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The Narcissist in Court

How can I expose the lies of the narcissist in a court of law?

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The Narcissist in Court

You should distinguish the factual pillar from the psychological pillar of any cross-examination of a narcissist or deposition made by him.

It is essential to be equipped with absolutely unequivocal, first rate, thoroughly authenticated and vouched for information. The reason is that narcissists are superhuman in their capacity to distort reality by offering highly “plausible” alternative scenarios, which fit most of the facts.

It is very easy to “break” a narcissist – even a well-trained and well-prepared one.

Here are a few of the things the narcissist finds devastating:

Any statement or fact, which seems to contradict his inflated perception of his grandiose self.

Any criticism, disagreement, exposure of fake achievements, belittling of “talents and skills” which the narcissist fantasises that he possesses.

Any hint that he is subordinated, subjugated, controlled, owned or dependent upon a third party.

Any description of the narcissist as average and common, indistinguishable from many others.

Any hint that the narcissist is weak, needy, dependent, deficient, slow, not intelligent, naive, gullible, susceptible, not in the know, manipulated, a victim, an average person of mediocre accomplishments.

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When does a narcissist cross the point of no return?

1. Level of sadism/paranoia. (these traits were suggested by another forum member)
I think the ratio of ASPD traits to NPD traits would come into play–and most ASPDs are at least somewhat sadistic. I don’t know what the percentage of ASPD traits would have to be (and maybe it would vary in individuals anyway) but obviously a narcissist with a lot of ASPD is going to be more sadistic, and therefore more malignant/psychopathic, and that’s the point where no self awareness is possible–when a narc becomes malignant or psychopathic. Paranoia would come into play too, as I think paranoia rises with sadism. The more malignant the narcissist, the more paranoid (and sadistic) they will be.
For more, please see my article about The Dark Triad. Continue reading “When does a narcissist cross the point of no return?”

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As Narcissists Age Does Karma Pay Them Back?

The answer to this question is ‘yes’. However, despite any acquisition or outer appearances, it is important to know that the narcissist’s karma – the intense emotional disintegration and pain from living a life out of alignment with self, life and others, is ever present.

One’s soul is not durably happy as a result of ‘getting’. Every soul can only reach wholeness as a result of ‘being’. The state of the inner beingness of a narcissist is disastrous; their emotions being ever reliant on the precariousness of obtaining narcissistic supply, are damaged and unstable.

As narcissists age, their out-of-alignment disintegration often extends to health issues as well as emotional and mental delusions. It’s also common for them to have financial disasters, as they lose the ability to hold up the house of cards that their life really was. Family and friends often turn away from them in droves – especially as the mask falls.

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard exactly those reports.

Let me just share this true-life story that encapsulates all of this.

A friend of mine had a narcissistic father who was a high roller – throughout his life he owned Sunshine Coast penthouses, fancy cars and married several, much younger, women.

As an old man in his 80’s, he married a young Asian lady. This lady got him to build her a home overseas and then divorced him. She kept the lot.

He returned to Australia with Parkinson’s Disease and dementia, and was under surveillance in the nursing home because of his inappropriate, and often nasty, behaviour toward staff and other patients.

His phone was confiscated because he constantly went on dating and gambling apps.

This narcissistic man ended up with nothing but humiliation, shame, and failure, and his family only visiting him when it was absolutely necessary.

If you know of an ageing narcissist who has fallen from grace, please pause this video and share the information below. Continue reading “As Narcissists Age Does Karma Pay Them Back?”

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When narcissism becomes pathological

Jose Romero-Urcelay is a forensic psychiatrist and the director of therapies at the Dangerous and Severe Personality Disorders unit at Broadmoor, West London Mental Health Trust. He confirms Vaknin’s theory that pathological narcissists are drawn to careers in finance, law and politics. He also treats numerous patients with narcissistic personality disorder. “It is crucial,” he says, “to distinguish between narcissistic traits, which may be advantageous – such as confidence, a need to get to the top, the need for praise – and NPD. Those with personality disorders are exploitative, and likely to cause significant distress to others.

” Typically, this takes the form of emotional abuse. The narcissist’s insatiable quest for attention (what Vaknin was the first to describe as “narcissistic supply”), leads him or her to seek out a steady source of admiration. Where that is in short supply, the narcissist prefers to inspire fear or hatred than suffer the nightmare of being ignored. And unable to empathise, they are indifferent to the consequences of hurting people.

NPD alone is seldom the trigger for violence; this tends to arise when it is co-morbid – ie, it co-exists with another personality disorder, often histrionic or paranoid disorders. But the case of Rob and Amy is far from isolated.

In 2005, Brian Blackwell, a promising student from Merseyside, was sentenced to life for killing his parents. Blackwell, then 19, had bludgeoned his mother and father to death with a claw hammer, and stabbed them repeatedly with a kitchen knife. He then left them to decompose in their living room while he took off on holiday to America with his girlfriend and his parents’ credit cards.

Blackwell pleaded guilty to manslaughter on the grounds of diminished responsibility. His lawyers argued that he had NPD, pointing to his fantasy lifestyle (Blackwell claimed to be a professional tennis player) and the swaggering sense of power that persuaded him to return from the US to collect his A-level results (four As) even as the smell from his parents’ rotting bodies was drawing worried neighbours to their door. Continue reading “When narcissism becomes pathological”

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Biting the hand that feeds you!

Definition: Don’t criticize or hurt those you depend on; don’t turn against a benefactor.

This idiom means that if someone is providing you with necessities, you shouldn’t disrespect them, be ungrateful, or criticize their behavior lest he or she turns around and take away what you need.

It is in your ultimate best interest to take care of those who take care of you. The metaphorical hand that feeds you may be providing you with actual food with a monetary value, with education, with health care, or anything else.

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Programming, Brainwashing, Traumatizing. Deprogramming, Recovering.

Psychopaths are hard to understand. I think it was hard to believe that anyone could be that scared of a child to research and implement such a program. But if we understand that everything they do is from the emotional space of their own wounded child that is completely trapped, that carries all their repressed anger and has no other outlet for all the negative feelings connected to their own abuse other than through power, it becomes possible to see they are afraid of the child locked inside themselves first and foremost, and by extension their child victims.

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Signs of Toxic Grandparents – Effects of Mental Illness

Effects of Mental Illness

The results can be devastating to everyone involved. Sometimes parents will put up with so much hassle from their parent because they understand that they are ill or crave a kind parent or a sweet grandparent for their children that they continue to put up with these behaviours over and over again. It isn’t always sustainable.

It may be that the grandparent has myopic vision due to their illness or mentality and cannot perceive what is happening from your situation. They cannot comprehend that their behaviours are harmful, exhausting or just over the mark. As a result, they cannot alter or control how they act.

It may be that they expect you as their child to handle all of their emotional baggage and question you when you ask for a break for the sake of your mental health and brain function.

It may be that they act in ways that are alarming and make you question the effect this is having on your children. Mentally ill grandparents or grandparents with a victim mentality will often not have the ability to self-reflect and see that their behaviours are not healthy for themselves, you or your children.

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Holding children hostage to demand money

The Financially Abusive Grandparent

You may see this as a surprise, but your parents/children’s grandparents can be financially abusive and not in the traditional sense.

As an adult, you very rarely have any right or say in how your parents choose to use their money. You are not allowed to access it, and they are not required to spend it on you, so what on earth is this?

Financial abuse in this sense may look like a form of ‘hostage holding’. A grandparent may offer financial support or accept a request for financial aid and then use this as a way to hang it over your head, create guilt or insist that they have power over your decision-making as a result.

One particular mother I spoke to explained a situation where she had separated from her partner and had moved to another town. She wasn’t doing well financially but was okay, sustaining her family and working towards a better future. Her parents/grandparents put money into her bank account without seeking her permission.

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Why You Should Stop Defending Yourself to a Narcissist | PairedLife