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Are narcissists known for empty threats?

It is all the part of the abuse.

Narcissistic threats include :

-divorce (empty)

-leaving you(empty)

-telling your family you are evil (he will do this)

-spreading gossip to loose friends (he will) Continue reading “Are narcissists known for empty threats?”

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Narcissistic Threats:

Narcissistic Threats: You are CRAZY, I am going to tell everyone what a crazy bitch you have been to me.

Narcissistic Threats: I really have no interest in getting our kids. You do, so I will fight you until I die, just so you never get them.

Narcissistic Threats: I really have no interest in getting our kids. You do, so I will fight you until I die, just so you never get them.

Narcissistic Threats: I said till death do we part! You will never be free of me.

Narcissistic Threats: You made me do this to you if you only trusted me more I wouldn’t have cheated.

Narcissistic Threats: Come on baby… you know I didn’t mean it. I promise never to do it again. Just come home to me.

Narcissistic Threats: You are worthless! No one else will ever want to be with you. You better start being nicer to me or else.

Narcissistic Threats: You are just being sensitive! I didn’t mean that, so stop being jealous! Continue reading “Narcissistic Threats:”

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Beware the Narcissistic Sociopath

Narcissistic Sociopath is a Bad Combination

Sociopath and psychopath are words that commonly describe antisocial personality disorder. Sometimes they’re used interchangeably, but some experts differentiate between the two. Perhaps inserting narcissism into the mix might help people decide which term to use.

A sociopath doesn’t care if he’s benefitting anyone. Cold, calculating, and manipulative, he doesn’t think about others at all unless they can benefit him.

A narcissist believes he’s great, that everything about him is magnificent. He knows with unwavering confidence even beyond conceit that he’s benefitting everyone around him and more (Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms, Diagnosis.

In reading a wide variety of literature, patterns become evident. It appears that it is a combination of these personalities that constitutes a narcissistic sociopath. Further, it’s the description of a narcissistic sociopath that is the common conceptualization of the psychopath.

Source: Beware the Narcissistic Sociopath

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Narcissists, Sociopaths: Similarities, Differences, Dangers

SOCIOPATHS

Sociopaths can also be extremely charming and seductive until they get what they want (money, sex, connections, sense of power over someone). Then, they may disappear, or stick around and become extremely cruel or manipulative. Those with antisocial personality disorder (an equivalent term for sociopath) may be extremely aggressive and reckless, may be skilled con artists, engage in criminal behavior, and lack all remorse.4 Some enjoy humiliating and hurting people.

Yet many are not involved in the criminal justice system and instead are active in business, politics, or even community leadership. When they are involved in romantic relationships, they can be very deceptive about where they’re going and what they’re doing when they’re away from their partners. This also can be true in the workplace, with endless excuses to supervisors and co-workers. They are repeatedly conning and lying, so that very little of what they say may be true. Words are just a tool they use to get what they want. Their theme is dominance. Continue reading “Narcissists, Sociopaths: Similarities, Differences, Dangers”

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The Prototypical Narcissistic Sociopath

The scariest part is that people with this disorder will be hard to spot. They may be polished, well-dressed, successful, and charming. They may take part in charitable causes or charitable activities, not because they care, but because it makes them look good. To the outside observer, it might be hard to tell the difference.

In particular, people with money and privilege with these disorders may be particularly hard to spot. A narcissistic sociopathic business owner might default on debts or misrepresent what the company is selling.

Some will be physically aggressive while others may be harmful on an emotional level. Regardless of the harm that they do, these people believe they are exempt from the moral code that everyone else follows, which is what makes them so dangerous and so difficult to spot.

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The Narcissistic Sociopath

While a sociopath doesn’t think about other people unless they can benefit her in some way, a narcissist only thinks of others in terms of how they reflect back on her.

When you put these two qualities together, a picture emerges of a person on a quest for power and control, who uses the love and admiration of others as a tool to dominate and manipulate, and who goes about all of this thinking that it is his right and that he is justified. There will be no guilt, no apologies, and no remorse coming from the narcissistic sociopath.

Even if these behaviors land this person in trouble, or worse, in prison—he won’t stop. After all, it’s all just a game and the people are pawns. When he gets tired of those people or they aren’t serving a useful role in his life (his game) anymore, then he will cast them aside.

A narcissist without APD might have some ability to feel guilt or remorse and may be able to be helped with appropriate psychotherapy. A narcissistic sociopath, however, is unlikely to feel those emotions or be helped in a genuine way through psychotherapy. Therapy is a game to be manipulated and the therapist is a pawn.

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Typology of Revenge – By: Dr. Sam Vaknin

Typology of Revenge – By: Dr. Sam Vaknin

The need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways:

1.     Punitive-moralistic

The aim of this type of vengeance is to restore justice and, with it, the victim’s view of the world as orderly, predictable, and causal. Perpetrators should be punished; victims should be soothed and elevated; and society should publicly acknowledge who is who and mete out opprobrium and succour respectively.

This type of revenge tends to devolve into an obsession (intrusive, uncontrolled thoughts) and compulsion (an irresistible urge to behave in a way that is sometimes inconsistent with one’s values or even true wishes, or incommensurate with one’s skills, needs, long-term interests, capabilities, or wherewithal.) It is unhealthy and, in the long-term, counterproductive as it taxes the victim’s time and resources; adversely affects her other relationships; renders her dysfunctional; and, ultimately, consumes her.

2.     Narcissistic

Vindictiveness is the narcissist’s way of restoring his self-imputed grandiosity and of recuperating from a narcissistic injury. Having fallen prey to malfeasance or crime, the narcissist is proven to be gullible, ignorant, and helpless. This experience is humiliating and the circumstances of victimhood contrast sharply with the narcissist’s inflated view of himself as omniscient, omnipotent, brilliant, shrewd, and perfect. Only by bringing the culprit to utter ruin does the narcissist regain his sense of self.

Ask yourself if your bruised ego is the main reason for your indignation and spite. If it is, try to separate the elements of your conduct that have to do with your justified grievance and those that revolve around your unhealthy narcissism. Avoid the latter and pursue the former.

3.     Pragmatic-restorative

With this type of revenge, the victim merely wishes to restore her fortunes and reassert her rights – in other words: to revert the world to its erstwhile state by acting against her violator decisively and assertively. This is a healthy, functional, and just way of coping with the pain and damage wrought by other people’s malicious and premeditated misbehaviour. Continue reading “Typology of Revenge – By: Dr. Sam Vaknin”

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The drive behind the vindictive narcissist’s drama

The drive behind the vindictive narcissist’s drama

In Dr. Burgo’s view, all Extreme Narcissists “create and consciously defend a false self-image to escape from shame,” and they are thus prone to refute facts that don’t support their self-image, distort events and experiences, and tell all manner of lies. The vindictive narcissist has the same core impulse—defending him or herself against shame—but the need to triumph makes truth irrelevant. As Dr. Burgo puts it, the vindictive narcissist has a “distorted, defensive view of reality” and believes the lies he tells. Winning is all that matters.

His insight permitted me to see that I had been dealing with a vindictive narcissist during  protracted and completely unnecessary litigation to obtain a divorce. I now realize in hindsight that you have to be prepared—if you find yourself facing off against one of these people— because there will be no middle ground, no reasonableness, no mediation, and no negotiation. It will be hand-to-hand combat whether you want it or not and you must be prepared. The only other choice is to fold your tents and disappear.

Source: The Drama of the Vindictive Narcissist (and How to Cope)

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Advice on dealing with vengeance

Advice on dealing with vengeance

Needless to say, Dr. Burgo counsels us to try to avoid direct conflict with the vindictive narcissist if possible but he also rightly points out that we’re not likely to recognize him or her until after conflict has already begun. (Yes, this is very true.)  If you aren’t able to avoid further communication, he suggests a legalistic approach. Following are suggestions drawn from his book:

  • Keep written records of all your interactions. Dr. Burgo suggests that a diary-style log of those interactions can be very helpful, especially in court proceedings.
  • Be prepared to “find yourself painted a villain.” Dr. Burgo counsels that you not retaliate in kind but continue to hew to the truth. In time, the vindictive narcissist’s consistent behaviors will betray him or her.
  • Rather than responding to taunts or smear campaigns, picture the narcissist as he or she really is: a scared, defensive, shameless bully.

Source: The Drama of the Vindictive Narcissist (and How to Cope)

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The Drama of the Vindictive Narcissist (and How to Cope)

Horror stories abound, cautionary tales which everyone should be aware of, about the Vindictive Narcissist.

  • Years spent in legal chivvying, answering motion after motion, false accusations, thousands upon thousands of dollars paid to attorneys, bankrupting a former spouse emotionally and financially, with no end in sight. It’s a game of winner-take-all.
  • Even worse, years of custodial battles, back and forth to court, rife with abusive and manipulative tactics, children hurt and their lives disrupted, with litigation and upset becoming part of the fabric of their lives.
  • The adult daughter or son who finally confronts a narcissistic parent, sick and tired of being manipulated and marginalized, and becomes the unwitting victim of vicious gossip and innuendo, ostracized by family and friends alike, labeled a crazy person or unstable. Sometimes, that parent isn’t content to just wreak social damage but seeks to involve spouses, offspring, and employers in the fray. It is a highly personal vendetta.

Source: The Drama of the Vindictive Narcissist (and How to Cope)