the so-called “Electra Complex”.

It happens when the narcissistic father is possessive and over-involved.

The narcissistic father sees the daughter as an extension of himself. His affection for the daughter is there because she is a part of him, and she admires him. This admiration reinforces the narcissistic father’s behavior…

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https://www.quora.com/Would-a-narcissist-father-have-an-enmeshed-relationship-with-his-daughter

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Insecure attachment styles and models of relationships

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Please keep in mind that the coping mechanisms the unloved daughter develops, as well as the mental models of how relationships work that she draws from experience, operate largely unconsciously. That is, of course, part of the problem because, unseen, they influence and shape the unloved daughter’s behaviors. At moments, she may have a glimpse of them — realizing that she pushes away or behaves defensively when she feels threatened, or recognizing that depending on anyone makes her uncomfortable — but by and large, they operate unseen.

Imagine, if you will, a sieve or a filter through which all of your experiences are poured; that’s how these mental models affect behavior.

If your working models of relationships are generally those of a securely attached person, you believe in true connection and intimacy, and you want both. This doesn’t necessarily make you a Pollyanna about love — you know that sometimes mistakes get made, and things don’t work out — but you trust your own perceptions and believe that other people can be trusted as well. You have a positive view of yourself and are able to comfort yourself when you’re stressed or down.

The insecurely attached daughter sees things quite differently. If her mother has been unreliable — sometimes emotionally present, but sometimes not — she grows up wary of both needing love and those individuals who could provide it. Her attachment style is called anxious-preoccupied, because she worries constantly about whether she’s loved, whether the relationship is genuine, and whether her lover will stay true or betray her. She is on constant watch for signs that things might not be what they seem, and that makes it more likely that she’ll both read into and react to words and actions more strongly than she needs to. She’s high in rejection sensitivity, which makes being with her hard, as does her temper when she feels slighted or in danger.

The two avoidant types differ in how they view themselves and others and what motivates them, and their filters are distinct from that of the daughter whose style is anxious-preoccupied. The avoidant daughter has learned, first and foremost, to protect herself from the pain of love and attention either offered up inconsistently in childhood or consistently withheld. This unloved daughter has learned that needing love hurts, and she acts accordingly, donning one suit of emotional armor or another. The fearful-avoidant actually wants connection — she has a high opinion of others and a low one of herself — but she’s simply too afraid of what might happen. She distances herself, is self-protective, and quick to flee. The dismissive-avoidant, on the other hand, is fiercely independent and doesn’t see herself as needing close connection; she’s proud of being an island unto herself. She actually has a high opinion of herself — she sees herself as strong, resilient, and above needing other people or their support — and a low opinion of others.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201711/6-things-daughters-unloving-parents-need-unlearn

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