The ego is usually programmed to want things from the place of the wound and is usually built as a coping mechanism. When unchecked, it’s desires come from trauma, and your soul always desires to heal the split, and become whole again.
Yet at the same time the ego will repress, reject, deny and disown whatever parts of you that made it “not okay” or not safe to be who you truly are.
So you stop being who you truly are, and start being a split part of yourself, always unknowingly searching to fill the void from parts of yourself that were once abused, disowned or rejected.
Whatever feelings, experiences, truths and desires that were deemed “unsafe” to exist, have been buried and forgotten inside yourself.
The thing is, the Universe works through oneness, so the wounds keep coming up until we integrate the wisdom, the bigger truth and GIFT as we unite with our shadow.
That’s why these disowned fragments of ourselves are the traumas that keep coming back to haunt us, unknowingly sabotaging the things our soul really wants, until we unify them.
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Here’s what you’ll need:
- Candles (however many you feel is necessary)
Sitting somewhere comfortably light your candles. Allow yourself a moment to meditate and relax. Once you are situated begin writing things down.
Write about anything that comes to mind. Put everything down on paper. All of the things that bring you happiness and where you want to be this time next year.
Write for as long as you feel is necessary but try to get at least eleven or so minutes in. Do this t 11:11 am or 1:11 pm if possible to keep the energies as balanced as possible.
Once you have things down on paper go over the things you’ve written down. What things stand out the most to you?
Bring everything over to a new paper that stood out to you and burn the old paper. Now, focus on narrowing things down to three main goals/points.
Close your eyes and really focus on these things, which ones are most important to you from the things you’ve carried over.
Once you have the three narrowed down give yourself a moment to manifest. Think about how important they are and allow yourself permission to make them happen.
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My friend Sandra is not the most frequent user of Facebook, and usually contacts me by SMS. So, it seemed immediately strange that she would contact me on Facebook Messenger early on a Sunday morning.
An unfortunate consequence of Facebook separating Messenger off into its own mobile app is that it has become easier for scammers to pull off the ‘cloning’ trick, where they gain a potential victim’s confidence by creating an account with an existing friend’s name and profile picture. No longer do they have to get you to accept a friend request from the cloned account, but a more innocuous message request. They can even deactivate the fake Facebook account after setting it up, but continue to use the deactivated account on Messenger, making it less obvious to Messenger users that it’s a fake. Continue reading “Scammers Cloned my Facebook Friend”
Marry! A Good Wife Makes Happiness, A Bad One, Philosophy
From the start, Logicians take their relationships seriously – their imagination and vision, and the challenge of getting to know new people, make them all too aware of how important it is that they’re involved with someone, and they will prove themselves surprisingly loyal. Even early in the dating phase, Logicians are unusually direct and honest, doing their best to express their mindset and create mutual understanding, believing that this shared knowledge will help to minimize misunderstandings and avoid conflict.
As their relationships progress, Logicians’ daily needs prove remarkably simple. Gifts, surprises, complex social plans and date nights are all fairly unimportant to people with the Logician personality type, but this is also one of their chiefest weaknesses – their partner may very much need these things, and it won’t even occur to Logicians to plan them out. For all their analysis and attempts at mutual understanding, Logicians are notoriously bad at picking up on others’ emotional needs.
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Psychologists say they have found that people tend to go for partners with personalities similar to their own, and that even when this is taken into account, people’s former and new partners tend to be alike in character. In other words, it might not be a complete surprise that your friend’s new boy- or girlfriend seems just as obnoxious as the last.
“The results revealed a significant degree of distinctive partner similarity, suggesting that there may indeed be a unique type of person each individual ends up with,” the study’s authors write.
They say the results may help predict not only who might get together with whom, but also the chances of a relationship’s success.
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We fall for people with similar personalities in the search for love, according to psychologists who studied romantic “types.”
People tend to think their preferences for romantic partners change over time, but this isn’t backed by evidence, wrote the authors of the study published in the journal PNAS.
To find out more, researchers looked at data collected in Germany over a period of nine years. A total of 332 people involved in the German Family Panel study answered questions about aspects of their personality: agreeableness, conscientiousness, extroversion, neuroticism, and openness to experience.
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People with Dark Tetrad personality traits — sadism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and narcissism — play games with their partners to break down their self esteem. To succeed, they sometimes recruit helpers to help control and manipulate their partners. Apaths fit this role very well.
Shannon Thomas, author of “Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse,” told Business Insider an apath is someone who is apathetic to the harm in their social circle, particularly if someone is being manipulative, hurtful, or abusive. Their role, she said, is critical to the narcissist’s game.
“An apath is the wing-person to a narcissist and plays a key role in normalising the toxic individual and their harmful behaviors towards others,” she said. “A narcissist must have apaths in their life to keep the facade of social normalcy going. Apaths create the illusion that a narcissist has friends, is well-liked and can get along with everyone, except the target of abuse.”
Rather than standing up for the victim, or giving them support in the fact they are being mistreated, the apath will instead be completely indifferent to their suffering. When challenged, they come up with excuses and say things like “it’s not my battle,” or “well, they don’t treat me that way.”
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Divorce can bring out the worst in people. It can cause even an exceptional parent to lose focus on what is best for his or her children, which in turn can cause the children to feel mistreated.
Some parents can’t separate their bad feelings for an ex-spouse from their feelings for their children. When those negative feelings bleed over, their relationship with their child(ren) is fractured.
A parent can turn their child’s anger over the divorce into acceptance if they are there to help their child cope with the stress of divorce. It’s important that divorced parents put away their own anger and hurt feelings in order to heal the relationship with their child.
A parent needs to set standards for themselves that will help meet their child’s needs. These standards, along with the help of a therapist can be very helpful when attempting to heal a relationship with an angry child.
Below are 11 guidelines for dealing with a child who is angry about your divorce:
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What your child wants from mom and dad during a divorce
- I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please call me, email, text, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me.
- Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty.
- I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you. If you act jealous or upset, I feel like I need to take sides and love one parent more than the other.
- Please communicate directly with each other so that I don’t have to send messages back and forth between you.
- When talking about my other parent, please say only kind things, or don’t say anything at all. When you say mean, unkind things about my other parent, I feel like you are expecting me to take your side.
- Please remember that I want both of you in my life. I count on my mom and dad to raise me, to teach me what is important, and to help me when I have problems.
Source: University of Missouri
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